The full quote is from a book: Today Matters…
How would you describe your life? Are you achieving what you desire? Are you accomplishing the things that are important to you? Do you consider yourself a success? How do your prospects look for the future?
If I could come to your house and spend just one day with you, I would be able to tell whether or not you will be successful. You could pick the day. If I got up with you in the morning and went through the day with you, watching you for 24 hours, I could tell in what direction your life is headed.
When I tell this to people at conferences, there’s always a strong reaction. Some people are surprised. Some get defensive because they think I would be making a snap judgment about them. A few get ticked off because they think my claim sounds arrogant. Others are intrigued and desire to know why I make such a statement.
Here is why: I believe that the secret of your success is determined by your daily agenda. If you make a few key decisions and then manage them well in your daily agenda, you will succeed. You will never change your life until you change something you do daily. You see, success, doesn’t just suddenly occur one day in someone’s life. For that matter, neither does failure. Each is a process. Every day of your life is merely preparation for the next. What you become is the result of what you do today. In other words… You are preparing for something.
The question is, What are you preparing for? Are you grooming yourself for success or failure? As my father used to tell me when I was growing up, “You can pay now, and play later, or you can play now and pay later. But either way, you are going to pay.” The idea was that you can play and take it easy and do what you want today, but if you do, your life will be harder later. However, if you work hard now, on the front end, then you will reap rewards in the future.
Think about it: What are you preparing for today? Success or failure? Does your daily agenda indicate that you make a habit of paying before you play? Answering these questions is a good predictor of what you will become tomorrow and in the future.
The question is: what was first? The chicken or the egg?
Because you may know: I am hard at work to prove, to myself and to others, that the self-image is the secret to human evolution, whether it is your personal evolution, or the evolution of the species.
Most of you see yourself as scared, small, and at the mercy of others. That unless you worry, every step of the way, of what others think of you, you’ll suffer some terrible loss… will be ejected from the group: humans.
Just look and see. You may get inspired by an idea, by a grand idea, but if the path to it leads through trial and error, or being exposed, or any chance of looking stupid, you won’t do it. You won’t take the steps that would take you to that big idea.
I even see this on people who are plateauing and are in front of many eyes.
I see it in Tai 1 in his consistent need to explain about his views on religion, and his consistent need to avoid offending anyone.
If you can say, honestly, that you don’t much care what others think about you, you are called a sociopath.
The opposite of sociopath is “blending in”… the opposite of sociopath is “sheep”.
I never thought I would say this, or even think this, but I believe that you need to be able to not care.
Everyone who ever wanted to make a difference in other people’s life first needed to cut the billions of ties that keeps people in the chicken coop… And escape the chicken coop, the vantage point of things where you are inside… you need to get outside.
Become a sociopath…
NOT a psychopath. A psychopath has no value for life… Being a sociopath means: being willing and able to look at life from a higher vantage point, than the vantage point that you need to be part of, and move together with the masses. That you need to be accepted, liked, and left alone.
And I think, when looked at, this is the idea from where the quote should make sense, except one thing:
The idea that you need to be successful is still a common denominator, a common idea of the chicken coop.
So as long as success is still what is dominating your life, you are still in the chicken coop…
A true sociopath doesn’t give in the pressure… because LIFE is not about success. Definitely not about the pursuit of success.
Life is about becoming bigger. Life is about growing.
The biggest issue I have with Tai is what he calls the “social” aspect of your life.
And the step that most expresses this “social” aspect of life is the funeral test.
There are two ways to look at the end of your life, maybe three.
- Did I get a lot of people to like me, respect me, and come to my funeral? Gandhi, Oprah… The funeral test.The more people come to your funeral the more you lived as a slave to the chicken coop.
- The Brendon Burchard 2 questions: did I live fully? Did I love completely? Did I make my difference?Sadly these three questions still keep you in the chicken coop… because it is still about you and your relationship to other people… the opinion of other people that matters. The questions sound very emotional, deep, but they are still questions, concerns from inside the chicken coop.
- And the third one, still not quite formulated in words… but let me give it some shape: Did I manage to dance to my own drummer? Did I manage to become an individual? Did I manage to have a Self? The Self that would give meaning to Self-image, Self-respect, dignity, and human being?
Now, you are where you are… and really where you are is OK, if it is OK with you.
No one is forcing you to be where you are… You have chosen it… by having chosen what is important to you.
And your actions, your daily actions, your small actions of which you have a million, show you and me what you have chosen…
Surviving life, being safe, buying time…
I know: I lived there for most of my life. Hovering…
And then there is soaring. Freedom. And failing the funeral test. Yaaaaaay!
It’s taken me a long-long-long time to get to soaring.
I had no idea at the time what it was that kept me heavy and hovering, always in danger to be swallowed up.
But as I have been doing the work with you, and consequently by myself, little by little I managed to drop the lines that kept me tethered to “socially acceptable” or social norms.
I am now a 93% sociopath… 93% free. Free to soar, free to grow, free of concerns… 93%.
Is there such a thing as total freedom? Muscle test says “no”.
Your vibration and the “sociopath-meter”
But my hunch is that vibration and the “sociopath-meter” measure the same thing. The more lines that keep you tethered you drop, the higher your vibration becomes.
Human being, the next evolutionary stage of humans, acts out of decency, respect, and not a slave who is afraid of the consequences, or looking bad. Loss of respectability.
The spiritual capacities that makes society work, not the societal norms… it is a whole different world. Can you see it? Can you smell it? Do you want it?