This is an interaction from yesterday, with a student of mine who has this same problem.
He says: I can't even explain how I need and want to allow more knowledge in and execute it in my life. You are right my lack of humility is preventing me from doing anything new. It is so tough when I want to learn more but I can't get it to stick.
My answer: it may not be true now. humility is on right now.
watch a video or something while it's still on
he asks: How do you approach reading or listening to a recording?
I answer: I empty myself of all knowledge, all opinion, all pride
he says: Yes I never looked at humility this way either. Now that I look at it I can see myself having opinion I didn't even see until now it's running in the background. How sad is this that you have been telling me this and I was only looking at my way. Let's see if I can empty myself now.
Here is what Rob Brezsny suggests. Curiosity, good listening skills is the opposite of arrogance.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): You are entering the inquisitive phase of your astrological cycle. One of the best ways to thrive during the coming weeks will be to ask more questions than you have asked since you were five years old. Curiosity and good listening skills will be superpowers that you should strive to activate. For now, what matters most is not what you already know but rather what you need to find out. It's a favorable time to gather information about riddles and mysteries that have perplexed you for a long time. Be super-receptive and extra wide-eyed!
This is one part of the problem.
Another student, after she watched the workshop from Sunday, is pondering what she wants and what is in the way.
Now, I talk about the iceberg... that is what is in the way. Your life is the Titanic, colliding over and over with the iceberg that sinks your ship.
And over and over you only look at the tip of the iceberg.
Surprisingly this is also humility. Or lack of it, really.
Now, we could say that ego tells you not to listen, ego tells you that you already know everything there is to know, for you. And then you come to my classes, and leave with nothing.
And you do this, over and over.
The tip of the iceberg may be as different as your fingertip, but what's under the water level is always arrogance, and then even deeper than that, there is a unique part again... your decision you made about yourself, as a young child.
But, listen up, that arrogance is the gatekeeper. It doesn't want you to dive, because ego is interested in one thing: for you to stay the same. Broke, desperate, miserable, lonely, fat, stupid, a coward, a nebbich 1. Whatever you have been.
No matter how many strategies you have for fighting the tip of the iceberg.
If there were nothing under the tip... then it would be just a floating piece of ice, and the Titanic would not sink.
When I say "I am stupid", it is not the tip of the iceberg, it's a floater.
When I say "I can't...", it is not the tip of a huge iceberg, it's a floater, and I can sail through it in a jiffy.
But when my student who missed Sunday's class says it... it is just the tip of the iceberg...
I am 1 hour into yesterdays replay, and tuning in to figure out what I want. Here is my stab at it: I want is the confidence to know I can make money from something other than a job. (Not be afraid). What is in the way is I don't believe it; it's impossible, too hard.
Do you see that she can't see it? Ego won't allow it.
Do you see that maybe even you can't see it? Ego won't allow it.
The remedy is to have the humility capacity active, both by removing ego's filters out of the way, and by me activating the capacity.
You won't eat an elephant in one bite... and you won't learn to go past ego in one week, maybe not even in one month.
But if you never start, you never will.
Symptoms that ego is blocking your learning, or your moving forward:
- you are sure, it is how it is. I am this way, He is that way. It is this way.
I trained myself to say "It ain't necessarily so." Pay attention, I don't go toe to toe with ego. I go in a slippery way... I just slip in a little malleability. A little "maybe" there...
Eventually it becomes the foot you put in the door.
- I already know. I have heard that before. I could teach this... This is the same as what you said, what she said... before.
You lack discernment, or more precisely, you get hijacked before you could get to a place where you can compare two things... like two colors, two statements, two anything.
- This is not relevant to me. Or this is boring.
this is an extension of the first symptom: you behave as if you knew what you need, what is important, what is relevant. But simply put, you have no clue. You refuse to listen, and you miss it all.
Most of you: this is how you were about Maths in school, or biology, or physics. You already knew you'd never need it ever. 2
You were picking and choosing what to learn... and your life is proof that it's a bad strategy: you are now old, and stuck.
I have a student who first came to me in 2011. She has done all my courses. And still on Sunday, she refused to listen...
Most of you are more subtle than that, so I can't address it with you. You pretend that you are listening, but your results speak loud and clear.
Master this and you'll master your life.
By the way, this is not a project. This is like breathing: you stop doing it, and you are dead.
I am still working with my iceberg... but this time, ego says, I really got it.
What a lie! It is ego's nature to be a shapeshifter. And it is doing a good job at it.
- someone to pity... Yiddish: Judæo-German term carrying the sense of "regret" and "pity." It is used as a noun, an adverb, and most often as an interjection; e.g., "Nebich, the poor man"; "He is a great nebich" (object of pity). "May such a calamity not come upon you."
- Famous gurus were this way. Some scientists are this way. Only read, only listen to what proves that what they know is true. They never allow anyone to lead them by the hand and show them more than the tiny sliver of truth they claim is the whole truth. I was like that until a few years ago. And then I gave up knowing... and started to allow more things in. And the "more things" started to guide me to a place where life is a better match to me, or vice versa. And I still have a lot wider to go... because until I fully love being alive... hell, I am still living in the tiny truth I already know.
The only person I have found, to date, who doesn't seem to plow the narrow strip of land they call their own, is Tai Lopez, and his 67 steps program is a steal... and will challenge you to go really wide, so you can find your home in the world. I am at day 13 of the 67. Each session is an eye opener. And I have been going wide... but not as wide as Tai.