Respect: look again… but this time differently


In the movie, Stranger Than Fiction, 1 our hero is doing what he is doing, unconsciously.

When Harold Crick, the hero of the movie, starts hearing the narrating voice in his head, what the voice says takes him out of his unconsciousness, his usual way of doing things, going through life like a drone, and this changes his life.

stranger-than-fiction-posterAt the end of the movie, no one thought about asking this question: who is going to provide him with the voice of sober observation, once the book is finished? A voice that has a sideways view

My hunch: he will go back, slowly but surely, into machine-like being, his consciousness will go back to sleep.

But you, because of this article, still have a chance. You can provide yourself with the narration yourself, now that you know how brilliantly effective it is, and when and if you remember to do it.

Your Observer, or your Witness, is voice-less, non-verbal. You need to add the voice track yourself.

Your only concern should be not to add adjectives. Adjectives are subjective, and will not serve you.

Example: you are trying to fill a bottle with water. Your attention wonders and the bottle overflows.

If the narration is: I am clumsy, good for nothing… would that serve you? Did that happen? Is that really observation and narration? No.

Narration, real narration is: I am filling the bottle. Attention wonders. Bottle overflows. Hm. Attention returned. Wiping, correcting. All is well.

Or another example: You wake up and you hate your life. Observer says: I am waking up and am filled with feelings of hatred for the life I live. What is it like? Mundane? Boring? Meaningless? What does my hero do that makes life not mundane? Not boring? That makes it worth their while to perform, to go through the day of maybe tedium? There is someone who depends on them? OK… that is a big difference. How can I have someone or something that depends on me? Do I already have something or someone who I have been letting down, but it would be simple to rekindle my commitment to it/them?

A deep connection.

Do you see the looking again?

That last example was mine, and it was about this very morning. Finding someone or someones who I’d let out if I died is one answer to that question. Or strengthening the something I already have.

One of my students wrote to me that he feels lonely. That I should take on the task of matchmaking.

Observe your thoughts… they all went to romantic love right away… am I correct?

But what if sharing, being seen (and accepted) is so elementary, and yet we are afraid to be connected?

The beingness of being connected

I am going to try on (for size) the beingness of “being connected” to see if it can be achieved without romance, without frequency, without giving up my solitude, without giving up my work, without even talking about my work.

This, looking again at societal cliches, looking again but differently, is respect. Looking again. This time differently.

You should try it. It’s revolutionary.



  1. Stranger than Fiction (2006 film) – Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

    Stranger than Fiction is a 2006 American comedy-drama-fantasy film directed by Marc Forster, written by Zach Helm, and starring Will Ferrell, Maggie Gyllenhaal …

Author: Sophie Benshitta Maven

True empath, award winning architect, magazine publisher, transformational and spiritual coach and teacher, self declared Avatar

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