But they aren’t… And like with everything, on the current level of humanity we have a really hard time holding it together, and even hope for a life that is bearable.
But with knowledge can come power… and that is what I am offering in this article. 1
Self-actualization, self-realization means: becoming the best you.
And the definition of good (according to Robert Hartman) is: that which fulfills completely its purpose.
One main area of life where we have been living in a dense fog is feelings.
Why? because on the root level (think Tree!) nothing was revealed until a couple of years ago when a Hungarian engineer decided that it is time to approach this fog with the engineers understanding of dynamics… and he did a bang up job… meaning, an amazing job.
On feelings, in a completely different way…
The fact that I can explain why Phineas P Gage used foul language may be interesting only to a few neurologists or psychologists at best.
My statement that Descartes’s famous saying “Cogito ergo sum”, i.e. “I think, therefore I am” should be modified to “Sentio ergo sum”, i.e. “I feel, therefore I am” will give a real headache only to a few philosophers.
“Okay, but then why should simple mortals read this book?” you may ask.
Because it can help you find your way in the world, one of the many individual worlds, but the only world that exists for you as well: the world of feelings – the world of your feelings.
Until his book we only had books that made absolutely no difference…
And this Freud quote had a 50% truth value for everyone…
The life imposed on us is too hard for us to bear: it brings too much pain, too many disappointments, too many insoluble problems. If we are to endure it, we cannot do without palliative measures. … Of such measures there are perhaps three kinds: powerful distractions, which cause us to make light of our misery, substitutive satisfactions, which diminish it, and intoxicants, which anaesthetize us to it.
If you observed yourself (you probably don’t) you would see that this is true for you.
Our inner world, feelings, emotions, are impossible to have any power over, until you actually have some distinctions, until you actually can tell your ass from your elbow, and in this regard humanity is at a 7% truth value.
Everything biologists, geneticists, pharmacists, psychologists, medical doctors tell you has a maximum of 10% truth value, whether it is about what ails you, what you should eat, how you should live.
No clarity, no idea!
The man with one eye leads the blind, the blind leads the blind
If the blind lead the blind, both will fall into a pit
and this has been our reality… we live collectively in a pit.
But the Hungarian engineer’s book has clarified a huge part of the fog. With regards to feelings and emotions the Feelings/Words book combo has the power to bring up the truth value of our knowledge of ourselves to 50%. Not very high, but like air… like the view… like the life experience, living on the fifth floor as opposed to the first floor gives you a wider and deeper, and therefore a more accurate view of what is going on. What is what and what it wants to say.
Regarding humanity’s well being, this may be more significant than Einstein’s discovery.
Now, why is this not felt in the world?
Many of my students have read the books, and yet they are not much more powerful with their inner world… but why?
What is missing that if it were there, they would have a lot more power?
I am going to point to the most controversial, the most argued measurement in my Starting Point Measurements: your clarity score. It indicates the rest of the measurements… a very predictive number.
You can’t match words with feelings and/or emotions accurately: this is why I said: you can’t tell your ass from your elbow.
You don’t have an accurate vocabulary of feelings, behaviors, attitudes, desires, of pretty much anything.
Once you learn to match life to your words, or your words to life: life can open up for you and become your oyster.
So how do you increase your vocabulary of feelings?
I don’t know. I can only tell you how I did it:
This was before I knew I was an empath.
I used the Bach Flower Remedies as my teachers. And when I became good at them, knowing how each of those feelings/emotions felt and where, and how they moved, I asked Source to duplicate them, so I didn’t need the drops any more… I could just call them down… and they came… The energy of the feeling I called.
I have forgotten, my mind has forgotten most of what I learned there… it has disconnected the name of the flower and the feeling… but I can still recognize a feeling quite reliably… And then there is muscletest to make sure.
Today, I know I am a true empath. 🙁
I also know that without having gone through the study of the Bach Flower Remedies, I would NOT be a TRUE empaths… and between you and me, an empath is a dime a dozen, while a TRUE empath is rare.
Why? Because you are born with empathy, but only work makes you a TRUE empath, or a true anything, really.
Anyway, how did I study the Bach Flower Remedies?
Each plant, each remedy represents a negative feeling, a bad feeling, a restrictive, unpleasant, blockage creating feeling.
Each is associated with a word or a few words. Also each plant has a story, a behavior pattern in its natural habitat. I have the book that describes it in detail. Edward Bach describes the behavior of plants as if they were people… you can learn a lot about yourself and the people you deal with… Fascinating. 2
Hundreds upon hundreds of pages of original writing, and thousands of second-hand writings…
I am not going to suggest that you try to duplicate my efforts. Especially because you have a natural inclination to avoid bad feelings…
But I am going to suggest that you pick a few of your frequent bad feelings, and try to approach them analytically, with the intention to identify them accurately, and when succeeding at naming them, take them through the idea that all emotions are marker feelings.
