But this hidden agenda, to profit from every interaction, at your expense is not limited to the internet, it is just easier to see the dynamic there. It is harder to see it in person to person interactions, with every single person you interact with, or in books, articles, organizations, charity, politics, or people and their pets.
And it is hardest to see in yourself.
I am not condemning it: it seems that “desire to receive for the self alone” is having a new renaissance, and you either don’t notice it, or are in a conspiracy for “I won’t tell on you, if you won’t tell on me.”
I am a person who is well trained to help people create a context for their lives, for their relationships, for their businesses… a context, words, a speaking that sells the attractive part (bait) and hides the sinister. It is a misuse of my training and talent, but it is a possible use.
You want what you want however you can get it, but you want to appear saintly, or generous, or appear working towards something that is bigger than yourself.
And obviously I am not the only person who can teach that: it seems that everyone who has something to sell that gives them what they desire: money, fame, influence, sex, whatever, is now privy to this sacred knowledge: they sell the bait, and rake it in.
It seems that this is where I will need to concentrate my efforts until it becomes clear to me and I write enough articles that it can become clear to the few others that want to know. So they can steer clear from becoming victim, and steer clear of being part of the problem themselves.
The three areas the notion of hidden agenda has come up, intensely, in the past two days were
- 1. Healing/self-growth: providers selling snake oil that make you sick and cost you a bundle or more
- 2. Social saviors
- 3. The individual: you, my students, my clients. Either as a victim, or as a perpetrator
Warning: this article will be a little (or potentially a lot) raw: I haven’t even taken notes, no outline… so bear with me. Stream of consciousness… laying the groundwork.
If something is not clear: just ask and I’ll clarify.
OK… the first thing we need to distinguish
What is an “agenda”?
When there is a meeting, the purpose of the meeting is “the agenda”. You can ask: what is on the agenda? It answers the same question as “what are we going to talk about?” or “what is the purpose of the meeting.”
That is the overt agenda.
- If you are an attractive young woman, and someone asks if you could have coffee… the coffee seems to be the agenda. Clear?
- If you are one of my students and I instructed you to do the five-questions exercise with your people… the agenda is to do the exercise. Clear?
- If you are in my 67-step coaching program, the agenda is to build a foundation, a raft that can take you wherever you want to go. Obvious… or not?
That is the overt agenda.
Underneath the overt agenda are a slew of hidden agendas, but there is ALWAYS at least one. Some are outright sinister, but all are “desire to receive for the self alone”, politically incorrect. Not something you want to put on your flag or on your sleeve.
Revealing the hidden agenda is a sign of higher vibration: it shows that you are willing to own the feelings, the desires, the wants that are running you. Own what owns you. The moment you own it it has no power over you, and you can use its energy, and co-create with it.
Revealing your hidden agendas, tell the truth about them, and attempt to own them is the first major step you can do for raising your consciousness, raising your vibration.
We do that work in our “What’s the truth about you” workshops… currently in a break.
But I digress…
Hidden agenda is what this article is about. And your inability or unwillingness to see your own, and to see through others’.
Some hidden agendas I am OK with. Some create so much distaste in me that, even though I like the offers, I can’t buy. The distaste wins. Some marketing teachers’ materials are like that.
And most hidden agendas are so blatantly covered up with lies… I’d want to shout it to the world.
- I haven’t had a libel suit. I skirt that every day. I write something, It’s the truth. And then I delete it.
The facts will offend someone who is libel-happy. Sue happy.
So I only write about their vibration, about their feelings I can clearly feel. No libel in that. And not many people get the hint either.The other day a guru’s follower put a comment on my site saying how great the guru is I had not much nice to say about. I detected a hired hand removing or remedying someone’s negative track record on the internet. Obviously the person used a software: I have ways to be sure about that.
I told her so, so she went to the guru. The guru contacted me telling me how much he had gotten better since my review, and that I should test it for myself. But his vibration remained the same, low for a guru, and I told him so (170).
Vibration is a reliable number to show both the truth value/usefulness value of the material, and the truthfulness value of the person. You can hear if it is for you, for your betterment at all, or just a way to extort money from you.
This guru has it 50-50, but the truth value is too low. So his good intentions (50%) are made not valuable by the crap he is teaching. But because of his low vibration he can’t see more, he can’t see the truth.
- I took on a new client, who is the first person I took on who is ill.
As a rule I don’t take on a sick person: they are in fixing mode and underneath the fixing mode is the “there is something wrong with me, with you, with it” and it’s dangerous.
Fixing is also coupled with impatience, wanting miracles, and the desire to be rescued.
All the work I do is based on you doing the work. I point you in the right direction, I may even hold your hand, but you do the work, you are responsible for your life, for your health, for your actions, for your results.
I am hundred percent responsible for giving you accurate guidance. Accurate facts, accurate conclusions. Potent methods. Potent energy products.
