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Stupid as stupid does. the saying that was at the root of me raising my vibration
I have known that my turnaround happened when I declared that I was stupid, in 1996, and I embraced it. Accepted it. Came to terms with it.
But I had no idea until this morning how I got to that point. Where the idea came from. Continue reading “Stupid is as stupid does. How this helped raise my vibration”
Feel better vs. Raise Your VibrationPlease remember that this whole series of case studies is interested in one thing: does the modality raise your vibration permanently.
Or does it only teach you to feel better temporarily… That is the only criteria that I examine here.
Why? Because there are plenty of feel better, flash-in-the-pan modalities out there. Modalities that enslave you.
Let me give you an example: A friend of mine ran his idea by me today: he wants to offer an on-demand coaching service, where people pay a monthly retainer fee and then a per-minute fee when they call for a coaching session. Continue reading “Case Study: Abraham Channeled by Esther Hicks”
Your Resistance To An Activator Is A Gift – A Case Study.Just like pain shows you where you are out of whack physically, a resistance shows you where you need work spiritually.
It may be more than just one thing, so don’t jump into conclusions. Pay attention and you’ll be able to peel it, layer by layer, like an onion.
Bee. had resistance to all the activators in the beginning.
Continue reading “Your Resistance To An Activator Is A Gift – A Case Study.”
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If you are like most of the people that visit my site, you came here in search of the best way to get what you want.
Healing yourself, feeling better about yourself and your life. Making money, finding love, or raising your vibration. Or maybe even becoming an Expanding Human Being.
And you, like myself, probably cannot tell one system from another.
Continue reading “For men are good in but one way, but bad in many”
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Whoever thought that the well-meaning positive thinking will become a prison and a sentence to a ‘no joy life’ for most who become a ‘practitioner’ of it, about 80% of humanity at this time.
Whether you know it or not, your powers of comprehension depend on your powers of distinguishing. Continue reading “Cancer: The unintended consequence of positive thinking”
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Nature is weird.
Osmosis is a process in which molecules of a solvent, like water, tend to pass through a semipermeable membrane from a less concentrated solution into a more concentrated one, thus equalizing the concentrations on each side of the membrane.
It is a lot like entrainment, at least in appearance… Continue reading “The Bottomless Pit that Greed is and entrainment”
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I wrote this article five years ago, but today I remembered it and here you go: I’ll republish it.
What happened? Two things. I now get asked for a health measurements muscletesting where the result is frightening. And the other thing is: I am taking Hyaluronic Acid capsules, and was pondering why Source said that it is good for me… It won’t make my face smoother… but I now have no heartburn, and I am noticing that walking is easier on my knees… So it is, in this regard a ‘shock absorber’ for my knees.
So that is how come I looked up this article and this activator I’ll talk about in this article…
And surprisingly, it connects really well to my Flexibility/changeability activator too… I like when things connect through and through.
OK, here starts the original article: Continue reading “The secret of changing: beat your projecting mind”
You cannot talk butterfly language… unless… Also: Lies by omission, lies by commission… are you a liar?Last night I was reminded how my nights used to be before I discovered Source energies. Hellish…
I am reading a book from someone, I still haven’t decided if I want to name that someone… or not.
Why? Because I am irate… so angry and envious… I am afraid to let it all out…
But I have to start releasing this tension somehow.
I continued this conversation with my Sunday morning buddy… if you want to hear the conversation, and how he transformed as a result of our calls, here is a link to buy the call
Single Sunday Call
Life is counter-intuitive if your source of intuition is your mind
Most of what you call intuition, isn’t. It is, in fact, reaction. Mostly it is the reaction of your reptilian brain.
The reptilian brain seems to have retained the memories and the learned behaviors of our reptilian ancestors.
You hold your breath when there is danger. Make yourself unnoticeable and blend into your environment. That, unless you are ready for a confrontation. Then attack first ask questions later. these are all from the reptilian brain. Continue reading “Life is counter-intuitive for your reptilian brain”
Every offer for something instant is a fraud. In every area of life… spirituality, health, weight, tinnitus, hair loss, erectile dysfunction, business, marketing, traffic, success, everything. But…
You flock to them. The main reason you come to my site is to find the ‘right guru’ for you… The right instant solution.
