“People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care”

...poet and filmmaker Jean Cocteau said.

  • 1. "There are truths that you can only say after having won the right to say them."
  • 2. "True realism consists in revealing the surprising things that habit keeps covered and prevents us from seeing."
  • 3. "What the public criticizes in you, cultivate. It is you."
  • 4. "You should always talk well about yourself! The word spreads around, and in the end, no one remembers where it started."
  • 5. "We shelter an angel within us. We must be the guardians of that angel.

IF THE ANGEL DECIDES TO COME . . .

"If the Angel decides to come it will be because you have convinced her, not by tears, but by your humble resolve to be always beginning; to be a beginner." ~ Rainer Maria Rilke

I sound like a broken record... but I must share when I can see more of what I need to see to train you to raise your vibration.

I have been seeing (concluding) that there may be a linchpin type of lock, measured in your starting point measurements... #11. To what degree you think of yourself: Continue reading "“People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care”"

Bored, listless, desirous… check your biology

Since it got really cold in Syracuse, NY, I have been having a difficult time maintaining a high level of cell hydration. Why? I keep my apartment cold, and I get sore throat from drinking cold water.

By last night I was running on empty. I had a hard time concentrating, I had a hard time having a good time. I had cravings... not food... mental craving. I had cravings for stories.

Last night I had wild and slightly violent dreams, and felt no desire to do any work this morning. I got up at 3 am.

So for the past three and a half hours I have been watching youtube videos... Continue reading "Bored, listless, desirous… check your biology"

How high can you go from where you are?

I monitor visitor behavior on my site... to see how they treat my articles... I spend a few minutes a week, in the morning. It often gives me an idea of what to write about, what to teach next.

This article is a result of that few minutes of looking today.

Oh, I mostly look at people who signed up to get an email notification each time I publish a new article... by the way. Those people have expressed interest, so I want to see what people who say "I am interested" are doing.

There are two kinds of "readers" that I have detected.

  • The first kind reads the whole article, reads the footnotes, and then returns later and reads the article again.
  • The second kind skims the articles. Skims 2-3 articles per minute, looking for something interesting to read.

Continue reading "How high can you go from where you are?"

Connect the dots

That only after you're there, can you then connect the dots. You can't connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever.More on connecting the dots...

We all want to know where we are doing, what we are going to do there, we want to make sure we'll be happy there.

What business to start. What book to read. What to get curious in.

But here is the problem: dots can only be connected backwards. There have to be dots! And forward there are no dots.

This is why almost all grand strategies are bound to fail or become a disappointment.

It's cold but sunny today, so I went out for a walk. I ran into a woman who was walking her dog. I know her somewhat. In the brief time that I have known her, she adopted two Chinese girls, started and dissolved a ceramics business, started working in not for profit...

Her older daughter is looking at colleges, and is frustrated. She doesn't know what she wants.
Continue reading "Connect the dots"

Long term memory…

Connecting the dots... Cognitive performance... Cognitive activity... what am I talking about?

Cognition, according to the dictionary is "the mental action or process of acquiring knowledge and understanding through thought, experience, and the senses." Acquiring knowledge means: it stays... NOT merely understanding. You'll see why later in this article.

As clients get better results nowadays, I am now really motivated to get better myself, to be able to help them get even better results.

So I read more books, watch more relevant videos, have extra conversations to home in on what isn't working as well yet as I hoped it would, and what would.

How do I learn?

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How to get reasonably clear of your past?

This morning, while I was measuring someone's starting point measurements, I wondered if there was another word for the desire measure. And it is... drumroll: entitlement. The person feels entitled to get from nature, from the universe, from the world those things that are desired without having to earn it, work for it, barter for it, compete for it... just because they are themselves. Knowledge, love, respect, compliments, stuff, money... It is almost always the same number as the lack of humility number, how much you think of yourself as the center of the universe, as it's about you, take things personally.

The higher those two numbers are the less satisfying life becomes, because you always feel cheated.

Every young child thinks that the world, other people, their emotional state and response is centered around them.

So when something happens, and something always happens! they are sure it has something to do with them, that somehow they caused it. Continue reading "How to get reasonably clear of your past?"

Do you want to be a hero or will you settle for being a dutiful serf?

What would happen if they passed a law that no one can take money until the buyer says he/she has used and is satisfied with their purchase... because the product or program delivered on its promises?

Judging from many testimonials, the majority of buyers leave their testimonial before they test or consume what they paid for. They like the packaging, the color of the stuff... or the accent of the coach... so they are happy. With what? one might ask...

I wonder how much these people value themselves and their money... My guess is: not much. Continue reading "Do you want to be a hero or will you settle for being a dutiful serf?"

Do you get the promised value when you buy something?

I had an interesting insight this morning.

Putting a price tag on any product, service, or coaching is going to be a lie. My strategy sessions. My 67 step coaching. My health consultations. My Water Energizer. My Heaven on Earth...

Really, almost any product.

For one main reason:

The buyer creates the value for themselves! Nothing has value without someone saying so, without someone valuing it. So that means, that ((The issue is value or valuation. If we didn't have different values, if we valued everything the same, the world would be a lot easier place to navigate.

Around the time of the second world war and the holocaust, an German boy puzzled with the same questions. Fatherland, Jews, peace... he had these heavy duty questions, and he saw that each valued differently. Continue reading "Do you get the promised value when you buy something?"

What is the “real” meaning of little hinges swing big doors? What glorious thing can it mean to you?

What is the "real" meaning of little hinges swing big doors? And what is the practical benefit of knowing it? And putting it to work in your life.

The difference between the 99% and the 1% is what we are talking about in this article.

You may or may not be able to raise yourself to the level of the 1%, but you'll move from wherever you are to a lot higher in income, life satisfaction, etc. depending on how well you employ this new thing... that at present you probably have never thought of.

You are smart... right? Well, no. Unless your life shows that, let's consider that you may be smart, but your actions aren't. Continue reading "What is the “real” meaning of little hinges swing big doors? What glorious thing can it mean to you?"

The god shape hole that keeps you wanting…

Rob Brezsny writes: U2's singer Bono, says that all of us suffer from the sense that something's missing from our lives. We imagine that we lack an essential quality or experience, and its absence makes us feel sad and insufficient. French philosopher Blaise Pascal referred to this emptiness as "a God-shaped hole." Bono adds that "you can never completely fill that hole," but you may find partial fixes through love and sex, creative expression, family, meaningful work, parenting, activism, and spiritual devotion. I bring this to your attention, because I have a strong suspicion that in the coming weeks you will have more power to fill your God-shaped hole than you've had in a long time.

If you look at Bono's take on the human condition, that we are designed to be forever somewhat unfulfilled, to experience a gnawing black hole in our insides, what Bono calls the "god-shaped hole" a 3% truth value statement... then, muscle test says, the truth part is that some things provide temporary relief, reprieve from the feeling of that emptiness, but it is his list that is flawed... not the idea: him including meaningful work, for example, don't belong to the list. Neither does creative expression... the rest: it depends on you. Parenting could fulfill you, but often you don't know what the heck you are doing, so it leaves the hole unfilled.

The idea that this hole is part and parcel with being human is valid empirically, and it also makes sense that a physically weak species can only survive if they have this desire to be more, to know more. Continue reading "The god shape hole that keeps you wanting…"