We had results across the board: some came away moved to tears, some came away and quit coaching... I'll do the course and refine it and tweak it and mold it, until it works for every participant. Why? I like challenges, and I definitely finish what I start... lol.
When stuff happens, you go to fear, anxiety, trepidation, anger, frustration... you lose your power. This article is about how to pull back your powers with the correct use of correct language... It is not affirmation, afformations, positive thinking, visualization, etc... those, in my experience, have no real effect, they only have pseudo effect.
The ABOUT mode of speaking
As you can guess, I have a lot of conversations any given week.
Most people want to talk ABOUT stuff. Explain to me what happened, why they did what they did, why they think what they think. They also ask questions about stuff... want explanation.
Most of what happens in school is ABOUT type of stuff. You fill your head with it, hoping that when you need the information it will be available to you.
Many things your mind refuses to take in, because they are "JUST IN CASE" type of stuff... and the mind can't think of a situation when it may be needed... like algebra, history, and such.
A student of mine is taking a massage course, and she is complaining about having to learn the names of all the muscles... Her mind says: "I don't need to know the name of the muscle to feel it, and massage it." so she is having a lot of resistance.
And then you read my articles, your come to my calls, and your head is in ABOUT mode and you can't switch, you don't even know you could.
What can you and what can't you accomplish in ABOUT mode of speaking and listening?
Reading and listening to my stuff won't benefit you in ABOUT mode. There is nothing to remember.
My words, my speaking is active, it is like a surgeon's knife. You can't store it, and you can't retrieve it, you need to allow it to cut you.
Some people write in ABOUT language hiding the surgeon's knife in the words... but they don't cut, unless you translate them to ACTIVE CUTTING mode...
This is what happened to me last night, reading Victor Frankl's Man's Search for Meaning... that supposedly 10 million people have read.
ABOUT language vs. ACTIVE CUTTING surgeon's knife language... the difference is ACCESS to action
He talks ABOUT the fact that most prisoners in concentration camps lost meaning to their lives when they could not see a future. And then he talks ABOUT the few that created meaning and how.
What he doesn't give to the reader, you, is ACCESS to create a meaning to YOUR life... Because the way he speaks, you are left with no meaning or your default meaning, which is worse than no meaning.
I had to read the few paragraphs in question a few times, and then translate it to my own ACTIVE CUTTING surgeon's knife language, and then USE it to cut myself open, for what he said some 50 years ago to make a difference for me today.
My example of using this solution... today!
From time to time things happen that challenge you, that make the future grim, or fuzzy, or scary, and you enter an incoherent mode.
It happened to me today when I checked my bank account and found that a large charge I didn't make made my account overdrawn. I felt incoherence coming on, fear, trepidation, and the muscle tension that accompany it.
Stupidity. I called the bank and I sounded like a dork. I tried to fax a document without plugging in the fax machine... total collapse of my cone of vision.
Then I did what I learned from the book (after translating it into action mode, ACTIVE CUTTING mode), and completed the actions correctly, without further bumbling like an idiot.
You can learn this solution on a webinar
If you would like to learn the one thing I learned from this book, the one thing I learned from this book, the ACTION that returned coherence to me, intelligence to me, power to me, meaning to me, then you may want to come to a webinar with me, where I will teach this to you.
I won't teach this in a coaching call, this is more like a move from my "Return to Power" a communication course...
I am going to record this call, but unless you are on the call you won't automatically get the replay... Instead you can buy the recording with an additional payment. Why? Because people on the call will "pay" with their effort to learn this new way of speaking. They will be exposed, they will make mistakes, they will risk to not understand it right away... instead you will pay with your money.
Name of webinar: Instant Coherence Solution
Date of webinar: Wednesday August 20, 4 pm New York time. That is 6 am Tuesday in Australia on Tuesday.
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