The essence of teaching is that someone learns, not the act of teaching. So if I learn, then he taught.

I saw something today that can be important to for you to learn, because I don’t think you know.

It was prompted by an article by James Altucher, a blogger (personal vibration: 170) who I like and feel disgust for at the same time.

Anyway… lol… the article I read was about being the stupidest person in the room… 1 .

When you look at yourself, or I look at myself, this is a situation we don’t want to be in. So much so that some of you make me be dumber than you… just so you can feel better about yourself.

You may remember the distinction from the Feelings book: “Relative devaluation of your “I”

It is the non-physical pain you feel when someone is better, smarter, prettier, etc. than you.

One of the signs that your TLB (Twitchy Little Bastard) score is low, that you don’t like to put yourself into a situation like that. You don’t want to hear about you, you don’t want to know about it.

You want to be, or feel the smartest person in the room.

And it is only downhill from there…


Because your “Originating Circle” is like your immediate environment that nourishes you, that challenges you, that teaches you.

They say your income is the average of the five people you most intimately associate with. I don’t believe that this is true. Income is so far removed that I don’t believe this to be true. But it’s a truism, so you’ll hear it a lot.

But… your vibration, your attitudes, your desire to grow… they are very much effected by your human environment.

But the most important factor is what is invisible.

People who are less smart than you, people who you feel smarter than, are all effect the invisible: your humility.

Your humility is the number one requirement for learning, and growing.

If you want to feel smarter than others, you have a strong aversion for your “I” to be devalued by comparison. Which means your eyes and your whole being is on the horizontal plane, the Tree of Knowledge.

The Tree of Knowledge if full of pithy, useless, non-essential knowledge, that uses up your brain capacity. The Tree of Knowledge is all about competition, comparing, and making it. Making it through life… not living it. And uttering nonsensical slogans while you do it.

You either don’t have any humility, or not enough to make a difference.

In essence, you cannot be on the Tree of Knowledge and have humility, the virtue, the spiritual capacity open and working for you.

It seems to you, while you are on the Tree of Knowledge, that humility works against you. The humility devalues you, that humility works against your survival. But I don’t know if you have ever observed yourself being in survival mode: you shut your eyes, you shut your ears, you tighten your muscles, you stop breathing.

You stop being open. Yeah.

If life is a dance, then you stopped dancing when you are in survival. And life stopped being fun.

I watch the oldies on Tuesdays, the old people. I am actually more decrepit than most of them, at least I feel my pain, and it is bad.

But I dance through the class. I party. I don’t just dutifully do as little as I can… I party! And when the class is over, and the music is still on, I dance… literally…

Because I am alive. Nothing to prove, nothing to protect, nothing significant.

Significance, your own, or the things you protect, is at the root of your deadness.

On the Tree of Life nothing is significant. That doesn’t mean they are not important, or they are not relevant.

Significance is how much of your ego, your survival is vested in it.

Significance is interested in what is outside of you, what can be taken away. Life, money, being smarter than the next guy. All Tree of Knowledge, all very manipulable. All misery makers.

OK, so what can you do?

One of the most important things is to increase your capacity to be with non-physical pain. To actually welcome it.

How do you do that?

It will take a while, but it’s worth the efforts.

Ferret out all the ways you make yourself feel smart. Feeling smart is a bad thing. Feeling smart is almost always a sign that you are not… that you are doing something that is not smart.

Some examples:

  • you know the answer
  • you find the answer
  • you understand
  • you feel you can do it and then do it

I know it is counter-intuitive… everyone teaches you to be confident, but confidence is from the Tree of Knowledge, and it makes you stupid.

All the examples I listed stop looking, stop listening, stop any kind of expansion.

They are the sizzle, not the steak. They kill life. And they fill you with false superiority.

A false superiority that places you above everyone…

I have students who claim they can’t find people who are smarter… but the husband they despise is smarter, has higher vibration, and uses more capacities they have.

And I have students who always hold court, look for people who seem less smart, and teach them, guide them, help them. Only to scaffold their ego.

Your desire to make a difference is part of this: the stronger this desire is, the more it indicates that you are looking to be the smartest person in your circle.

My hunch is that the gurus, healers, coaches all suffer from this disease.

So, what should you do? you whine… lol.

Or you may say: I get it but I don’t know how? waaa waaa waaa… lol.

I really don’t know. I don’t have an answer. I have some ideas, but no answer.

Did you catch that? I am willing to stay with the discomfort, with the unbecoming behavior to a teacher… I don’t have the answer.

