…when things are fast
Slowing down your reactions will show you your real emotions… so you know, so you know what you are running away from.
The envy, the glee, the hate, the despair, the ugly… that you are not willing to share on the partner call because you have an image to uphold.
People who are putting makeup on their fake persona… prettying it up… but never show, never touch their real persona… and therefore they continue living an unreal, fake life… with the unavoidable consequences in the hidden regions of health… More about that later…
Slowing down you may be able to find your strait and narrow… your path to your own happiness and fulfillment… your soul correction.
Fast isn’t going to cut it.
The fence that is built fast will fall down fast… and it is a principle, it is true for everything.
And everyone is looking for fast, push button, rapid… and everyone is unhappy. No accidents here.
The most important turning point for me was losing my privilege to drive. Not having a car completely eliminated the previously normal reaction to anything confronting, unpleasant, challenging, or hard: running away. Going shopping… lol. I am still reacting… but staying put.
I still am confronted a lot, but because there is no place to run, I am more and more choosing to look at what seems to be unconfrontable… and look at it. Look at it and going deeper, at the root issue.
For example, I have a real issue with violence, both in movies and in books. And of course in life.
I am deadly afraid of physical pain. I feel it in my groin. And I lose out on a lot of things that most everyone in my place could have, because I am reacting to that fear… I have even built a life on that: instead of having to ask people to do something for me, I have learned to do many many things, so I don’t have to.
I have an originating incident of asking and accepting help and being hurt, badly hurt. Pain so strong I passed out.
I am working on learning to ask… it is not going too well… The fear is still a whole lot stronger.
Stare the tiger in the face.
I am also catching and taming a lot of knee-jerk reactions. As a company owner, I used to be the Firing Queen… hired fast and fired even faster. No prosperity as a result never knocked me conscious. Only slowing down has.
It’s uncharted territory to be patient, to give the benefit of the doubt, to allow all the answers to come to me, to emerge, as if from deep water. It is more alien from my personality and my persona as anything I do or have ever done… I am looking at myself with amazement as I am changing.
All movies are fast nowadays, so the only way for me to slow them down is to stop them to give myself time to catch up, and to take a contemplation break… sometimes longer than the movie itself.
This morning I read the Monday Morning Memo by Roy Williams, the advertising man. His memo is for business owners…
Norman Rockwell was an illustrator of fiction.
He never showed us America as it really was, but America as it could have been, should have been, might have been. His images caused an entire generation to vividly remember experiences we never had.
Rockwell showed my generation a fictional America and we believed in it.
I don’t want to mention client names and I’m sure you’ll understand why, but my most successful ad campaigns have been built on exactly that kind of fiction.
Not lies. Fiction. There’s a difference.
Fiction is romanticized reality, showing us possible futures and the best of the past, leaving out the dreary, the mundane and the forgettable. It is a powerful tool of bonding. Properly used, fictional characters attract new customers and deepen customer loyalties. But predictable characters hold no interest for us. It is conflicted characters – those with vulnerabilities, weaknesses and flaws – that fascinate us immensely.
A recently published study in The Journal of Social and Personal Relationships suggests that fictional friends may be as valuable as “real” friends, particularly when life-partners watch television shows together.
“…our studies show that sharing the social connections provided by TV shows and movies can deepen intimacy and closeness. Furthermore, watching TV shows and movies together may provide couples who lack access to a shared social network of real-world friends with an alternate means of establishing this shared social identity.
Previously, sharing a social world with a partner has been conceptualized in terms of sharing real-world social experiences.2 However, creating these experiences may not always be possible. Fortunately, humans are remarkably flexible in finding ways to fulfill their social needs.3 When people’s need for social connections are undermined, they turn to a variety of social surrogates that provide alternate pathways to meet this need, including comfort food,4 photos of loved ones,5 pets,6 and media like TV shows and movies.7”
Recurrent characters in advertising fit into that last category of “media like TV shows and movies.”
