I monitor visitor behavior on my site... to see how they treat my articles... I spend a few minutes a week, in the morning. It often gives me an idea of what to write about, what to teach next.
This article is a result of that few minutes of looking today.
Oh, I mostly look at people who signed up to get an email notification each time I publish a new article... by the way. Those people have expressed interest, so I want to see what people who say "I am interested" are doing.
There are two kinds of "readers" that I have detected.
The first kind reads the whole article, reads the footnotes, and then returns later and reads the article again.
The second kind skims the articles. Skims 2-3 articles per minute, looking for something interesting to read.
We all want to know where we are doing, what we are going to do there, we want to make sure we'll be happy there.
What business to start. What book to read. What to get curious in.
But here is the problem: dots can only be connected backwards. There have to be dots! And forward there are no dots.
This is why almost all grand strategies are bound to fail or become a disappointment.
It's cold but sunny today, so I went out for a walk. I ran into a woman who was walking her dog. I know her somewhat. In the brief time that I have known her, she adopted two Chinese girls, started and dissolved a ceramics business, started working in not for profit...
Connecting the dots... Cognitive performance... Cognitive activity... what am I talking about?
Cognition, according to the dictionary is "the mental action or process of acquiring knowledge and understanding through thought, experience, and the senses." Acquiring knowledge means: it stays... NOT merely understanding. You'll see why later in this article.
As clients get better results nowadays, I am now really motivated to get better myself, to be able to help them get even better results.
So I read more books, watch more relevant videos, have extra conversations to home in on what isn't working as well yet as I hoped it would, and what would.
This morning, while I was measuring someone's starting point measurements, I wondered if there was another word for the desire measure. And it is... drumroll: entitlement. The person feels entitled to get from nature, from the universe, from the world those things that are desired without having to earn it, work for it, barter for it, compete for it... just because they are themselves. Knowledge, love, respect, compliments, stuff, money... It is almost always the same number as the lack of humility number, how much you think of yourself as the center of the universe, as it's about you, take things personally.
The higher those two numbers are the less satisfying life becomes, because you always feel cheated.
Every young child thinks that the world, other people, their emotional state and response is centered around them.
What would happen if they passed a law that no one can take money until the buyer says he/she has used and is satisfied with their purchase... because the product or program delivered on its promises?
Judging from many testimonials, the majority of buyers leave their testimonial before they test or consume what they paid for. They like the packaging, the color of the stuff... or the accent of the coach... so they are happy. With what? one might ask...
Putting a price tag on any product, service, or coaching is going to be a lie. My strategy sessions. My 67 step coaching. My health consultations. My Water Energizer. My Heaven on Earth...
Really, almost any product.
For one main reason:
The buyer creates the value for themselves! Nothing has value without someone saying so, without someone valuing it. So that means, that ((The issue is value or valuation. If we didn't have different values, if we valued everything the same, the world would be a lot easier place to navigate.
What is the "real" meaning of little hinges swing big doors? And what is the practical benefit of knowing it? And putting it to work in your life.
The difference between the 99% and the 1% is what we are talking about in this article.
You may or may not be able to raise yourself to the level of the 1%, but you'll move from wherever you are to a lot higher in income, life satisfaction, etc. depending on how well you employ this new thing... that at present you probably have never thought of.
Rob Brezsny writes: U2's singer Bono, says that all of us suffer from the sense that something's missing from our lives. We imagine that we lack an essential quality or experience, and its absence makes us feel sad and insufficient. French philosopher Blaise Pascal referred to this emptiness as "a God-shaped hole." Bono adds that "you can never completely fill that hole," but you may find partial fixes through love and sex, creative expression, family, meaningful work, parenting, activism, and spiritual devotion. I bring this to your attention, because I have a strong suspicion that in the coming weeks you will have more power to fill your God-shaped hole than you've had in a long time.
If you look at Bono's take on the human condition, that we are designed to be forever somewhat unfulfilled, to experience a gnawing black hole in our insides, what Bono calls the "god-shaped hole" a 3% truth value statement... then, muscle test says, the truth part is that some things provide temporary relief, reprieve from the feeling of that emptiness, but it is his list that is flawed... not the idea: him including meaningful work, for example, don't belong to the list. Neither does creative expression... the rest: it depends on you. Parenting could fulfill you, but often you don't know what the heck you are doing, so it leaves the hole unfilled.