Vocabulary… Does any word added increase your vocabulary?

I have written about increasing your vocabulary, I have said it in coaching calls, I have been asking people to do what it takes, and the answer is... nothing.

One possible reason is that you don't know what I mean.

I have two students, one of them ex... 🙁 who, while reading books, wrote down words with their meanings, and learned them like a second language.

I, myself, look up every word on my kindle when I read, I not, and then promptly forget the word. I have to look it up again the next time it comes up. And yet, I "sport" an ever growing vocabulary, that has gone from 1000 in 2011 to 5000 nowadays.

Makes no sense, does it? If I don't learn new vocabulary words, then what do I do? Continue reading "Vocabulary… Does any word added increase your vocabulary?"

Why unconditional “love” is damaging, and why setting conditions is healthy… even loving?

My new 20-day skill learning challenge is to listen and internalize 20 videos by Hungarian, now dead, psychologist, Peter Popper.

Why am I doing this challenge? What will this give me?

I am self-taught... or more precisely: I have an education that is hodge podge, eclectic: I gathered knowledge from all over the place, and I have gaping holes, that until this day I had no idea where to fill or how.

The gaping holes are so big, that some of my students could slip through: Whatever I knew didn't help them to become all they can become.

With that said, I listened to a Dr. Popper masterclass on youtube, sadly, it is in Hungarian, with subtitles that you need to set to your own language...

Dr Popper's masterclasses, a whole lot of them, have 60% truth value, 30% of what he says fills in my gaping holes. Continue reading "Why unconditional “love” is damaging, and why setting conditions is healthy… even loving?"

From Que Sera Sera, a meandering path to no regrets

I left Hungary 37 years ago. And yet, when I hum, half of the songs are Hungarian, from before I left there.

I trust that when a song pops into my head, it is some kind of guidance. So when the song that was somehow related to the Counter-revolution in 1956, Que sera sera sung in Hungarian, when that song popped into my mind, I said to myself: pay attention. What is it saying?

I was nine years old at the time, and I was puzzled why the song would be put on the black list... I still can't see why.

I am doing a little research on google. Continue reading "From Que Sera Sera, a meandering path to no regrets"

Invisible dynamic: the concern, having your foot nailed to the floor

Do you get fixated on what's wrong with you? With what's wrong with the world? With what you want? With what should be?

Fixate or abdicate is the "normal" binary behavior. Neither behavior serves you... it serves the machine.

I woke up this morning with a start. I had a nightmare.

I was in some exam situation where I was slowly losing my ability to grasp anything. I could not follow the instructions, and then in a lecture I didn't understand a word the instructor, a woman with a southern accent said.

Everybody laughed, she must have been funny, but I could not make more than a word here and there.

I cried. I cried to the instructor after the lecture, if that is what it was.

After I got up, I started to think how I would solve this problem in real life. It is actually true about me that I have difficulties with accent, that I have difficulties with fuzzy audio...

Then I sat down to work, and looked at my site, and it started to dawn on me that this was a "teaching/guidance" dream: I am leaving people in the dust. Continue reading "Invisible dynamic: the concern, having your foot nailed to the floor"

You are always investing… Investing in things, investing in feelings, or investing in yourself

Some days I get a ton of offers for new marketing tools, and I get desirous... I want to buy, but then I ask Source: I muscle test if I should buy, and the answer is always "NO".

So I have been pondering what guides Source...

What investment is useful and for what? Is getting more visitors to my site useful? Not really, the return on investment is fragile... Having more visitors to my site won't forward my work, more visitors may put some pocket change in my pocket, but are they really interested in what I teach? Not that I can see...

Every minute of every day, every choice, ask the same question: is this for a temporary gain, or is this for a permanent gain. Is it for me, or is it for some circumstance I'd like?

Continue reading "You are always investing… Investing in things, investing in feelings, or investing in yourself"

What if reality is malleable and Transformation proves Quantum Physics’ theory?

With the start of the new Playground group two weeks ago I am beginning to learn yet another wrinkles in human culture? psyche? that I hadn't encountered before.

Not accidentally, I think, the people with that different world view, different thinking, are from different cultures...

  • Wrinkle #1: If my behavior makes me unhappy towards unpleasant or disagreeable things, what I need to do is change my behavior
  • Wrinkle #2: If what I am saying and how I am saying it is not reality, not real, then I must change what I am saying, but still say the same thing, but differently.
  • Wrinkle #3: If reality changed then what would also change is what is true! Oh no! Truth must remain truth! Baah!

Continue reading "What if reality is malleable and Transformation proves Quantum Physics’ theory?"

Do what you do today so your future self can appreciate the effort you made

I got this email about two, maybe three years ago... and today. Both warmed my heart. Today I even wept.

The first email from this student/client:

At this moment in time. i feel like i do not know what to make a mark in except to continue to groom the children and of course, take care of the me now so that the future me will appreciate the effort made...  ...in short a healthier me.

And I might add: a healthier you with more skills... more ingredients in the pantry.

Compare your attitude with this person's. You'll come up short, I bet.

This is my experience with almost everyone I deal with. Continue reading "Do what you do today so your future self can appreciate the effort you made"

Become all you can become? Why? How? Aren’t you already all you can become?

Yesterday I spent about four hours listening to Jordan Peterson. The material I listened to was a truth value of 30%... not bad.

In some ways Jordan Peterson, the teacher, and I, the teacher, deal with the same things: people don't see why they should learn.

Many reasons, I see, but one of them is fundamental, and also invisible, meaning it is an invisible part of reality, the part that is below the sea level of the iceberg. It's not hidden, as one of my students says... although Werner calls the process that makes it visible "unconcealing" suggesting that it is concealed, which is another word for hidden.

According to Kabbalah, 90% of reality is also hidden, so maybe I should call it hidden... but I prefer invisible... sue me if you don't like it. Continue reading "Become all you can become? Why? How? Aren’t you already all you can become?"

Spiritual Arrogance

1-spiritual-arrogance-pict-1Humans have a dual nature, a dual nature that is the enemy of growth, enemy of learning, enemy to the survival of the species...

Arrogance and pride...

Arrogance is duality itself.

  • It says, on one hand: I already know. I know. I am beyond that.
  • On the other hand: OMG, I am so stupid. I make so many mistakes. I better slow down, and not be so sure.

We call the arrogant side "it" in this article. And it talks. And it knows. And it pontificates...

What "it" says it knows? It knows everything. It knows if it is worth it to listen, if it is worth for you to do. It knows if you can. It knows the future, the past, what it all means, what it doesn't mean, what it's all about, what is important and what isn't. Continue reading "Spiritual Arrogance"

Are you the solution or are you the problem?

I am sitting here. In a few hours I have a brainstorming call with a student of mine, who is, who has been, who is proving to be impossible to train... and I am scared and angry.

This article is the process in which I change my context for the call, so I can make a difference... or not... Inside the current context all I can do is yell... Not what I want my life to be. So, here we go...

Useless vs Priceless

Or said in another way: are you the solution or are you the problem?

As a little boy or as a little girl, you made some decisions about yourself, what it is that you were supposed to get, how to get what you want. Continue reading "Are you the solution or are you the problem?"