You hate your job? It is boring? It’s not exciting?

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You hate your job? It is boring? It doesn’t make a difference? You are not good at it? It just pays the bills but no fulfillment?

George Bernard Shaw wrote more than a hundred years ago:

‘This is the true joy in life, the being used for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one; the being a force of nature instead of a feverish, selfish little clod of ailments and grievances complaining that the world will not devote itself to making you happy.’ 

And what he wrote about you, being a feverish, selfish little clod of ailments and grievances… is more true today than it was in his time.

No one has offered a solution to that issue until now.

It is difficult to see beyond your selfish little self-interests…

It probably won’t surprise you that the most successful people, the producers, are able to separate their emotions from reality, and they more often act on reality than on self-concern. And when they act on emotion, they are just as stupid, inane, and ineffective as you are.

In MY job there is a way to be where I am the teacher and I know what I want to teach, and then I teach that.

And there is a second way when I ask: What wants to be taught?

What causes you to be that feverish, selfish little clod of ailments and grievances?

It’s emotions. Or more precisely: emotional reaction to thoughts, words, rules, should be’s and shouldn’t be’s… to what is right and what is wrong, to what is good and what is evil.

In a previous course of mine, can’t remember which, I use a metaphor, or simile… reality is empty, or mostly empty. It is the sky. And the emotions are the clouds trying to hide reality, cover up reality, replace reality… competing for your attention.

Your life, your effectiveness in life, your happiness depends on your behavior towards the clouds.

If you only see the clouds, you don’t see reality, and you are wretched, emotionally jerked by the clouds.

In effect it all comes from the Original Sin: accepting the Tree of Knowledge as the ultimate guide to life… and grossly ignoring the Tree of Life… aka Reality.

If you want a different life from the life you are heading towards… your job is to unlearn what is largely invisible to you: Identify the water you swim in…

You don’t see things as they are, you see things as YOU are…

Life’s but a walking shadow, a poor player,
That struts and frets his hour upon the stage,
And then is heard no more. It is a tale
Told by an idiot, full of sound and fury,
Signifying nothing.

That was Shakespeare, talking about you, about your life, about how you live your life.

What he means to talk about is a life lived by emotions… without using the brain, the organ of rational thinking, the organ of perceiving reality, or more importantly telling apart the drama, the emotions and reality… and base life on reality.

Until now no one blamed your proclivity, your tendency to choose to look into what you feel on your miserable life.

When you use your emotions to guide you, you

  • 1. make decisions that don’t serve you, don’t serve the mission, don’t serve anything worth serving, other than misery
  • 2. you have no idea what you think, what you want, who you are…
  • 3. you feel stupid and justified… after all you acted on the ‘right thing’, the human thing, your emotions.

For you everything is the same as everything else… except that not always.

Even the way you eat… you put sauce, ketchup, salt, hot sauce or whatever you put on every food to taste the same.

And You have no inkling what reality tastes, looks, is like. You never look there. You could have no eyes, no ears, and you would behave the same way.

Some of you got into my programs because I could not hear what you said.

I just distinguished this… Because I didn’t fully have the distinction either.

I didn’t hear that you said: your goal is to feel different about your life, about yourself without changing anything.

I accepted you by mistake.

You had no interest in changing what you do, changing where you look, you just hoped that you can do the same thing, feeling differently about it or about the same results.

I am adding a new measure to the Starting Point Measurements, starting today. The new measure will tell me to what degree you honor your feelings as reality…

It is the number that will tell me to what degree you are unsuited for a life of effectiveness, a life lived successfully.

Until and unless that number comes down to maximum 10%, you’ll be that little clod of ailments and grievances complaining that the world will not devote itself to making you happy.

It should be obvious by now, that the course I teach this in, the course where you can learn how to do this, and practice it, is the Playground.

Because the world is full of emotionally guided people, because that seems to be the rule of the game for the inferior, and because you’ve been trained to be that, the course will take at least a year to make a major and lasting difference.

Daily practice… instead of exams the learning is all practical: where do you look?

If you are a woman: this is harder for you, twice as hard.

I am a woman: was it easy for me?

It wasn’t. Then again, I am not your ‘normal’ woman. I was born and raised without love. I have a rubber face, expressive, animated…

Once I handled the handful of issues every person has, I settled into a life of no emotions.

Of course, without knowing the principle, it took me a lot of trials and errors, false starts.

