Feelings, emotions… if you could just feel better! How to increase your emotional intelligence?

We talk about feelings and emotions as if they were the same...

But they aren't... And like with everything, on the current level of humanity we have a really hard time holding it together, and even hope for a life that is bearable.

But with knowledge can come power... and that is what I am offering in this article. -->Click to read footnote 1

Self-actualization, self-realization means: becoming the best you.

And the definition of good (according to Robert Hartman) is: that which fulfills completely its purpose.

One main area of life where we have been living in a dense fog is feelings.

The establishment of the "science" of psychology hasn't helped, in fact it just made the fog deeper.

Why? because on the root level (think Tree!) nothing was revealed until a couple of years ago when a Hungarian engineer decided that it is time to approach this fog with the engineers understanding of dynamics... and he did a bang up job... meaning, an amazing job.

Margoczi writes:

On feelings, in a completely different way...
The fact that I can explain why Phineas P Gage used foul language may be interesting only to a few neurologists or psychologists at best.

My statement that Descartes's famous saying "Cogito ergo sum", i.e. "I think, therefore I am" should be modified to "Sentio ergo sum", i.e. "I feel, therefore I am" will give a real headache only to a few philosophers.

"Okay, but then why should simple mortals read this book?" you may ask.

Because it can help you find your way in the world, one of the many individual worlds, but the only world that exists for you as well: the world of feelings – the world of your feelings.

Until his book we only had books that made absolutely no difference...

And this Freud quote had a 50% truth value for everyone...

The life imposed on us is too hard for us to bear: it brings too much pain, too many disappointments, too many insoluble problems. If we are to endure it, we cannot do without palliative measures. ... Of such measures there are perhaps three kinds: powerful distractions, which cause us to make light of our misery, substitutive satisfactions, which diminish it, and intoxicants, which anaesthetize us to it.

If you observed yourself (you probably don't) you would see that this is true for you.

But why?

Our inner world, feelings, emotions, are impossible to have any power over, until you actually have some distinctions, until you actually can tell your ass from your elbow, and in this regard humanity is at a 7% truth value.

Everything biologists, geneticists, pharmacists, psychologists, medical doctors tell you has a maximum of 7% truth value, whether it is about what ails you, what you should eat, how you should live.

No clarity, no idea!

The man with one eye leads the blind, the blind leads the blind

If the blind lead the blind, both will fall into a pit

and this has been our reality...

But the Hungarian engineer's book has clarified a huge part of the fog. With regards to feelings and emotions the Feelings/Words book combo has brought up our knowledge's truth value to 50%

Regarding humanity's well being, this is more significant than Einstein's discovery.

Now, why is this not felt in the world?

Many of my students have read the books, and yet they are not much more powerful with their inner world... but why? What is missing that if it were there, they would have a lot more power?

I am going to point to the most controversial, the most argued measurement in my Starting Point Measurements: your clarity score.

You can't match words with feelings and/or emotions accurately: this is why I said: you can't tell your ass from your elbow.

You don't have an accurate vocabulary.

Once you do: life can open up for you and become your oyster.

So how do you increase your vocabulary about feelings?

I don't know. I can only tell you how I did it:

I used the Bach Flower Remedies as my teachers. And when I became good at them, knowing how each of those feelings/emotions felt and where, and how they moved, I asked Source to duplicate them, so I don't need the drops any more...

Now, I am a true empath. Without going through the study of the Bach Flower Remedies, I would NOT be a TRUE empaths... and between you and me, an empath is a dime a dozen, while a TRUE empath is rare.

Why? Because you are born with empathy, but only work makes you a TRUE empath, or a true anything, really.

Anyway, how did I study the Bach Flower Remedies?

Each plant, each remedy represents a negative feeling, a bad feeling, a restrictive, unpleasant, blockage creating feeling.

Each is associated with a word or a few words. Also each plant has a story, a behavior pattern in its natural habitat.

Hundreds upon hundreds of pages of original writing, and thousands of second-hand writings...

I am not going to suggest that you try duplicate my efforts. Especially because you have a natural inclination to avoid bad feelings...

But I am going to suggest that you pick a few of your frequent bad feelings, and try to approach them analytically, with the intention to identify them accurately, and when succeeding at naming them, take them through the idea that all emotions are marker feelings.