17 years ago I met a guy and we started dating. He was weird, he did hands-on energies, spoke with a breathy voice, and had a guru. He told me that you don’t choose your guru, your guru chooses you. He talked about shaktipat… where the guru touches you with a peacock feather and your kundalini rises and you have an instant enlightenment. He drank, took drugs, meditated, spent hundreds of thousands of dollars on energy attunements… I told you he was weird.
But he was influential to my evolution.
Through him I found out that I was an empath. He said clairsensar, but when I told that to people they didn’t understand… but empath, it seems most people know what it is… so be it, I’ll call myself an empath…
He told everyone how smart I was… I was a trophy girl friend, raised his standing in the world. Of course he was sure he was smarter.
He had… ok, let me not get ahead of myself. This article is what I found out about him.
Yesterday I learned that the answer was actually in my hands three years ago…I had it in my hands but I could not hear it. I republished the article with that answer… even though it makes me look really bad that I could not see it. đ
Yet, publishing, republishing is the right action.
Fixed mindset, a mind-bug, is what is predominant in society with parents calling their children alternatively smart or stupid… pretty or ugly.
Fixed mindset people raising fixed mindset people.
My mother had the fixed mindset, my father had the growth mindset. My mother called me stupid, and other names that don’t bear to be seen in a respectable publication… lol. She was an underachiever with two masters degrees. She was unhappy.
Parents often say to their children: you can become anything you want, but never say how, and why. Why don’t they? Because they don’t know, but more importantly, they don’t believe. My mother was mighty surprised at my success in life…
Society likes certainty, people like certainty, and knowing your place, and knowing other people’s place in the important areas of life is part of certainty.
You know how smart you are. You know what your talents are. And you now that you are good/not good at math.
My brothers know that ‘we are blunt and rude’… That is how we are… lol.What you don’t know is that knowing all that is the death of you. The source of your misery. Because now you have to remain that way.
Why? How?
If you think that there is a fixed you… a self-image, self-concept, you’ll protect it at all cost. Justify it. You’ll also refuse to do anything that the fixed you can’t do, shouldn’t do.
You’ll do every personality test to find out how you are, who you are. Get more and more certainty. You’ll send for my Starting Point Measurements, and hate me forever for it. lol. I am not supposed to rain on your parade!
You are a fixed thing with fixed qualities… and every feedback rattles your cage. Every time someone tells you something about yourself: you feel that they overvalued you or undervalued you, so you hide yourself from any opportunity or any chance to be evaluated. You are shrinking… and you are miserable.
You think that if more people found you charming, smart, brilliant, irresistible, pretty, a winner… then you would be happier. But you are mistaken… You would be even more miserable… after the momentary drug-like high of the flattery.
The guys fought me tooth and nail… that their IQ is set. That no one can raise their IQ. For most people IQ stands for smartness, for their chances for success, but these guys, over 70 years of age, like myself, have had a life to prove that they weren’t smart… Finding out that they could have become smarter is invalidating their whole life.
And you may feel the same way. You prefer to continue the way you have been, with fixed IQ and a fixed mindset, to avoid having been wrong.
Being wrong is the worst nightmare of a fixed mindset person. Unconfrontable. Feels like dethroning… It’s like public humiliation. It’s like pulling your pants off in front of others…
There is only the challenge, there is only the growth, the essence of life. Really, that is life for a growth mindset person. All good, all great.
Because nearly only fixed mindset people go to gurus, the gurus know what someone with a fixed mindset wants, craves, hopes for… and they oblige. They promise it to him or her.
Instant this or that.
You offer a process where you have to work, effort, experiment to produce the result you crave… a fixed mindset person is turned off by that and won’t pay you a dime.
But those are only helpers. Ultimately you do the work… Only someone who is doing the work can be helped.
I needed help. One of the things that helped me on my journey is exposing myself to different and diverse views of life, diverse views of the world. Different vocabularies.
For many years I was stuck in one world, architecture, and I grew more and more unhappy. I changed countries, but inside: nothing changed.
Inside that limited world there was no happiness for me, because inside that world nothing that was happening to me made any sense… or the sense it made, that I was insane, sick, wasn’t to my liking.
