Integrity: the key to a life that is working. Peace of mind, accomplishment, satisfaction, and happiness
For most people integrity is equal to morality.
It is right to do this and wrong to do that.
Keep your promises, cross your tees, dot your i's.
A simpleton, mechanistic way of viewing something sacred, much like the statement: God is always there, notes the fall of a sparrow and the hairs on your head...
Religion is just one of the murderers of the soul of humans. The other one is state. Most specifically education.
If you want to have any of the good things in the title, a life that is working, peace of mind, accomplishment, satisfaction and happiness... you need to declare independence from both religion and state.
Not revolution, just independence.
Revolution is reactive. Revolution comes from "there is something wrong"
Declaration of independence is just stating the obvious, the natural, the Original Design.
Human being isn't designed to live by someone else's standard.
Each human has a built in compass, some people call it conscious, but I prefer the Hebrew version: the same word means compass. I.e. inner guidance.
Each human being is designed to know what's right for them and what isn't. One size doesn't fit all, doesn't fit most, each human being is special, unique, and has their own size.
Moreover, human being isn't designed to take away what belongs to another, stuff, life, or honor or right.
It is a later development. Came from the time when people started to become indoctrinated to use their mind as if it was them
Because the mind is a dumb computer, it makes no value or moral judgments about the input, it doesn't refuse it as immoral, inhuman, or unnatural. It takes it. And then honors it as the truth.
Your mind sucked it all in from human machines, biological machines, your parents, your caretakers, your "educators," your church people, your peers, your politicians, your media.
And you are screwed, unless you declare independence, and little by little, rid yourself of the mores of "society."
You need to have integrity with yourself. You need to follow the guidance of your built in compass.
No one can tell if you have integrity: only you can.
And me, as an empath, judging from your feelings which I feel... lol.
First and foremost, learn some moves and principles, that without them you can't have integrity, peace of mind, and all the good stuff independence provides you with.
Principle #1: Promises, whether you made them to yourself or to another, are conditional. Always.
If the listener, the recipient of the promise, has no commitment to what you promise, the promise is null and void.
Of course, if you are currently one of those biological machines, you never thought of checking if the other is committed to your promise, have you?
Of course you have never stated the conditions either. You never said: I will keep my promise to you as long as you keep your promise to me! You either of the two: someone who keeps your promises, and are always disappointed, unappreciated, etc. or the opposite: you always break your promises.
You also don't know that all speaking is committing, did you? You didn't know that when you invite someone to come over at 10, you promised to be ready to receive them, free and clear...
You didn't know that when you say: "I am so stupid..." you made a commitment.
And here comes Move #1: first take back ALL your promises. Hunt for them, track them down, write them down and do what you need to do to take them back.
If you can't take them back, indicate that you will renegotiate them as soon as you get clear.
Out loud, whether anyone listens, cancel your promises.
Get back to a state of no promises out there. Most promises are out there like lies... which makes you a liar.
Don't even dream about having any peace of mind until you do this. It will take some time, but this will be the worthiest investment of time and energy, because it will return you to nothing... clear empty space, from where you can decide, which way you want to go.
One of the best things I can tell about my life is that I am not busy. I work a lot on stuff I like, but I am never busy.
I have canceled all kinds of promises myself in all areas of life.
What I must have, what I should have, what I should do, who I should know, talk to, court, diss... I have simplified my life. Today if I talk to someone, it is a big deal: there is no have to or should in that. It is because I am guided to do so.
There are more moves... and the will come down the pike...
You'll be busy with Move #1 for a while.
Let me know how you are doing, ok?
PS: Pay especially close attention to the "promises" you made beginning with
- I'll never (or never again) ...
- I'll always...
Those (plenty of them) are the most vicious prison-guards.
Good luck liberating yourself.