But I'll repeat it here, in the wake of a TED talk I just listened to: the tendency of life and formal education to march on leaving you with holes in your understanding, holes in your knowledge.
In the third year of my studies I spent nearly the whole first semester in and out of hospitals, 10 weeks out of the 14 weeks. I manage to get a passing grade, but, looking back now, I would have been better off, had I been forced to repeat that semester a year later.
I had a big hole in my education. I could have had more than one hole... but I had one...
I never had any confidence as an architect that point on. This was in 1969, and I quit the profession in 1988. 19 years of living with inadequacy, impostor syndrome, fear of getting found out.
Later in life I made sure I was never going to be left out, I was never going to leave out steps, I was never going to have holes in my knowledge.
In certain areas of learning I am slow. It may take me months to grasp a little piece without the whole thing doesn't work...
I used to teach the way schools teach: force people to the next step, even if they weren't done with the previous step.
If you are like me, slow to get some important points, this type of teaching doesn't work for you, didn't work for you.
This is one of the main reasons I switched to the 67 steps coaching, you take as long as you need, and you take the step as many times you need to get the juice from it..
But, of course, it is not always up to me.
It is also up to the mindset, the ambition, and the attitude of the student: if they ask for help I am always available.
Most students don't ask for help.
There is a stigma that schools left on you that you want to get rid of.
In the words of my mother: stupid. She judged. She probably judged the same way she judged herself.
Looking back at her life, she was fast, and yet: she didn't really have a life that mattered, she was a very unhappy, unfulfilled person.
If you are an underachiever... here is your clue: you have holes in your education, you have holes in your knowledge base, and you are trying to build on insufficient foundation... and it's not working.
Watch this excellent and short TED talk... I wept when I watched it. Observe that he gets a standing ovation at the end.
You are not alone, suffering.
If you are my student: get extra support from me. If you are afraid to become my student: don't be afraid: I have mountains of compassion. It is hard. But it is not hopeless.
Let's teach for mastery — not test scores... a TED talk for hope for you.