Here is another quote: People get married because they want their lives witnessed. When your life is witnessed you feel alive… I was par phrasing the Susan Sarandon character’s words in “Shall we Dance?”
The best way to make sure you are on the path to happiness… is actually to be in a coaching program.
In my 67 step coaching program I witness your life.
Obviously, if you don’t care what I see: if you don’t care that I see that there is no harmony in what you think, what you say and what you do, then it is not really doing much for you…
If you don’t care…
If you do care… then it’s great.
Yet others are unhappy with me because they think they hired me to build them up.
The only way you can “not care” if you care too much, but you are stuck in caring what other people think of you and your actions.
What? Care too much?
You are stuck on the level of personal evolution where your main concern is looking good and thus making it.
I care what you say about me. I listen. I consider what you are saying. But I don’t care too much… I don’t think it changes who I am for me.
What is the difference? I have gone further on the personal evolution tree: meeting my own expectation of myself… which is being extraordinary. That is my own expectation of myself. Which has helped me to get to the last leg of this evolutionary tree: self-realization… whatever that means… maybe be all I can be. Being extraordinary still compares me to some standard, but being all I can be has no standard, because there has never been a me before. That is open to the sky.
Depending on the strength of your character, you need one, two, or all three to be able to grow, ongoingly and reliably.
Strength of character, surprisingly correlates with your TLB score… Big bummer, isn’t it? You thought being squeamish and strength of character can go together… Well, no. They can’t.
OK, here is an article on the benefits of journaling… Enjoy. Be aware, this article by
Benjamin P. Hardy is written entirely on the Tree of Knowledge… Don’t get hooked!
Why Keeping a Daily Journal Could Change Your Life
You know exactly what you want in life. But you can’t seem to get there. You have all these resolves.
- You’re going to get healthy.
- You’re going to write that book.
- You’re going to be more present with your loved ones.
- You’re going to start that home-based business.
- You’re going to learn another language.
- You’re going to be more patient and happy.
- You’re going to get out of debt.
- You’re going to be more organized.
- You’re going to be a better friend.
- You’re going to overcome bad habits.
But the problem is: Doing these is really hard. And it gets harder every day. Some days, it seems more realistic to just give up entirely. The whole taking one step forward and one or two steps backward pattern is getting old. You’ve been telling yourself for a long time “Today is the day!” only to fall into old ways before the day, or if you’re lucky, the week, is spent. When there’s a gap between who you are and who you intend to be, you are incongruent and unhappy.
You’re torn, mentally exhausted, and regretful. You always slightly feel like a fraud to yourself, and probably to the people around you. Conversely, Gandhi has said, “Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.”
If you try to tackle everything wrong in your life, you’ll quickly burn-out and quit.
It’s happened many times before.
Life is super busy. You don’t have time to focus on a thousand different areas of your life to change. That’s exhausting, and frankly, not helpful. More effective than microscopically analyzing your sabotaging behaviors, is nailing down a “keystone” habit — which tightly locks all of your other habits in place. Without the keystone, everything falls apart.
In his book, The Power of Habit, Charles Duhigg describes keystone habits as, “small changes or habits that people introduce into their routines that unintentionally carry over into other aspects of their lives.”
A person might start exercising once per week, and unknowingly
- begins eating better and being more productive at work.
- She begins smoking less and
- showing more patience with her colleagues and loved ones.
- She uses her credit card less,
- feels less stressed, and
- has increased motivation toward her goals.
The ingrained patterns in her brain reform and she becomes an entirely different person. All because she started exercising once per week.
You acquire one of these habits and everything in your life can change. Keystone habits spark a chain reaction of other good habits and can rapidly alter every aspect of your life.
Journal Every Day
“Keeping a personal journal a daily in-depth analysis and evaluation of your experiences is a high-leverage activity that increases self-awareness and enhances all the endowments and the synergy among them.” — Stephen R. Covey
Journaling daily is the most potent and powerful keystone habit you can acquire. If done correctly, you will show up better in every area of your life — every area! Without question, journaling has by far been the number one factor to everything I’ve done well in my life.
The problem is, most people have tried and failed at journaling several times. It’s something you know you should do, but can never seem to pin down.
After you read this post, you’ll never want to miss another day of journaling again.
Journaling Optimizes Your Creative Potential
Most people live their lives on other people’s terms. Their days are spent achieving other people’s goals and submitting to other people’s agendas.
Their lives have not been consciously organized in such a way that they command every waking, and sleeping, moment of their life. Instead, they relentlessly react at every chance they get.