Why would I not give you an answer? Because I have already given you some possible starting points? Or because you’ll drag it to the Tree of Knowledge? Or because I really don’t know?

Figure out, from the above, a starting point you can see that you can do.

By the way, your soul correction should give you a hint… but that is the hardest path… It is almost for me to use to individually help you, without being able to see how you limit yourself in every action of your life.

You could do what Altucher does: put yourself always second to someone who is very smart.

  • When you read…
  • When you comment on a blog…
  • When you talk to me…

My Originating Circle keeps me very humble.

I have Source there… and I am justified to feel stupid… I don’t have to even practice humility… lol, embarrassed laugh.

I have also found out that the driver of the van actually knows a lot (PhD in sociology) about stuff I would better learn about, from him.

I have found out that one of the women has pain and has had that pain since she was born, and she is the kindest, most unassuming person I know… I have a lot to learn.

I have a student who can teach me love… Not like give me lectures… No. The essence of teaching is that someone learns. Not the act of teaching. So if I learn, then he taught.

On the other hand, if I jump into answers, make my own interpretations, feel smart that I learned… then I didn’t learn, I just made myself smarter than him.

My students, nearly all, don’t learn. They try to prove how smart they are. And I don’t feel like a teacher… even though I do the actions of teaching, coaching.

I had a heart to heart last night with Source.

I asked about my life’s work, if it is useful for me to think that my writing survives me.

The answer was a non-committal yes. A small yes.

And then I started to ask question why it’s not a strong yes.

And I got that unless people are ready to learn, unless people can be taught, what I have found, what I worked for all these years, is just noise.

Osho’s words are as alive (or more) than when he was alive.
Dr. David Hawkins’ legacy is kept alive

I, to date, have no person who would do even one thing to keep my words alive…

Because unless you become an Expanding Human Being, they are just words. And you feel smarter than me.

I don’t have a lot of years left. It is outside of me… and so is health, wealth… everything that you prize.

Only what is going to survive me matters… is it going to be one the soul, or are there going to be more like me?

I am not worried. It’s not that I don’t care. It is that it’s out of my hand. It’s in your hand. Totally.

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  1. How To Be The Stupidest Person In The Room…

    Walt Disney was the stupidest person in the room.

    So he stood next to his brother Roy (kept Walt positive after their first business went bankrupt). He stood next to Ub Iwerks (he drew a disgusting rodent for Walt).

    He stood next to Margaret Winkler (the first person to buy a Disney film: Alice in Wonderland), and Lillian Bounds (who not only named this little rat, “Mickey Mouse” but then married Walt).

    You would think this is all Walt needed. Four people. Now he was drawing and selling movies.

    But Walt Disney was never in the movie business! The movies were barely breaking even. And it was the middle of The Great Depression.

    He had to stand next to the smartest person in the room. A guy named Kay Kamen who took a two day bus ride just to talk to Walt when he first saw Mickey Mouse.

    Because the Walt Disney company was not in the movie business, or story business, or theme park business or Snow White business.

    Kay Kamen convinced Walt what business he was really in.

    The Walt Disney company was in the wrist watch business. In 1935, not even breaking even from movies, they sold 2 million watches.

    Kay Kamen convinced Walt Disney to make watches. And toothbrushes. And blankets.

    Movies are not about stories. Movies are giant focus groups to see what products will sell.

    Because Walt Disney stood next to the smartest person in the room.

    Phew! What else can I say about that.

    Well, Walt Disney didn’t just sit around reading comic books and fantasies. He was inspired to do something.

    Winsor McCay drew Little Nemo and other Disney inspirations in the early 1900s. Walt loved him. The Grimm Brothers obviously influenced Disney.

    Disney was a failure by himself. He created what is now the most successful media empire ever because of who he stood next to and what he consumed how it inspired him to do something.

    Disney had a choice. He took it.

    [ RELATED READING: The 100 Rules for Being an Entrepreneur ]

    I write little Facebook posts on my laptop.

    But I was desperate. I hated my job. I hated what I had to do to make money.

    I wanted to be creative. I wanted to be free. I wanted to be loved.

    And I was out of shape, sick, and gaining weight. And I was bitter and depressed.

    I had to change: who I was spending time with, what I was reading, what I was eating, And try to change what I was thinking.

    I was in a constant state of panic. And I had nobody to talk to. I wish I had had someone to talk to.

    Sometimes nothing feels fair. I felt like I deserved better.

    Sometimes I still panic. But I pasted this graphic on the smoky screen inside of my head.

    It feels like practice. Maybe one day I will get good.

    the 5x5 rule altucher

    James Altucher

Author: Sophie Benshitta Maven

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