What is Worse Than Procrastination?

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selling your dreams for pennies

Exchanging the dollars for pennies…

This is a second article about procrastination and it deals with an aspect of “not doing what you said you’d do” that needs to be talked about: choosing something easy to do instead.

Something that comes easy to you, something that uses up your time, takes away your attention to what you said you wanted to do… and leaves you with no energy, no future, no self, no integrity, and no gusto, no elan, can’t find an English word… real pleasure in life.

So, what are the things you do, I do, to avoid growing, to avoid the discomfort of the action that would take us to where we want to be?

Plenty of things. Most of the things you do are actions like these.

The actions that cause small miracles are constructive actions. The below are ineffective, not-constructive actions.

  • The saying “a task fills up the time allocated to it” says a lot: a friend of mine does his “work” leisurely, so he is left with no time to learn new things, do the things he is not already good at… so at age 70 he has no chance to retire, and he has paid for tens of programs in the years I’ve known him, all programs he didn’t get to because he was busy doing his work.

    We could say that I am guilty of this type of procrastination myself…

  • Reading email, youtube, facebook, browsing, reading articles, even if it is on my site. If you are doing to avoid doing what would make you grow… stop it!
  • Friends, family, filling your calendar to the brim. If you have these get-togethers to avoid growing, to avoid the discomfort of becoming who you want to be, there is no integrity in your relationships, and it is “desire to receive for the self alone” and abusive. I am not kidding.

    If, at the end of your life, you see that you stunted your own growth to have yet another lunch, another this and another that with another person… you’ll have regrets, serious regrets. Not mentioning the persistent pain in your chest and difficulty breathing: your soul sits right on your chest and is making you miserable because you neglect your soul’s work… Was it worth it?

  • Busy making money… It’s living for the someday one day… that will never come. You can’t do today’s work tomorrow… and keeping your nose to the grind stone will never make you grow, will never make you fulfilled, will never make you an expanding human being.
  • Fixing: whatever it is, you are going to fix it, right now, without allowing yourself a moment to see if it is worth it.

Probably there are many other ways you do something easy to avoid doing the difficult.

I have said before and I’ll say it again: the most harmful and most frequent of human attitudes is UNWILLINGNESS. It only exists in the moment, it is the easiest to control: you just say: ok I am unwilling AND I am doing it… it goes away fast.

But you never give yourself that extra minute to not jump into some ineffective, unimportant action that serves no one.

So the most important thing for you to learn is to do nothing and allow some choice to show up.

Precrastination: Worse Than Procrastination?

When just doing something wastes more time than not doing anything.

Do you park in the first spot you see, even if it means a longer, grocery-laden walk back from the store later? When unloading the dishwasher, do you quickly shove all the Tupperware into a random cabinet, thereby getting the dishes-doing process over with faster—but also setting yourself up for a mini-avalanche of containers and lids?

In a recent study published in Psychological Science, Pennsylvania State psychologists coined a new term for this phenomenon: Precrastination, or “the tendency to complete, or at least begin, tasks as soon as possible, even at the expense of extra physical effort.”

precrastination testTo test the human capacity to precrastinate, researchers David Rosenbaum, Lanyun Gong, and Cory Adam Potts led 27 college students to an alley where there were two yellow plastic buckets filled with pennies—one on either side. On one side, the bucket was closer to the participant, and on the other, it was closer to the other end of the alley. The participants were asked to pick up either the right or left bucket, whichever seemed easiest, and carry it to the end of the alley.

To their surprise, most participants chose the bucket that was closer to them, but further from the finish line. That is, they chose to carry the bucket for longer. In the debrief later, many said some variation on, “I wanted to get the task done as soon as I could.”

The effect remained when the subjects were in wheelchairs, but it was lessened slightly when one bucket was heavier than the other. Overall, Rosenbaum and his colleagues concluded, “Apparently, hastening completion of the subgoal of grabbing a bucket made completion of the main goal seem closer at hand.”

Why do we do this? Holding a goal in our minds taxes our working memory, the authors write, and just doing something—anything—allows us to dump that memory faster. Last year my colleague Julie Beck explained how this works with unpleasant experiences: We’ll want to get it over with faster in order to lessen our feelings of dread.

We humans, in other words, pick the low hanging fruit. We do git ‘er done—even when it costs us in the long run.

So, if you got down to this line, remember: the most important skill you need to master is stop and do nothing for a little bit to stop this automatic avoiding behavior to taking over your life.

How, will the Avatar state audios help you get present the moment the “unwillingness” hits, and you need to hold the moment a little longer? I think so. And even if it stops you only some of the time, is worth because the more it stops you the more you grow. No kidding… It is not an all or nothing proposition. No one is perfect, but some people don’t expect to be perfect… they are happy if at least some of the time they can do something good…

Wouldn’t you rather be like that? Really…

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Author: Sophie Benshitta Maven

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2 thoughts on “What is Worse Than Procrastination?”

  1. I feel fresh/reborn/renewed after attachments were pulled very recently.

    I’m dumbfound, in awe—unable to articulate the overwhelming raw, honest, accurateness revealed in articles I’ve read today. To recognize the choices from this new perspective, in the moment they arise, and deliberately act differently, is uncharted territory for me. The enormous revelation about something I routinely do after a “new perspective” experience (recognizing choice then acting differently) hit me.

    The company I work for is family owned and (largely) family operated. Full of 24-7, high-pressured transactions/interactions in a totally dysfunctional environment… I precrastinate continuously. This pre-crastination has many forms too. For example, I receive a request from client I know will be difficult/complicated to fulfill and immediately put through request/order and respond back to client with “Got it. Here is the confirmation # for your order”.

    I “dump” unpleasant situation as fast as possible. However, this pre-crastination, avoidance action to do something-anything to rid myself of the unpleasant feeling, creates long term costly consequences. When the request is unfulfilled, at some point in the future, I find myself responding to something 10x more unpleasant regarding the order.

    For the first time, today, I pondered one of these requests for a few moments. The choice to respond differently to unpleasant/uncomfortable -all to familiar- situation presented itself. This was a first! Instead of usual response, my reply explained difficult/complicated component and our limitations. Yes, this was unpleasant. However, to act differently, in spite of perceived unpleasantness created an expectation -outcome match. The future complaint (10x more unpleasant) was eliminated.

    Actually, commenting on this article vs continuing to read more articles and commenting on most recent article written (or not commenting at all) is the result of acting differently. The article word for word “called me out”. With soul correction: “finish what I start”…. This is a small constructive action… Doing souls work. Small miracles… Thank you Sophie for making this possible!

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