Your level of vibration closely correlates with your level of integrity. And the vibration of humans is dropping about 10 points a year…
The hallmark of low vibration is to see only what is visible… the obvious.
Not surprisingly the level of integrity closely matches the level of vibration… and trying to change the actions is an inefficient and ineffective way to integrity.
You are out of integrity… But you can always restore integrity by adjusting your direction to true north
One would think that the way to restore anything is to fix it… But all fixing is actions in the visible.
It is like pinning apples on a cherry tree… it doesn’t get you an apple tree.
So what is there to do? How can you restore integrity?
The best analogy for integrity is a bicycle wheel… When all the spokes are in, when all the spokes are straight, then the wheel has integrity: it will do what it is designed to do, what it is meant to do. When you just remove or bend one spoke, the integrity of the wheel is gone, and eventually the wheel will disintegrate.
One could say: integrity is a state of being whole and complete, perfectly aligned with the task at hand… whatever the task is.
Integrity is a lot like pregnancy. You are either pregnant or you are not.
So we can say: integrity is the strait and narrow. Sounds restrictive, and in a way it is.
Let’s look at integrity with another analogy: a fruit tree. For a fruit tree to be in integrity, it needs to be that same tree through and through. So, for example, a hybrid tree, a tree with different fruits on every branch, isn’t in integrity: the roots and the branches tell a different story. 1
Here is a popular “definition” of integrity. Of course there is not much integrity in this definition of integrity… because it talks about the top half of the “tree” and completely ignores the root/seed level.
A lack of integrity can devour credibility – especially if you’re in a position of authority.
Being “out of integrity” in our society is almost unforgivable:
He’s a hypocrite.
She’s a liar.
He can’t be counted on.
You can’t trust her; she says one thing and does another.
These character judgments are part of the reason so few people admit to mistakes and lean on weak excuses for lack of follow-through. And it is this fear of being judged that quietly destroys workplace cultures.
And yet we’re all human. We’ve all failed on a New Year’s resolution. We’ve all arrived late to an appointment. We’ve all had the best of intentions.
And our nature is to forgive someone who comes to us with hat in hand, who owns their rubbish and commits to a different future way of being.
So what if integrity weren’t a question of morality, ethics or character? But rather, simply one of workability.
When someone on your team is out of integrity, you can easily say, “this isn’t working.” And then work with them to get back in integrity – on the project, on the communication, on the commitments, etc.
Inspired by and reorganized from a quote by Landmark Education, here is the Whole Integrity checklist:
WHOLE Integrity checklist:
– Nothing hidden
– Being truthful and honest
– Doing complete work
– Working from an empowering context*
– Doing very well what you do
– Doing it as it was meant to be done or better without cutting corners
– Honoring one’s word
– Doing what you know to do
– Doing what you said you would do and on time
– Doing what others would expect you to do even if you haven’t said you would do it**
– Saying when you are not doing this as soon as you realize you won’t be doing it or won’t be doing it on time
*Empowering context means one refers to coming from a place of commitment and agreement and power. You’re not disparaging, undermining or bemoaning the task at hand.
• “I’m only doing this because he said I had to do it.”
• “This is stupid, but I’ll do it anyway.”
• “I think this is a waste of time, but someone’s got to do it.”
“I have to… I need to… I want to… I should…”
We are all responsible for our words and actions. If you think it’s a waste of time, constructively have the conversation to find out why the person who asked you to complete said task thinks it’s worth your time.
**This is the one where people bristle. What? I have to have integrity with something I didn’t agree to? Yes. It’s what’s expected of you. And you very likely are aware of those expectations, and unless you openly negotiate them, you are responsible for meeting them. For all the parents out there, has your child ever pulled, “You just said I have to go to bed, you didn’t say I have to go to sleep.”
So what is missing in that integrity checklist I found on another website getting hundreds of thousands of hits?
What is missing is the seed level…. It’s all apple polishing on the level of the branches. GMO… 🙁
Also not surprisingly, only four people registered in the upcoming seminar workshop: Falling in love with yourself.
Why? Because, when given the opportunity, most people will choose to remain the same, even if that same is miserable.
Restoring integrity is a full time job. It is confronting yourself, looking in the mirror and saying “ugh”.
I have people in my coaching program who are even willing to pay so they don’t have to change, so they don’t have to look at themselves.
We live in a warped world… I am glad I am old. I am glad I don’t have to interface with this world that much.
A world where the new norm is:
–be a puny or scaredy cat but imagine yourself a roaring lion
–be miserable but smile on your facebook pictures
–lie, lie, lie
–have sky high desire, while your ambition is zero… meaning you are not willing to do anything to earn what you want.
How do YOU fake your consciousness? It gets answered in the integrity workshop…
Get the integrity workshop recordings… and if you want, sign up to a new workshop where I’ll teach more about integrity… live
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