To be able to get into the vibration of appreciation (300 on the map of consciousness) or get into the vibration of gratitude (above 300 on the map of consciousness), you would need to be a vibrational match to either, and 99.99% of the population isn’t.
The good news is: the act of validation will temporarily raise your vibration to that same vibrational frequency and that is the vibrational frequency where you can truly activate the Law of Attraction and have your desires be fulfilled. You can start exactly where you are.
If you diligently practice validation, you will be able to keep your vibrational frequency at this high level. You will experience first-hand what having a higher vibration is like: pure bliss.
Let me explain the process of validation
You find something worthy of acknowledgment in another.
Have a goal in mind: one could be: you experience being heard. another could be: you will bring a smile to people’s faces. Mine is: to experience people returning to the present moment. I’ll know because I will experience that they can actually see me.
Why validation? Because validation is close to doing: it is much like smiling. Once you do it, your mood goes up with it. You don’t have to feel like smiling when you start, and when you end it, you can’t help feeling happy.
In the beginning you will have to strain yourself to find anything worthy of acknowledgment. But as you practice, it will be easier and easier.
I remember when I started I looked at people’s clothing, their bodies, their hair to find something to acknowledge. Then I graduated to behavior, and later to who they really are. Today I am able to connect to their real self and acknowledge that.
Catch: in order for validation to work for you, you actually need to look before you speak. Which means, you can’t just become a robot, and spout nice things, that will actually lower your vibration. Trickery doesn’t work in the world of vibrations.
Remember that this exercise only raises your vibration while you are doing it. So doing it diligently is your best bet.
Put up reminders around you. After a long while it will become second nature to you. By then your vibration was permanently impacted.
A second exercise for validation
Some twenty years ago I had a homework in one of the courses I did to acknowledge a character trait that was missing for me. The instructions were: lie authentically.
That sounds like an oxymoron, doesn’t it? lie and authentic in the same sentence? Bah.
But it worked brilliantly. It took me a week and 43 people, but by the 44th I could actually see the trait, and acknowledge it authentically. Until that point I just said the words, and was very surprised that people thanked me for noticing it, or just nodded in agreement.
I have used this in my coaching with the same surprising results.
My missing trait was “free.” Yours will be likely different.
So my acknowledgment was: “I see that you are free.” Or “I acknowledge you for being free”.
If your missing item is powerful, then you would say: “I can see that you are powerful”. You’ll be surprised to see how many people will be pleased to hear it.
How do you get your missing item? Go and read my post on the three wishes… it’s given there exactly.
This second exercise, done properly and past the time that you can actually see your missing trait, raises your vibration permanently.
In my courses you can get the same results, the same vibrational jump in just one or two sessions.
It is like swapping a pony express to an electric train. Big difference.
But without practicing validation (the first exercise) your vibration will be too low to get into my courses.
PS: It’s a good idea to watch the movie “Validation” before you start.