I took a ride with the community center van. On the way back the driver of the van gave me feedback on myself: eager. As in eager beaver... busy body, annoying, rushing people. (I was early in the morning, and I was waiting for him outside when he came to pick me up. I meant to make it easier and faster for him, but that is not how it landed... obviously.)
Ugh. That hurts...
I haven't gotten feedback that struck me worse in a long time. so suddenly I am there, right with you: the feedback I am asking you to get is not good news.
So I was struggling with it.
Then it occurred to me that I have always been eager. Eager to talk, eager to express an opinion, eager to be first, eager to hurry up any process. No patience for slow pokes.
I must be really annoying for many people.
I am like a tank that clears the road, for everybody, and no one follows.
It's annoying to them... and it is devastating to me.
Lacking better or closer examples, I am looking to some people in history. And myths. Moses, Jesus, Joan of Ark, even in history I don't find many insistent, persistent urgers...
That is easier to own.
This morning I got another batch of "5 questions exercise" answers.
So here is an invitation.
Answer the five questions to me, about me. I am asking the questions.
You can do it in writing. You can do it in the comments. You can be honest.
Or you can do it in email.
Or you can get on a five-minute skype call with me, and do it live.
Or you can do it on a webinar.
It could be your Christmas gift to me.
You have to think. You have to observe. You have to have words. Coherence.
It's not easy. And you can do it... but you haven't... not with any consistency.
So please do it. For yourself. I'll receive and appreciate the gift.
Here are the questions:
1. what do you like about me?
2. what don't you like about me?
3. what do you see as my strengths?
4. what do you see as my weaknesses?
5. is there anything else you've ever wanted to say to me but haven't?
PS: Want to know how NOT to answer these questions? Here is a wikihow article for that: http://www.wikihow.com/Answer-%22What-Do-You-Like-About-Me%22