But what you do with them: it is your responsibility.I, for decades, felt outraged at Landmark Education for their lack of responsibility in the matter of the results.
They say, I paraphrase: “Landmark Education is responsible for putting up and delivering the programs in an orderly fashion”
If I transferred that statement of responsibility to my own business, as most people do, I would say: “I will be on time for our call, I will have a working microphone. I promise.
What I say, whether you can work with it or not, is not my responsibility.” Really?
I’d rather that you know that my teaching works, and I have proof of that. That the truth value of what I give you is above 90% or above… as high as I can myself see, still being limited by being human. I will do whatever is in my power so I talk on your level, or if I can’t, I get you material that does.
But more importantly, that I tell you, upfront, that it is entirely up to you what results you produce. Not up to me.
And more often than not I let you know that I am a “scientist” intending to cause the evolution of the species… and that I get more out of our interaction than you will… because MY AGENDA is what makes me sell my time and products for the bare minimum I can afford, and still pay my rent.
- This new client, who, by the way, has all her problems caused by doctors, their products, their treatment, she can get well, 100% return to the level she was at before her illness, in 2-3 weeks, if she follows the instructions faithfully, and when done, then start to rise to full health and start living her life powerfully.
OK, before you get all bent out of shape: keep your pants on… (I love this expression, by the way. It makes me chuckle.)
She had a self-inflicted accident, then went into panicked fixing mode, and added on more and more factors, that like a snow-ball grew, and she, at the same time, depleted her bank account on all kinds of saviors.
Every doctor and every practitioner piled up more and more alarming and uncheckable, unprovable diagnosis, nanobacteria, parasites, bull shit after bullshit.
While they systematically wiped out her immune system, and her resilience.
Profit motive. I muscle tested some of those doctors and practitioners: their vibration ranges from 100 all the way down to 70. Ugh.
- I read an article today that examines the history of weakness, of a nation becoming a bunch of sissies… our age, it turns out, isn’t the first time this is happening.
The article is good. Maybe even enjoyable. Except it has a hidden agenda: the guy who wrote it wants to be known for being the originator of a movement, the cult of strenuosity.
He even uses the word cult… because that is what he is trying to build. A cult. And cults have cult leaders… no matter what the cult is about, the leader’s personal agenda is evil. Desire to receive for the self alone.
…and no cult leader has ever told the truth about that.
And maybe not surprisingly, this is what the internet is providing a breeding ground for: cult leaders. They may call it “tribes” or any other attractive names, but a cult is a cult is a cult.
Don’t fall for it. Even though practicing a life that is enlivened by strenuous activities is might brilliant… I live that way, and the benefits are many and huge.
No depression. No moodiness. No neediness. No mood swings. And these are priceless.
I have put the article in the subscribers’ area. You have to register to read it. Why? Because…
- As you get more and more feeble by virtue of disuse of your body and misuse of your emotional and thinking faculties, you need guidance.
One of the principles or ideas we learn in the 67 steps is to innovate ourselves out of the situation we find ourselves in.
Whether you can tell or not, the capacities that need to be active and well honed to do that are the exact capacities that are missing for you and to billions of your brethren, because these are some of the capacities that never developed given your comfortable, challenge-free upbringing.
But you need them… the capacities.
Because when you find yourself entrenched in something that doesn’t serve you, a behavior, and attitude, a job, a relationship, a world view, no fixing will get you out of there. Only those capacities that Jeff Bezos developed and honed his entire life… The autobiography starts when he is about 8 (I might remember it wrong).
He challenged himself and loved every moment of it.
When he coined the phrase: “we innovate our way out of it”, 30-40 years later, he was a master at that.
Without seeing what he sees, everything YOU try to do is fixing. Fixing what’s wrong. The result is getting deeper in the muck…
One really effective way to get a different vantage point, is to get yourself to toughen up. Through strenuous training in discomfort, pain, displeasure. Why is that effective?
Because most of what keeps you trying to patch the mistakes in your life is you sticking with comfort.
The problem is the comfort, but you can only see the truth about that if and when you lift yourself out of the current paradigm of comfort through training yourself, living part time outside of the comfort.
You can be like the fish that sees water for the first time.
Once you see it, you can work with it.
And that is what you need a coach or a mentor for… because doing it on your own is near impossible.
I use Tai Lopez’s mentors as my own, the extraordinary men he reads, listens to, and allows us to get the principles without spending all that time to try to distill out the essence ourselves.
I have started to toughen up a few months ago. It was a no-brainer for me. And the benefits have been unexpected and spectacular.
I see much further, and I see much clearer. I am proud of who I am becoming. My tomorrow is attractive, and worth walking into, worth waking up for.
I never expected to find out that being a weakling, being comfortable was at the root or my misery.
Now that I know, I protect my strenuous life… because it’s proving itself to be the right foundation.