For example, most people wake up and immediately check their phone or email. In spare seconds, we hop on Facebook and check the newsfeed. We’ve become addicted to input. Or in other words, we’ve become addicted to reactively being guided by other people’s agendas.
On the other hand, Josh Waitzkin, author of The Art of Learning, wakes up and immediately writes in his journal for 30 minutes.
He does this because while he’s been sleeping, his subconscious mind has been brewing, scheming, problem-solving, and learning. So when Josh wakes up, he rushes to a quiet place and engages in a bust of intellectual and creative flow.
I recently wrote about the importance of morning routines. If I were to re-write that post now, I’d include my journal. I’ve been doing this the past few weeks and its reframed my entire approach to life. Additionally, I’ve never before had so many creative ideas crystallize.
Creators focus on outputs rather than the general populace who focus on inputs. In their free moments, creators utilize their subconscious breakthroughs. Their days are filled with creative bursts, making them incredible at their craft.
If you want to have more creative flow in your life, stop checking your social media and email so much. Check them once or twice per day. Detach from the addiction to numb your mind and escape reality. Instead, get lost in the creative projects you’ve always wanted to do.
Journaling Accelerates Your Ability To Manifest Your Goals
As part of your morning creative burst, use your journal to review and hone your daily to-do list. Review and hone your life vision and big picture goals.
As you read and re-write your goals daily, they’ll become forged into your subconscious mind. Eventually, your dreams and vision will consume your inner world and quickly become your physical reality.
Journaling Creates A Springboard For Daily Recovery
People struggle drastically to detach from work. More now than ever, we fail to live presently. Our loved ones are lucky to experience a small percentage of our attention while they’re with us.
However, utilizing your journal can curb this mismanagement. At the end of your work day, re-open your journal and review your to-do list from that day.If your morning journal session was excellent, you’ll have likely gotten everything done you intended to do. Private victories always precede public victories.
Journal sessions are your post-work reflection time. Account to yourself what you got done that day and what needs to be moved to tomorrow. Write the things you learned and experienced.
Lastly, direct your subconscious by writing about things you want to focus on tomorrow. As you put work behind you for the evening, your subconscious will be preparing a feast for you to consume during your next morning’s creative and planning session.
This end of the workday journal session need not be as long as the morning session. Greg McKeown, author of Essentialism, recommends writing far less than you want to — only a few sentences or paragraphs at most. This will help you avoid burnout.
A primary objective of this session is to mentally turn-off work-mode. Just as in physical training, you need to rest and recover between work days in order to get stronger.
Use this session to completely unplug and detach from work. This is your time to recover and be present with your loved ones — there is more to life than work. The higher quality your recovery, the more potent and powerful your creative sessions will be.
Journaling Generates Clarity And Congruence
This keystone habit has so much power! By journaling in the morning and evening, you’ll quickly see the incongruencies in your life.
You’ll see crystal-clearly what needs to be removed and what should be included in your life. Journaling is a beautiful and powerful facilitator of self-discovery. My own journaling is how I’ve come to form my sense of identity and path in life.
Not only will you have more clarity about your path in life, but journaling improves your ability to make small and large decisions along the way.
On the pages of your journal will be the future world you are creating for yourself. You are the author of your life’s story. You deserve to be happy. You have the power to create whatever life you want. As the designer of your world, get as detailed as you desire.
Journaling Clears Your Emotions
* Reducing scatter in your life
* Increased focus
* Greater stability
* Deeper level of learning, order, action, and release
* Holding thoughts still so they can be changed and integrated
* Releasing pent-up thoughts and emotions
* Bridging inner thinking with outer events
* Detaching and letting go of the past
* Allowing you to re-experience the past with today’s adult mind
When you are in an intensely emotional mood, journaling can help you more fully experience and understand those emotions.
After you’ve vented on the pages of your journal, you’ll quickly find a release. Objectivity will return and you’ll be able to move forward.
Without a journal, intense emotional experiences can be crippling for hours, days, and even years. However, an honest and inspired journal session can be the best form of therapy — quickly returning you better and smarter than you were before.
Journaling Ingrains Your Learning
Humans are bad at retaining information. We forget most of what we read and hear. However, when you write down the things you’ve learned, you retain them far better. Even if you never re-read what you’ve written, the simple act of writing something down increases brain development and memory.
Neurologically, when you listen to something, a different part of your brain is engaged than when you write it down. Memory recorded by listening does not discriminate important from non-important information. However, writing creates spatial regions between important and non-important pieces of information — allowing your memory to target and ingrain the important stuff you want to remember.