When I go back in time to see who were the literary heroes I admired, and wanted to read their adventures again and again (still do) all those heroes are like me: not guided by emotions.

Informed, but not guided.

They are my mentors, a small army. I am an avid reader.

And then there is the huge army of emotionally guided others: they are the enemy. The enemy of life… as I see it.

I have been looking at what is common among people who I can train, who are interested in what I have to offer.

I have found that people who relate to their job, their occupation, their activity emotionally, are the most miserable, and therefore the most likely to look at that as a problem, and maybe actively look for a solution.

When you live an emotionally guided existence, you have no guidance available to you innately, because there are too many feelings ravaging you.

So, left to your own devices, asking the questions you have been asking, you will not have effective guidance towards finding what activities would be able to provide fulfillment, work that you can do well and enjoy doing.

I had the same issue back in 1966. I had already applied to architecture school, 20 times over-application,  meaning each available spot had 20 applicants competing for it. Lots of work vs having my own TV show, play my guitar, sing, talk to people… and be a celebrity… maybe. No guarantees of success there.

I was clear enough to be able to do a thought experiment, at least about the better known life of a TV celebrity… and I saw the obvious traps there: men, sex, alcohol, and mostly waiting for the show to come up… idle waiting.

Even the thought experiment could tell me that it’s a boring career, so I opted for architecture school.

Little did I know how unhappy I was going to be after graduation.

I started to see clearly when I could see that I can watch TV at my drafting board, and the job was getting done. I felt my brain atrophy… and me become bored and boring.

No music, no poetry, no dance, no talking, no discovery, no learning anything… tedium. A life not suitable for me.

I saw that I needed an occupation where every day was filled with discovery, taking personal risk, penetrating the mystery of the universe, and dance and words for self expression. Play. Be quick on my feet… Be able to be with just about anyone… that is a life for me.

It all became crystal clear with my own Juice Exercise… I saw that bringing the Divine to Everything is the principle that unifies it for me, makes it all enjoyable.

Sometimes I say: It is all in a day’s work… that is bringing the Divine to whatever I am asked to do, even if the activity is not a pleasant one… even if it involves tedium, pain, or bad smell :-(.

It is all in a day’s work… because when your life is your work, you can include everything.

But you need to know yourself. You need to know what makes your life your work… and for that you need help. My help.

Finding Your Work… with the famous Juice Exercise, and then probably follow-up calls…

But just knowing won’t lead you to enough clarity to pursue the new direction.

But it all starts with the hour-long session… That I am willing to run a special on that for a while, to see if I am wrong about you, or right about you.

Whatever answer I get is the answer I need. If you are not interested… I want to know.

Can’t afford it right now, but want it? I want to know. No obligation… just feedback.

You see, as long as you are boring, you are also bored. The spirit is dead inside. You have homework attitude about life, and no matter what I do, that spirit will remain dead until you start giving it some food.

What does the spirit want?

It wants to fly. Why fly? To soar, to see places, to experience.

In my humble opinion one of the reasons the pandemic and the holidays are lowering your vibration, your aliveness, your spirit is because you are most likely doing what is safe, what fits your small box.

So what did I do during the holidays?

I read. I watched movies I had on my computer. Movies that reliably take me on a journey. Movies that INSPIRE the spirit to fly.

I talked to my brother who lives on the other side of the world, and be interested in hearing his thoughts. Not about his family, although I have room for that, but not much. I wanted to hear his thoughts about politics, his favorite subject.

If you want to know and maybe even watch the movies I have on my computer, I have many on my mobile app, and I can upload more…

I have pristine taste in movies… And I only keep movies I want to watch every year…

Some of my movies will take you to worlds that you didn’t know you wanted to go, like Irina Palm. The Guru. The Girl on the Bridge. Babette’s Feast. After the Wedding.

Each movie has a major distinction it deals with… and very profound.

I charge $1 for your first movie, so I don’t expose myself to freebie seekers.

So if you are not ready for the Juice Exercise… what should you do? I am thinking that maybe we could do a group Juice Exercise class… what do you think?

For now I’ll use the workshop I’ve already scheduled. I’ll use that workshop (What’s Missing) to add a segment where we look how to really have the ‘what are you building with that’ process in a way that it lights you up?

So far your attempts are pitiful… so you need some training.

Come to this free training

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Author: Sophie Benshitta Maven

True empath, award winning architect, magazine publisher, transformational and spiritual coach and teacher, self declared Avatar

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