Then came my 26 years of Landmark Education participation, then Kabbalah, then energy systems, then Pam Ragland’s quantum mind sweeping, or whatever it’s called, Bach Flower energies, numerology, Peak Potentials, then my own work…
The fact that three years ago I could not hear it… is very interesting. I think what helped me to be able to hear it this time was my practice to listen to the 67 steps, and observe my own letting go of the fixed mindset in many areas, especially about being smart and stupid as the most important thing in life…
Without this new vocabulary word (distinction) I wasn’t able to diagnose what was holding them back, and wasn’t able to help them overcome whatever that was.
One of the symptoms I saw was them feeling ‘it isn’t worth it‘ or ‘it won’t matter‘ if they do anything or not.
The fixed mindset students are either sloppy or casual about energizing their water or eating only foods compatible with their body. Their health isn’t getting better.
But symptoms, fixing symptoms, won’t help… only finding the cause… and it frustrated me to no end, I was tearing my hair out.
The second symptom was: will they take steps towards what they want or not… And none of them did. They may have taken many steps, but none in the direction of their chosen goal. Taking steps towards what really mattered to them: that they avoided it at all cost.
I used to be like that… I was afraid to find out that I can’t have it, because I didn’t have what it took. Fixed mindset. So I didn’t do anything… and kept the dream as a dream.
In the fixed mindset you believe that there is a straight and obvious path to what you want. If you have what it takes, then it will come to you. (Manifesting?) If you don’t… well… you know, you’ll never get there. Or better yet, don’t even try.
I am certain that all the positive thinkers, all the law of attraction enthusiasts, all the manifesting wannabes are of the fixed mindset.
The growth mindset considers the journey, the discovery, the challenges life, and the results, the destination only secondary.
I still have a fixed mindset in many areas of life. Money is one of them. How to make money, what to do to make money, how to make more than I need…
Also my view of some people is quite fixed… sigh… To me changing this is more important than money.
They were inspiring, but none of those offered access to being like those teachers. There was NO vocabulary word. Instead: I saw that they were special. They had it. And I didn’t.
None of them said: ‘I have a growth mindset about my students, and you have a fixed mindset… That is the only difference between us.‘
And they could have said: just knowing those words will alter your worldview. And then you can practice and grow towards the growth mindset, and allow everyone you teach to grow in your care.
They didn’t say it, and i didn’t know it.
Whatever you can name accurately becomes part of your world, part of your worldview. No word? No vocabulary? That part of the world is outside of what is available to you.
In the Starting Point Measurements I offer, one of the measures is: ‘How many words are in your vocabulary that you can use correctly, where the word accurately reflects reality’.
This is one of the non-fixed aspects of a human. Of you. Of me. The number of words. The size of your world.
You learn a new word and the world opens up. The smaller your number the smaller your world.
Let’s say the world is 100… and your vocabulary is 30… 70% of what would allow you to navigate the world towards the good life, a life worth living, is missing from your vocabulary… and unless you learn new words that open up new worlds, you are stuck in your miserable existence.
Nothing wrong with that… I am writing my blog to people who are like me: something is missing and I can lead you to it.
Of course, if you have the fixed mindset dominating in your worldview, the gossipy stuff will interest you more, the vibrational reviews.
Before you can really benefit from what I have to say, you should make it your priority to move your mindset towards the growth mindset.
I have been, and I am still doing it.
And as I am increasing my willingness, as I am growing my capacity to be OK with uncertainty (HARD!), my intelligence grows, including my IQ, my effectiveness, and my enjoyment of life, of people, of my days.
Who would have thought that! lol.
It didn’t help me helping them at all. In my fixed mindset view I could not help them.
With this new word ‘fixed mindset’ I can see that inside that fixed mindset only heavenly interference will every be able to change that is fixed to something new that is also fixed.
It is a horrible affliction, and not in alignment with Life, the Tree of Life… it was taught to you. Why? because in the growth mindset you will become too smart for people to dupe you, to hold you down, to enslave you. That’s why.
PPS: In Landmark Education there was a seminar talking about the myths of I and is… Had Landmark Education known these distinctions, fixed mindset, growth mindset, there would be, potentially, millions of people more with the growth mindset. And humanity would be heading towards living in freedom. Personal freedom.
PPPS: Do the gurus know that they are taking advantage of your fixed mindset? My guess is that they know they are taking advantage of you. My guess is that they have contempt for you. But my guess is that they don’t know that they have a fixed mindset… that keeps them from ever growing, and keeps their vibration low.
