There are no good attitudes and bad attitudes, only productive and unproductive attitudes!
“The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company… a church… a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past… we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you… we are in charge of our Attitudes. ? Charles R. Swindoll”
Attitude… revealing it, changing it, tweaking it will make the biggest difference in your life, whether it is your attitude or others’
Attitude is everything. If you take two people with the exact same circumstances, one will thrive, the other will shrink and perish.
Attitude is your hidden relationship to things. But not ‘relationship as an outward issue,’ but an internal issue, an internal relationship.
An attitude 1 is relationship invented and expressed in language. It was invented, chosen, consciously, or unconsciously, in language. Mostly internal language, between you and you… you call them thoughts, but it is really a speaking you did… a decision, a judgment, a conclusion about you, about another, about the world. 2
You have as much control over your attitude as much control you have over your language.
Many people seem to have no control over their language, over what comes out of their mouths, because of no education, of no will power, of no discipline. Yet, even education, will power, and discipline respond to attitude.
Before you can change anything, including your attitude towards certain things, you must find out what’s there, or you build your new attitude on an unknown that may sink it.
We could say that my work has been about revealing, tweaking, and changing your attitudes
Most of the work I do on my coaching calls, is try to ferret out your attitude… but more importantly, make it visible for you. After all you need to see it, you need to own it, you need to see that your current attitude is unproductive. That it’s not helping you get what you want, instead it makes it impossible for you to get what you want.
Your current attitudes come from your current world view… so when we reveal the birth of your attitudes, we reveal your world view.
It is much like plant, soil, climate… they are so interconnected, you can’t change one without changing it all.
For example you have a rain forest climate. You cut the trees, you cut the brushes, and you end up with a desert climate. Same soil… but nothing grows.
Your attitude is like the climate. Synergistic. You can’t work on your attitude in isolation: your behavior, your results, your world view will change with it.
We could say that your vibration is a true reflection of the sum total of your attitudes
We could also say that your vibration is a true reflection of the sum total of your attitudes: your attitude to yourself, to others, to working, to learning, to making mistakes, to success, to failure, to giving and receiving, to helping and being helped, to your work, to your money, to your food, to your body… and of course the list is endless.
And most of your attitudes are shrouded in mystery… you can’t see yourself, and when you get feedback, you are offended.
So you decide to have a positive attitude on the top of undistinguished attitudes that you are unwilling to look at.
Positive attitude, positive thinking is the biggest reason people are unhappy and their vibration is low.
I don’t like methods or exercises that try to work on the whole general area of attitudes all at once… The best method, in everything, is poking holes and enlarging them. Much like the way you would eat yourself through a wall of cheese… lol.
Much like you would want to do everything: it’s not linear. Linear means there is a first step and a second… and a thousandth.
Changing attitudes, changing your life is not a linear process.
You find an area of life that isn’t working, or isn’t working as well as it could… and look under the surface in search of the attitude that makes it not work… this is how you “pick” an attitude to work on.
Powerlessness is an attitude. Settling for less is an attitude. Being delusional is an attitude. Trying is an attitude. Why me? is an attitude.
These are just examples, pick one that you see you can change.
If you need help, join my coaching programs… The Playground is the best choice for this, because it is gentle… REALLY.
Each time you see an unproductive attitude, you can start altering it right on the call. And with the changing attitudes, your vibration starts to rise. That is the secret sauce. And, of course, the energy tools are there to help, but you’ll do the work… The energy tools are like the wind for a sail boat. Without them you row more than you sail. With them you sail faster and that is what you want.
Another choice for ferreting out your attitudes will be my upcoming “What are your attitudes, skills, preferences, so you can pick your purpose in life?” This is a temporary title… I am sure we’ll come up with a better one in time for the launch.
manner, disposition, feeling, position, etc., with regard to a person or thing; tendency or orientation, especially of the mind:
a negative attitude; group attitudes.
position or posture of the body appropriate to or expressive of an action, emotion, etc.:
a threatening attitude; a relaxed attitude.
noun: attitude; plural noun: attitudes
a settled way of thinking or feeling about someone or something, typically one that is reflected in a person’s behavior.
“she took a tough attitude toward other people’s indulgences”
synonyms: view, viewpoint, outlook, perspective, stance, standpoint, position, inclination, temper, orientation, approach, reaction; More
opinion, ideas, convictions, feelings, thinking
“you seem ambivalent in your attitude”
* a position of the body proper to or implying an action or mental state.
“the boy was standing in an attitude of despair, his chin sunk on his chest”
synonyms: position, posture, pose, stance, bearing
“an attitude of prayer”
* North American informal
truculent or uncooperative behavior; a resentful or antagonistic manner.
“I asked the waiter for a clean fork, and all I got was attitude”