Even when no one knows you have a hard time saying no.
How do I know? I just observed myself.
The price of being polite, agreeable, and accommodating
I was on a webinar where they showed how to use a graphics software and it was really good and really enjoyable. Then they started to pitch a bonus... I wasn't interested in the offer.
Yet, I caught myself staying on the call... and instead of just disconnecting, I tried to multitask: saying yes and no at the same time. I felt my shoulders tighten, and my stomach hurt.
Oh, I want to say no, and I am not saying it, instead I am acting it out... I thought, and then, finally, I hung up.
When you multitask: you are saying yes and no at the same time. It costs you...
When you are done, you got what you needed, and yet you keep on staying in the conversation, in the relationship, on the webinar, you are saying yes and no at the same time.
When you say "I will do it" but you know fully well you won't... either because you don't want to, or you won't have the time, you are saying yes and no at the same time.
Your integrity will kill you. It will make you suffer.
So, how are you going to pay the price? Through your nose, I could say, but that is not specific enough.
Here is the important thing to remember: Without integrity nothing works.
And by nothing, I mean not a thing. Your relationships, your health, your business, your money, your spirituality, your passion... they all suffer, and you'll pay somehow, and you won't make the connection.
Why? Is there a real cause and effect in the Universe? Maybe not. But your inner compass will make you pay for it, because it doesn't like to be indebted.
Small, even tiny lies accumulate and then the debt gets paid in one lump sum.
Or, alternatively, you never feel well... you never get out of depression long enough to start doing something.
Life becomes living hell... and you cannot blame anything other than your acccumulating white lies, multi-tasking yes/no behavior, your lack of courage to take care of yourself and say no.
Really don't know how to start saying no? Start small. Build a muscle. Muscle to handle the inevitable fear when you are learning a new way of being. Fear of the consequences, fear of being called rude, fear of losing out.
Until you have a large tolerance to act in spite of fear, your life will stay miserable, and you'll stay small. And sick. And dumb. And a loser... on many levels.
Oh, and your vibration will rise with this practice, guaranteed.
Is there an activator to help with this? Yes, the Harmonizer, or any versions of the Avatar State Audios are invaluable to retrain you to do things that are now uncomfortable or feel weird. Like saying NO.
These audios are energy carriers. The energy is the huge tunnel-like energy of the Universe: very very powerful, overpowering your negative inclinations.
The more you play it, on the more players, the better it works. I am playing it concurrently, on three audio players.