The two kinds of laughs are
- derisive laugh 1
- benevolent laugh: the laughter of recognition
It all depends on who pays the price.
There is no laughter, chuckle, even smile that comes from any place different. The truth is, no action comes from any other place, but laughter is automatic.
The two places: desire for the self alone… or desire for the sake of sharing. Both are terms from Kabbalah, but they are useful distinctions.
Until you can recognize forcing, resistance, fear, competition as the dynamic underneath desire for the self alone, you’ll approach it with the mind, and because the mind is stupid, ignorant, the mind will answer from the prevailing culture which is pretentious.
So, you need to learn to recognize the signs of “not allowing”, whether it is in the area of politics, religion, wealth, who is right, standards and ideals, without judging them as right or wrong, good or bad.
And then look at them with the intention to bring “sober eyes” to it, observation, witnessing.
My own technique is to say Hm… and whatever I would say without the hm.
The hm creates a moment of pause, a distance, and instantly transforms the “what happened” as not me, no mine, not a big deal.
After a while I can even laugh at things that were making me irate before. Benevolent laugh, the laughter of recognition.
I have some so-called friends that laugh every time I make a mistake or encounter a misfortune.
It’s unconscious… you can’t control it. You can pretend a lot, but your laughter gives you away.
Now, what if you are laughing about yourself?
Is that always desire for the sake of sharing? Not at all.
There is a melody to benevolence, and a sharpness of derisiveness.
Learn to tell the difference. Watch other people… again, don’t judge, just observe, and try to tell which laugh you heard, which smile, grin, smirk you saw.
You don’t have to be present to everything. Be present to what forwards your life, what enriches your experiences, what will make your life better. The rest… f… it.
Oh, and trust yourself.
The Unconditional Love Activator will help you to build trust with yourself. Lasting trust. So you can trust yourself every step of the way.