In fact, fictional characters shine so brightly in our minds that we have created a word – metafiction – for those moments when fictional characters become aware that they are fictional.
If you doubt what I say, all you need do is suggest to Indiana Beagle that he isn’t real. You will quickly and painfully be made aware of how real a fictional character can become.
It is the architecture of our brains that makes fiction so powerful.
Humans are the storytelling animal.
You have about 100,000 times more synapses in your brain than sensory receptors in your body. If brain synapses were strictly equal to sensory receptors – which they are not – this would mean that you and I are 100,000 times better equipped to experience a world that does not exist than a world that does. So let’s assume that a single sensory receptor is worth 1,000 brain synapses. Congratulations, you’re still 100 times better equipped to experience a world that does not exist than a world that does.
This was the purpose of today’s Monday Morning Memo:
Find some TV shows to watch with your life-partner. The shared experience will be good for both of you.
Play with the idea of creating a fictional spokes-character for your company. (If you don’t know how, consider the online classes at AmericanSmallBusiness.org.)
Take quality fiction more seriously. Logical, sequential, deductive reasoning is a function of analytical thought, which has its headquarters in the left hemisphere of your brain. Loosely speaking, the left hemisphere of your brain is there to connect you to the world that is, while the right hemisphere connects you to worlds that could be, should be, might be, ought to be… someday. This is where fiction comes alive.
Want to hear something funny? The right hemisphere of your brain doesn’t know right from wrong or fact from fiction. That’s the left brain’s job.
Our belief in fiction is made possible only by the amazing right hemisphere of our brains.
Regardless of whether you believe in natural selection (evolution) as the origin of the species, or intelligent design (God), the wordless, intuitive right hemisphere of your brain is there for a reason.
Don’t diminish it. Don’t disparage it. Don’t try to overcome it.
It’s there for a reason.
Let it do its work.
Roy H. Williams
Anything you do “in order to” is too fast. Life is not about speeding through it… it’s about living it. Living it in the moment you are living it.
In order to removes you from the present… and makes life NOT LIVED…
I have a rich life… in spite of the fact that I only leave my house on Tuesdays… grocery shopping, chiropractor, exercise class…
Everything else happens in my apartment… and yet I have an experience of living fully, or fuller than before. Sometimes I have urges, like wanting to go to my 50th high school reunion… But today I wrote my 50-year story, and it feels that I now don’t have to go. I can just enjoy the 30 or so similar stories my class mates wrote, and have a full experience, probably more pleasant. I don’t have to eat what they eat. I don’t have to travel. I don’t have to worry how I look. I don’t have to feel all those feelings… that I can handle one by one, but not all at once.
When I look what I would do if a ton of money fell on me… I would not have much use for it. Money has a tendency to burn a hole in people’s pocket, demand you to deal with it.
I’m free with no money. I value my freedom. More than money.
There is no hurry on the creative plane. The creative plane is where meaningful life is lived. A life worth living.
I wrote this article almost exactly three years ago… in 2016.
It seems that hurry, taking pride in being fast is the number one reason people erode their health.
I am looking at myself, looking at clients.
Eating without tasting, eating without chewing. Talking without reflection, without pauses.
I have been measuring people’s biological age. And getting intensely curious what makes them age faster than they should.
I am starting to come to the conclusion that hurry is even more important than what you eat, your eating style, and your nutritional deficiencies.
That is, at least, what Source is telling me, through muscle testing. I’ll keep asking this question… and see if my current insight is accurate or not.
The main place where I see, in the muscle testing numbers, is the hormonal glandular health of people.
Want to know your numbers?
For the next five days I’ll include your glandular health numbers, if you buy the measurement of your biological age.
I need a photo and date of birth to be able to connect to you.
Get your Biological Age Measurements and if you do before 8 pm on Monday, October 21, 2019, I’ll incude your glandular health numbers… very revealing.
- the partner calls of the Playground course,