Marker feelings is a concept invented by Margoczi, the Hungarian engineer.
The concept is that certain words are reliably coupled with certain negative feelings. It’s individual, it comes from the culture of your family, schooling, society, religion, etc. We can say: words trigger emotions.
- Most of you have a harsh reaction to the idea of “wrong”… I have only a tiny blip in my stomach.
- Worthless is a word that is strongly coupled for me with the need to kill myself.
Your words, your trigger words are, in my humble opinion, are very consistent with your soul correction.
When you increase your accurate vocabulary, your power over your life, your emotional states increases exponentially.
Even just adding one word can double your well-being, if that word is a dominant negative emotion.
For me, the first such word was: “I am personally offended”… I recognized it from the turned down corners of my mouth… And I could see how ridiculous that was to take everything so personally.
I haven’t felt that way for a long time now…
This morning I felt resentful. I felt imposed upon. I resented the way LIFE is treating me.
Once I identified the emotion, I could say: my resentment secretly says that life, reality should be different than it is… But that very moment I snapped out of it, because life, reality, is always the way it is, and my power comes from interacting with reality the way reality is, not how I think it should be. Duh.
Later I felt reluctant… and did a look and see what I must have said about what I was not wanting to do… writing this article… lol… I probably said: a waste of time! ugh.
All emotions are marker feelings. Fear, anxiety, worry, trepidation, stinginess, holding back, hate, regret, guilt, shame… all of them. How many feelings are there? About as many as the energies in my “famed” Heaven on Earth, the bundle of Bach Flower Energies®
We have more words than 40, but only those 40 are a perfect match to the emotions.
Most people have access to about seven… The more you have access to, the more you’ll enjoy reading fiction, the more access you’ll have to good feelings… but you have what you have.
Your job, if you want to move to a higher level of life, need to gain power, or better said: pull back your power from those pesky words that make you miserable.
This is not to say: replace them with a positive word. That theory doesn’t hold water. That theory is to turn you into sheep.
No, what you need to do is discredit the words. Like I discredited the two words creating the two feelings, resentment and offended.
With an intelligent conversation.
One of the programs I actively help you to do that is the Playground.
That is where I give you everything I have to cause you to be emotionally intelligent.
But even before you come to the Playground, I recommend that you start using the Heaven on Earth energy remedy in liquid format… and start learning the feelings each remedy flower represents.
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|emotional intelligence||Emotional Intelligence is the capacity to be aware of, control, and express one’s emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empatheticly… according to the dictionary. In my humble view, and experience, emotional intelligence is also the ability to relate to the world, to others, to yourself through reality, NOT through the immensely manipulable emotions, manipulable through words that indicate that something is wrong.|
|self awareness||self-awareness is the conscious knowledge of one’s own character, feelings, motives, and desires, accurately, without a filter… we call the filter the Precious “I”. When what you see and what is overlap or are the same, we say that there is little self-delusion|
|emotionally intelligent||People with high EQs master their emotions because they understand them, and they use an extensive vocabulary of feelings to do so. While many people might describe themselves as simply feeling “bad,” emotionally intelligent people can pinpoint whether they feel “irritable,” “frustrated,” “downtrodden,” or “anxious.”|
|your emotions||your emotions are not the same as your feelings. All feelings are short and guiding, while emotions are the reactions to the guidance feelings, your personal reactions. Given your personal history, you’ll react to a guidance feeling with resistance, or with some meaning that has a version of “wrong” in it… and your reaction to wrong is what you feel.|
|what is emotional intelligence?||Emotional intelligence is the ability to navigate your feelings, your emotions, with surety, without much guessing, or drama. If you don’t know the name of the emotion you’ll come to a different, false, conclusion as to what to do with it or what it is trying to tell you. So the first step to emotional intelligence is inside your vocabulary.|
|emotional intelligence||Most people lack emotional intelligence for two reasons: they are uneducated, and therefore don’t have a lot of shades of gray in their vocabulary. The other reason is that they were mislead by the people who most influenced them as a child… and who most rewarded them for feelings and behaviors that were not authentic to them.|
- I read some of Aristotle’s stuff. Honestly, I was just looking for his stuff on logic… reasoning, but what i found is his writing on the human body.
I had no idea, and had never given a thought about what people thought about how our bodies work thousands of years ago.
I was stunned. They thought the heart was the brain. That breathing was the soul… or the spirit… In Hungarian the words still reflect this level of truth value… less than 1%.
So suddenly it made sense to me how little we know, and how sure we are in our knowledge… wrongly.
The current level of knowledge, truth value, is 7%. Pitifully low. And we think we know everything. We live like we know everything. And the 7% is the level of scientists! Your level is still in the stone ages! yuck.
- I muscle test your Bach profile for you… lately I have been focusing on the flower that is most blocking the Life Force for you, the one that if you manage to learn from, you’ll find out what you want most in life, and what you are driving for… most of the time it coincides with your racket.