Furthermore, the act of writing allows your subconscious mind to work out problems in unique ways, intensifying the learning process. You’ll be able to work out problems and get insights while you ponder and write about the things you’re learning.
Journaling Increases Your Gratitude
Even if you start a journal session in a bad mood, the insight writing brings has a subtle way of shifting your mind towards gratitude.
When you start writing what you’re grateful for, new chambers of thought open in the palace of your mind. You’ll often need to put your pen down and take a few overwhelming breathes. You’ll be captivated not only by the amazing things in your life, but by the awe and brilliance of life in general.
As part of your morning and post-work journaling sessions, be sure to include some gratitude in your writing. It will change your entire life orientation from scarcity to abundance. The world will increasingly become your oyster.
Gratitude journaling is a scientifically proven way to overcome several psychological challenges. The benefits are seemingly endless. Here are just a few:
- * Gratitude makes you happier
- * Gratitude makes other people like you
- * Gratitude makes you healthier
- * Gratitude boosts your career
- * Gratitude strengthens your emotions
- * Gratitude develops your personality
- * Gratitude makes you more optimistic
- * Gratitude reduces materialism
- * Gratitude increases spirituality
- * Gratitude makes you less self-centered
- * Gratitude increases your self-esteem
- * Gratitude improves your sleep
- * Gratitude keeps you away from the doctor by strengthening physiological functioning
- * Gratitude lets you live longer
- * Gratitude increases your energy levels
- * Gratitude makes you more likely to exercise
- * Gratitude helps you bounce back from challenges
- * Gratitude makes you feel good
- * Gratitude makes your memories happier (think of Pixar’s Inside Out)
- * Gratitude reduces feelings of envy
- * Gratitude helps you relax
- * Gratitude makes you friendlier
- * Gratitude helps your marriage
- * Gratitude makes you look good
- * Gratitude deepens your friendships
- * Gratitude makes you a more effective manager
- * Gratitude helps you network
- * Gratitude increases your goal achievement
- * Gratitude improves your decision making
- * Gratitude increases your productivity
Journaling Unfolds The Writer In You
I became a writer through journaling. While I was on a mission-trip, I wrote in my journal for one to two hours per day. I got lost in flow and fell in love with the writing process.
If you want to become a writer one day, start by journaling. Journaling can help you:
- *Develop strong writing habits
- * Help you discover your voice!
- * Clear your mind and crystallizes your ideas
- * Get closer to the 10,000 hours Malcolm Gladwell says are required to become world-class at what you do
- * Produce gems you could use in your other writing
Journaling Records Your Life History
I started journaling in 2008 after reading an article about the importance of journal writing. In the article, the author described how much journaling had changed her life. She said that after all these years, she now has 38 recorded volumes of personal and family history.
After finishing that article, I have never stopped writing in my journal. In my family room on a book shelf are 20-plus journals filled with my thoughts and experiences. I’m certain they will be cherished by my ancestors as I’ve cherished the writing of my loved ones who have passed on.
19 Other Benefits Of Journaling
- * Heals relationships
- * Heals the past
- * Dignifies all events
- * Is honest, trusting, non-judgmental
- * Strengthens your sense of yourself
- * Balances and harmonizes
- * Recalls and reconstructs past events
- * Acts as your own counselor
- * Integrates peaks and valleys in life
- * Soothes troubled memories
- * Sees yourself as a larger, important, whole and connected being
- * Reveals and tracks patterns and cycles
- * Improves self-trust
- * Directs intention and discernment
- * Improves sensitivity
- * Interprets your symbols and dreams
- * Offers new perspectives
- * Brings things together
- * Shows relationships and wholeness instead of separation
Strategies To Enhance The Experience
- * Pray or meditate for inspiration before you begin to heighten your mental state and trigger creativity
- * Listen to music (I listen to either classical or dub-step depending on the output I’m trying to get)
- * Write about the people in your life — you’ll get breakthroughs about how to improve those relationships
- * Write with confidence and power — use this to strengthen your resolves
- * Write “Today is going to be the best day of my life.” — read that over and over until you begin to believe it
- * If you can’t think of what to write, try writing about minute details of your day or recent history
- * Or start with gratitude
I dare say that journaling is one of the most important things to do in your life. If done effectively, it will change everything in your life for the better.
You’ll become the person you want to be.
You’ll design the life you want to live.
Your relationships will be healthier and happier.
You’ll be more productive and powerful.
PS: In some way I document my life, my evolution, my changes, my integrity in my posts. It’s like a very public journaling, lol.