Marker feelings is a concept invented by Margoczi, the Hungarian engineer.

The concept is that certain words are reliably coupled with certain negative feelings. It's individual, it comes from the culture of your family, schooling, society, religion, etc. We can say: words trigger emotions.

  • Most of you have a harsh reaction to the idea of "wrong"... I have only a tiny blip in my stomach.
  • Worthless is a word that is strongly coupled for me with the need to kill myself.

Your words, your trigger words are, in my humble opinion, are very consistent with your soul correction.

When you increase your accurate vocabulary, your power over your life, your emotional states increases exponentially.

Even just adding one word can double your well-being, if that word is a dominant negative emotion.

For me, the first such word was: "I am personally offended"... I recognized it from the turned down corners of my mouth... And I could see how ridiculous that was to take everything so personally.

I haven't felt that way for a long time now...

This morning I felt resentful. I felt imposed upon. I resented the way LIFE is treating me.

Once I identified the emotion, I could say: my resentment secretly says that life, reality should be different than it is... But that very moment I snapped out of it, because life, reality, is always the way it is, and my power comes from interacting with reality the way reality is, not how I think it should be. Duh.

Later I felt reluctant... and did a look and see what I must have said about what I was not wanting to do... writing this article... lol... I probably said: a waste of time! ugh.

All emotions are marker feelings. Fear, anxiety, worry, trepidation, stinginess, holding back, hate, regret, guilt, shame... all of them. How many feelings are there? About as many as the energies in my "famed" Heaven on Earth, the bundle of Bach Flower Energies®


We have more words than 40, but only those 40 are a perfect match to the emotions.

Most people have access to about seven... The more you have access to, the more you'll enjoy reading fiction, the more access you'll have to good feelings... but you have what you have.

Your job, if you want to move to a higher level of life, need to gain power, or better said: pull back your power from those pesky words that make you miserable.

This is not to say: replace them with a positive word. That theory doesn't hold water. That theory is to turn you into sheep.

No, what you need to do is discredit the words. Like I discredited the two words creating the two feelings, resentment and offended.

With an intelligent conversation.

One of the programs I actively help you to do that is the Playground. I am ready to start a women only group. Why keep men and women separately? Because men are from Mars and women are from Venus... they can be considered separate species, as far as the Playground method goes.

I am flexible with regards to starting times... 7 am on... I have one woman enrolled, she is in the UK...

Use https://www.timeanddate.com/worldclock/meetingtime.html to see if you have compatible times with her.

Then write to me... I am flexible, but she isn't... so best to first.

Once you are cleared, here is the button to register

If you'd rather have private conversations with me on identifying and eliminating your triggered emotions, please contact me so I can decide if I can produce the results for you. Email is best. contact me


  1. I read some of Aristotle's stuff. Honestly, I was just looking for his stuff on logic... reasoning, but what i found is his writing on the human body.

    I had no idea, and had never given a thought about what people thought about how our bodies work thousands of years ago.

    I was stunned. They thought the heart was the brain. That breathing was the soul... or the spirit... In Hungarian the words still reflect this level of truth value... less than 1%.

    So suddenly it made sense to me how little we know, and how sure we are in our knowledge... wrongly.

    The current level of knowledge, truth value, is 7%. Pitifully low. And we think we know everything. We live like we know everything. And the 7% is the level of scientists! Your level is still in the stone ages! yuk.

Author: Sophie Benshitta Maven

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2 thoughts on “Feelings, emotions… if you could just feel better! How to increase your emotional intelligence?”

  1. I clicked on the Map of Bach Emotions where you map invisibles with bodily parts and flowers. (Had never seen this chart before, this is a Sophie discovery?? It’s amazing… It’s like being told the world isn’t flat…) I was looking up the flowers you identified on me last year: Star of Bethlehem, Pine, Yew and Peacock. Where in/on the body are ego and seat of the soul located please? Discrediting the words in the Playground will be an adventure… I hope some more women sign up cos we are definitely from Venus.

  2. yes, it is a Sophie discovery… lol.

    The seat of the soul is a triangle standing on its point, just above the heart, top is the clavicle
    the seat of the soul
    the seat of the ego is the green square right over the lung… restricting the spirit and breathing.
    seat of the ego, the green square

    I definitely hope that someone will show up to partner up with you… a woman…

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