A assume that we are all afraid of being mislead, misguided, lied to. The fear is well-founded: most people don't know what they are talking about, most people are wrong, and some even lie so they can make money off you.
So what? I say... OK, don't run just yet.
Your fear is based on a meme that life is static. That there are mistakes and there are good steps. That whatever you build will last. That things will be the same as they were when you last looked...
This is the mouse vs. human comparison again.
The other day I looked out my window and i saw a dead deer. I went downstairs and turned out that the dead deer was actually just sleeping. The noise I made in the fallen leaves alerted it and its companion and they left in a hurry.
Only to return in a few minutes... They are not human, and they didn't suspect that I would be still standing there... and I wasn't. They looked and listened keenly before they return to their favorite sleeping spot, but they returned.
YOU would not.
OK... so what does this have to do with being coached?
When you are coached, or taught, or lead, guided. you keep your ears and eyes open, but you do what you are told... and you experience what you experience. You consider it an experiment. Temporary.
Hm... temporary, eh?
The only thing that is constant in reality is change. So considering things temporary makes a lot of sense, and actually allows you to escape some really harmful memes.
This morning I signed up to a 2-hour webinar, and allowed it to take me wherever it wanted to take me. I even resisted muscle testing. I just went, and trusted myself.
I know trusting yourself is alien to many of you... you've been stupid before, you can trust yourself to be stupid again. Me too.
Trusting myself means, to me, that I trust myself to recognize my stupid action, and to be able to be with the feeling of having done stupid. That is what I need to trust myself with...
The alternative is being stuck and carrying "stupid" for a lifetime. Ugh... not attractive.
After the two hour webinar was over, I discussed it with my Sunday rant talking partner and could see where the presenter in the webinar was wrong, but I could also see stuff I had never seen before, and without going down into the rabbit hole, willingly this morning, maybe I would have never seen it.
And the things I saw were important. I saw them because I didn't resist.
I saw that you can see the whole paradigm you are in, and the lower paradigms, but you can see any of the higher paradigms.
And when you try to make alterations in your own paradigm, more often than not, you are completely wrong.
OK, let me explain:
Most everybody knows that mindset is a crucial element of accomplishment. And nobody actually knows how to change mindset.
Every self-respecting course that promises results must start with a big chunk of mindset stuff...
And in spite of all that, the number of people who can benefit from any course is minute...
Why? Because unless the mindset stuff works, nothing works.
The person you are, the person you are when you buy the course, cannot, will not do the things in the course, or will do them according to their own rules... And the results are not forthcoming... Or said in another way: the results are different from what was promised, the results is you remaining the same.
This is true for everybody's course or program. My programs are no exception.
Because even though what I teach you, what I ask you to become the person who can, most people refuse to do what I teach, refuse to do what I ask them to do.
I am going to be real straight with you here... At this time I only know of one person who is actually doing the work I assigned people (everyone) to do. OK, if we count his wife who is not a client, then two people.
The rest? I think they don't see it as something they have to do. I see it as something either below them, or something that you do once, twice, and then you are done.
Much like understanding... ok, I understand, now I have it, I am done.
Who you are, the person who is going to attempt to produce results, didn't change. And therefore nothing will change.
Except for the person (couple) who are doing the work.
Humility is scary. When I ask you to guess at your humility, you guess at least a five on the scale of one to ten.
But most people are below three... And even at eight you are not willing to do what you are asked to do. You'll pick and choose what you'll do... and like with any system, unless you do the system, you did nothing.
I'm OK. I can tell you that you are going to remain the same. You'll do what you'll do with it.
I have found that the sharper the pain of being less than you can be, the more you are willing to do, until you run out of ambition.
Desire, I have found, is not helpful. Desire, in cahoots with the memes, tells you that you can imagine yourself at the top of the mountain, and it shall be so.
Desire doesn't know about physics, laws of physics, reality, process... none of it. Desire is your stupid magical thinking.
OK, I said what I needed to say, and yet, I have a sense that I wasn't heard.
Where did I lose you? Please comment below.
- I did a training program twice when I was in Landmark Education. The introduction leaders program. Seven months bootcamp. Intense. Hard.
On your application to be considered, they asked for proof that you take correction and direction well. To be at least somewhat certain that they don't waste their energy on you.
I use the Starting Point Measurements the same way... to gain some certainty. Because unless you are trainable, unless you do what you are asked to do, exactly, when you are asked to do it... you are a deadbeat. Arrogant deadbeat at that.