The truth value of those books is about 40%... more for reasons of omission than for reasons of false teaching.
I have learned in Landmark Education that regret, remorse, resentment, the "infamous" three R's are useless, and harmful.
I dare to differ.
- They may be useless if you are unwilling to take responsibility for what they are signaling.
- They may be useless or harmful if you make them your mood for life... pretending that you are a victim... you were never a victim, although you may have had abuse, misuse, or failures in your life.
What makes you a victim (also called an effect) is the unwillingness to take responsibility for what belongs to you...
That unwillingness to take responsibility is what triggers more abuse, make you go back for more abuse. This is what fuels the invisible dynamic we call "the racket".
Very useful. I can now use that feeling, regret, as a guidance... thank you. One more tool in my toolbox to walk the strait and narrow.
Now, in my 70's: I can't see how I am going to have it filled in with a fake tooth... so, at least for a while, I will have to be seen as a person who can't or won't get their smile fixed. And I smile an awful lot... I was thinking of taping my mouth for my public appearances, like I tape it for sleeping... lol.
Will I? We'll see in a few hours: it is Tuesday, it is group exercise time... And the guiding feeling is fear.
I know this fear. Fearing what others will say about me... just like I say about them.
It's decision time. In this decision I will either strengthen who I am, or weaken it. The Self...
Here is how I see it: I am OK with being different from others, but that doesn't excuse me from being in harmony with life, do what works, and do little or none of the things that don't... even if everybody does it around me. So can I be in harmony with life with missing a front tooth?
So as I promised I went to my exercise class... and I was OK. The interesting thing was: nobody said anything. They averted their glances from my mouth... just like people weren't even opening my article that asked them, yesterday: are you weak?. Or my invitation to a chat about what prevents them from wanting to have win-win communication with their family.
I think that in today's age, with today's humanity, no one has to worry about what other people think of you... they don't think of you. They only think of themselves. (if this is familiar, it is straight out of The Fountainhead... lol)
I have been looking for guidance, living by some guidance all my life... it is not easy to distinguish if a nudge is a guidance or a push off the cliff.
You may want to grow some balls.
How do you do that? The way you grow anything: from a seed, slowly, patiently, committedly.
Do I teach that? I do teach that... Where? What course?
OK, confession time: In the courses themselves I teach you what to do, how to do it, but that is not enough. That is why all my courses come with an email coaching contract, where we talk, one on one, in email... I often talk audio back... People find that hearing my voice makes the communication cut through your bullsh*t.
Because what is in the way is your bullsh*t... nothing else.
What is your bullsh*t you ask? Your propensity to look away when what you see is not pleasant... like the other people in my exercise class... lol. not funny.