What is transformation? How does transformation help you to live a life of purpose, grace and ease? And how is transfiguration a whole different ball of wax?
I have been participating in transformation or transformational technology for 26 years…
There are two parts to transformation:
When you, as a human being, are fragmented, what happens that different aspects, and sometimes different physical parts of you don’t share information, and act as if they were alone responsible for running your life.
One aspect is the triune brain: the reptilian brain, the one that reacts with fight or flight, doesn’t let the rest of the brain in on what makes it react, and because of the lack of the communication it takes the rein and runs your life when it’s the most inconvenient and costly to you: when you want to accomplish something that feels risky.
My brother, Laci, work for me. Often, the tasks he needs to do for me can only be done on my computer.
We use a software, a kind of technical support type of software, where the remote person can operate the other computer as their own.
When that is happening, the “support person” has control over the mouse… except that a minute ago, while my brother was on break, I was working on preparing the work to make his job easier… at some point I watched the cursor move inconsistent with my intention. He returned and wanted to resume his work, but the mouse would not do his bidding… this is how a tug of war happens inside you when two opposing forces, the reptilian brain and the conscious intention battle it out for control.
My experience is that the reptilian brain wins all the time… unless…
2. this is where the second part of transformation comes in: tools.
I will return to unconcealing, but let me put this here, where it belongs: tools of transformation are the moves that you can use to wrestle back the control to your conscious mind, so you can go out and take risks, apologize, forgive, praise, transcend, etc.
Back to unconcealing:
a transformational program can also show you what’s underneath the water-line of your iceberg: the driving force behind your actions that leave you puzzled and confounded, or just plain disempowered, repeating ineffective or damaging actions, over and over again.
When you see how things work, the inside work of your machine, you have an instant surge of power, and access to the toolbox to dismantle, for a moment, the machine, or effective methods to wrestle the control back.
Transformation is work. Transformation requires vigilance. Transformation requires you to become high-minded.
a number of years ago I had lunch with a transformational seminar leader. She was a masterful wielder of transformational tools, and a great teacher. I loved her, no, I admired her.
She was bummed out. I asked what was going on, and she said that she was considering quitting leading seminars because the corporate-type students have started to use transformational tools to increase their power over others, to increase their monopoly, all things she despised and was personally disapproving of.
As you see, a tool is neither good or bad, it is the person’s intention that makes it useful or damaging.
One tool/unconcealing I have encountered, for example, is that “people are an open invitation to be manipulated, coerced or forced” in most any human relationship. And it is up to you to notice and take back your power, and it is up to you to conform to that social norm, or refrain from it.
How is that for unconcealing? I remember reeling from it for years!
Why do human being do that? I still can’t fathom, but they do, and depending on their life-script, they either go with the force or resist it, but in either case the manipulator has his hands on the controls.
And the controls were handed over voluntarily!
One example to this is how children misbehave in order to get your attention. You let them: you lose. You resist them: you lose. Do you know what I am talking about?
Transformation is hard work, and transformation is like a shot in the arm at the right moment, but the effects of the shot wear off, and you need another one next time the same situation arises.
That is why the saying is true: Yesterday’s transformation is today’s arrogance.
That’s why people engaged in transformation share their transformational moments… because it was an achievement, time and time again. Because it was in spite of who they are… because who they are did not change. They are the same person with better tools.
PS: I did a search on google for transformation. Most of the results I got were for gender transformation.
Now, though that is a very interesting topic, it is quite out of the scope of this work. But:
I have a client/friend. She is a transgender: some 34 years ago her grandmother suggested that she needed to choose, and make it permanent. So she underwent a male to female operation.
Today she has breast filled with silicone, and convincing female looks. But her personality did not become female, her consciousness is not female, and her inner drives are gay drives. She is out of place, has something to hide, and her “below the water line” identity is a gay male.
This is changing form, not transformation… you see?