Living Dangerously: The habits that keep you feeling safe, small, bankrupt, and feeling dead UPDATED

detective-with-search-glassI had a one-on-one session with a student yesterday.

Sometimes I notice something “out”… something that doesn’t fit the picture, and just like a good detective, I latch onto it, and watch it, and if I can, I use it to unravel the mystery someone’s life is.

But sometimes it takes a while to really identify what it is that doesn’t fit… it is just a hunch, it is just a feeling… like the faint scent of death for a search dog…

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Queen Elizabeth is not a big mystery… at least not on this video… lol

I have a fully developed and controlled Reticular Activator… which sounds like a thing, but it isn’t… It is a capacity to hold onto the scent even when I am busy with other things… 1

Two things happen as a result of activating the Reticular Activator:

  1. stuff shows up to answer the hunch, or to gather more proof that there is something there
  2. paths show up that are off the beaten path… and you can choose to follow it or not

Search DogI always follow the off the beaten path if I had a hunch…

Does it always pay off? Yes… in a way. Some hunches turn out to be duds, others turn out the be the real deal…

One of the paths that opened up was in an Osho meditation (I give it to you at the end of this article): the 6th in the meditation series, this lesson is on living dangerously.

Where Osho says that unless we live life in the moment, accepting the danger of that, we experience being safe, small, bankrupt and dead.

Now, the big stuff you do to avoid growth is obvious… and I don’t want to write about that. The big stuff as staying on the footpath, saying no to risky experiences, saying no to try on a new group, a new sport, a new course.

You can feel that you are shrinking, so you don’t need me to guide you: you’ll do what you do, say yes, say no… and you know it.

But there are things that you don’t know because it is below the level of visible…

This article is about that. The actions you unconsciously take to stay small, to feel safe, remain small, bankrupt, and feeling dead.

close-up of a smiling manLet me return to the student… I’ll demonstrate it through her (and maybe through some other students as well), your job is to find at least one way YOU keep yourself “safe”.

The student in question is around 50 years old. When she was in elementary school, the boys used to tease her that she was ugly… Her response to that was to be embarrassed and giggle.

She is still embarrassed all the time, and giggles.

That embarrassed giggle keeps her from having to own her power, from having to stand up for herself, from being all she can be… in the face of no agreement.

-embarrassed-walrusIt’s a small, automatic thing… seemingly insignificant, but just like a tiny pebble in your running shoes, it is debilitating so much, that you can’t run with it. 2

embarrassmentAnother student has the habit to speak in a higher pitch, and be nice, when she feels she is exposed or she is doing something “dangerous.”

Discomfort-Food-Avoiding-Emotional-EatingYet another student always knows the answer, always sounds brilliant… a great strategy, (invisible to her as a strategy! by the way) to avoid the danger that life is.

Another student always has a question… Questions give the appearance that you are involved, that you are engaged, that you are living large… but it’s yet again another strategy to avoid taking action that would be a danger to your identity.

boy yellingWhat we see here is how aspects of your put-together identity keep you the same, keep you playing small, color inside the lines, and feel life slipping by.

I bet your first inclination is to fix it… to catch it and stop the behavior… But behavior like this goes deeper than what’s on the surface. It is based on an unreality, a delusion, a fundamental decision that you made, early on, that there is something wrong with you. And you were trying to fix it then… and have been fixing it ever since.

What if there was NEVER anything wrong with you? Could you stop fixing it now?

Not unless you develop the capacity to live in the context that there is nothing wrong with you…

That doesn’t mean you do everything right. That doesn’t mean you behave always rightly? But not right is not wrong… just ineffective.

Osho’s living dangerously meditation to train yourself in being with the discomfort that keeps you choosing dead every time

I am posting the particular meditation here, so you can have an experience of what Osho says about the same thing.

In the audio, if you can feel it, Osho comes from no emotion. The meditation leader, on the other hand, is experiencing trepidation, fear, anxiety, no peace.

I have listened to a lot of guided meditation audios in my life, and nearly all the “leaders” are faking it… they want you to experience something that they are not able to.

Just do the meditation… it can be useful. If nothing else, it will return you to your body. And if you could add just one “little” thing: notice that if you try to do it from the mind: it doesn’t work. But if you step back, and allow the Watcher, the Observer, to do the watching, you can do everything the meditation asks you to do.

Make that the center of YOUR meditation… experimenting what it’s like when you do it from two different places.

You are building a capacity with this. When you are able to watch the world from the Observer’s position, the little “ticks”, the little destructive habits invented by the identity, won’t come on… and little by little you’ll learn that your identity is false: it was created, by you, to keep you feeling safe, small, bankrupt, and feeling dead.

Here is the 6th lesson in the 21 lesson Osho meditation series, for you. Enjoy

and here are the instructions for what to do

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  1. NEW discovery! I am finding out that Reticular Activator only activates if the person has a fully developed Mental Representation of what he is seeking to find. Mental Representation is a catch-all phrase of full picture, detailed picture, detailed notion. Better architects have it, they can walk around in the building they are designing before it is even put to paper. Inventors should have it, or their work will be linear… not a good method for inventing. And you should have it, if you ever desired to build something intentionally, your life, your career, a skill, a future, a business, a dream, or send energy to a diseased part of you…

    Unfortunately and unbeknownst to you and the people who taught you to visualize, you don’t have the dna capacity to do that. This capacity is one of the most important predictors of future success. You see, if you can’t see it, you can’t build it. If you can’t see it, you can’t practice it ahead of time.

    The entire Psycho Cybernetics methodology is built on this capacity, to create Mental Representation of what you want… that is why only one percent of one percent is succeeding with it. But the ones that succeed: they succeed spectacularly.

    And this, the lack of this capacity explains why people are not getting what a distinction is… grrr. I can’t wait for my students to get ready for this capacity: it’s going to make all the difference with the people who are not succeeding as much as they could.

  2. Interestingly, last night I was on a webinar, and the creator of a product I have bought behaved the same way. I muscle tested her vibration and it was 100… WTF. She had to giggle, talk like an embarrassed little girl. And while it was seductive when you were 13-14, it is disgusting now. I had a strong inclination to return her product for a refund. Just because of that giggling!

Author: Sophie Benshitta Maven

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4 thoughts on “Living Dangerously: The habits that keep you feeling safe, small, bankrupt, and feeling dead UPDATED”

  1. The “instructions” link in the article is taking me to the instructions for the Day 1 meditation instead of Day 6. Could you take a look? Thanks!

  2. “There is nothing wrong with me.” This sentence switches off me fixing myself. My soul correction requires me to be myself and express myself in spite of the self doubt. I now understand the work.

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