Change your perspective to change your experience of life

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Life looks different the moment you look from a different place, in a different way.

This article is about those different ways… Tiny actions, big big big effect. On your life, on your mood, on your experience.

The first step is to look at things from others’ point of view. To reduce the size of “mememe” by getting out of your way.

  1. People aren’t against you; they are for themselves.

When you can see that, clearly, without judgment, you are looking from the sideways position. You are not in the picture, only as another representative of “people”… neither the protagonist, nor the victim.

This is the perspective I took on when I managed to free myself of hatred of

  • 1. Hitler
  • 2. of Hungary
  • 3. of Trump
  • 4. of some other people where I experienced myself or mine to be victimized.
  • and, of course, my parents, whatever they did. This last part took me a good 20 years, because I didn’t have a structure like The Playground, where I can get through all that in a few months.

In the Playground you get together with another participant I assign as your partner, and have a 40 to 90 minute call where you go and visit all the people, all the situations, all the ideas, all the incidents where you felt angry, hurt, slighted, diminished, disrespected… and take a different perspective as you look at them. Amazingly effective if you actually do take a different perspective.

If you don’t… we’ll all know that you are getting some payoff, goodies, from remaining the same.

Now: warning. When you get all entangled in a movie, for example, that you get all tense as if you were in the movie… you just made the opposite perspective change: you are now taking everything personally, inside the movie… I have done that before. And then, even though nothing is going on in my life, I go through the whole “human experience” you always live in… tightness, resistance, anger, hate, jealousy, envy, judgment…

I have been stepping out when this inevitably happens… and stop watching…

All movie makers want is pull you in, take sides, and suffer… It seems that the more you suffer the more you liked the movie.

Is that stupid or what?

2. Climb mountains not so that the world can see you, but so you can see the world.

This is a total life saver. Anything you do in order to what you hope to get out of it is drudgery and sure to bring resentment… even if what you hope for is appreciation, fame, fortune, love, accolades…

Even when it comes, it is like fake light… doesn’t fill you up, doesn’t warm you, doesn’t nurture you.

So stay with what you are doing, and enjoy the fruits that are available in the work… not the results.

This may be the most counter-cultural perspective, but it is soooo worth learning and mastering.

This was my main stumbling block for decades, and finally I managed to master it… knock on wood… lol

3. You learn more from failure than from success. Don’t let that stop you. Failure builds character.

This is like the second perspective above, just worded differently. On your path TO success, you’ll make bad decision, you’ll make poor assumptions, and the result will not be forthcoming. But you can put all power in all action, regardless. What failures are about is to see what you did that caused the different result than you expected.

This in every area of life.

If you are willing to take on that the strait and narrow is a principle, and that everything is successful because the 99% non-successful steps were eliminated, failures teach you a lot more than successes… now you know not to go that way.

I have been living like this for quite some time. When I didn’t, I was always scrambling, and I had the confusion of too many ways, too many choices.

When I advise people on their diet by giving them their food list, they all want to know what are the really really really beneficial foods.

While I recommend that they remove the offending, non-beneficial, toxic for them foods… Your fastest result comes from there.

I, occasionally, without thinking, put something in my mouth that should be on my no list… I don’t actually make a list for myself, because I have the gift of muscle testing while connected to Source.

So when I put that thing in my mouth, my health number drops 20-30-40 points… which is going from well, to not well. I wake up to my mistake, eliminate the offending food, and I climb back to wellness.

But you, my dear client have a max 10% health number… if you eat something offending, you won’t even notice. 10% means you have no energy, you are foggy, you are not well.

So do what I say: remove the nono foods… it is the fastest way, and perfectly enough.

4. The most dangerous risk of all is the risk of spending your life not doing what you want to do on the bet that you can buy yourself the freedom to do it later

We are not even talking about procrastination only… we are talking about postponing.

In the Hillel three line teaching the line this refers to is “If not now, when?”

Time is real and it is also an illusion. You, me, all think that we have time… but time lost, time wasted, cannot be reclaimed.

This doesn’t mean jumping into something unprepared. No… doing preparation, learning, skill building, becoming the person who can actually DO what you want to do IS BEING IN ACTION…

But what I normally see is talk talk talk… and no action. That talk is lying.

So you are a liar… and you’ve got the life of a liar: self-hate galore. Congratulations, you got what you deserved.

Becoming the person who can actually do what you want to do is where I and my programs shine most… by the way.

5. Go where you are celebrated not where you are tolerated

Almost every student I have hangs out with people who at best tolerate them. These are, most of the time, their birth family.

6. The person that you will spend the most time in life is yourself. So better try to make yourself as interesting as possible.

Most of you are boring. Certainly to others… Nothing is happening in your life, nothing worth writing home about, nothing worth talking about.

What makes life and you interesting is having a different vantage point, different from other people’s, different from what you had before, different…

I can hear in your partner calls the sameness. YOU ARE BORING.

7. If you accept your limitations, you can go beyond them. If you resist them, fight them, want to deny them, you won’t be able to go beyond them.

You have a lot of limitations. You fight them tooth and nail… hoping that focusing on your limitations will get you unstuck. But it is like focusing on the wall… instead of the door, when you want to walk out of a room. Stupid. Ineffective. Wasteful.

I started to get some results in my life when I accepted that I am stupid. I am not smart by any stretch of the imagination.

I then started to go out and observe people… and I found that people who are stupid, seemingly, could do anything… get rich, have a good marriage, be well…

If they can be stupid and do well in life, then I can… and I will.

I didn’t get better, but I got a lot more results than before, because I went for it… not like before. I was too busy to prove that I wasn’t stupid.

8. People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing. That is why we recommend it daily

I don’t know about motivation. But once you diligently remove what keeps you stuck in doing the same thing over and over again, expecting a different result, you’ll feel motivated to do something… And if you already have a project, do your project.

But you have to remove all the sticky and seductive “views” of life, that can keep you busy, but not doing anything.

I have a student who NEVER has any time on doing that work… instead she is busy trying to fix everyone, including herself.

Stuck stuck stuck. Vibration 100

9. Everyone you meet is afraid of something, loves something, and has lost something

This is probably the hardest perspective to assume and master: it requires you to be nimble on your feet.

It seems that you have to care, have compassion, but that is not a requirement. You just need to see that the other person has something going on that has nothing to do with you. Really. F…ck… right? You are NOT the center of the universe?! Not everything is about you?!

Yeah, this principle puts them into the center of your vantage point… so that you can take your eyes of yourself… and finally produce some results.

10. Comfort is the enemy of achievement.

Yeah, I almost forgot about this one… comfort, looking at life from the same place, is the death of achievement… the death of everything you have ever wanted.


OK… What should you do now that you have chewed yourself through so much “wisdom”?

Well, pick the principle, the way to change your perspective, that you CAN put into action. Let me know which one it is in the comments. And if you feel especially generous, tell me why, and how it is going to help you.

And if that works well, I’ll do a webinar tomorrow at 4 pm my time, that will deal with this whole idea of perspective shifting… like shifting paradigms.

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Author: Sophie Benshitta Maven

True empath, award winning architect, magazine publisher, transformational and spiritual coach and teacher, self declared Avatar

4 thoughts on “Change your perspective to change your experience of life”

  1. Number 1 and 9 (I guess they go together) are hardest for me and I think will make the biggest change for me right now. I think I have been starting to “get” number 10 – that’s why I sold the farm I loved so much and am about to start over. I’ll be working on changing my perspective over and over again.

    #1 People aren’t against you; they are for themselves.
    #9 Everyone you meet is afraid of something, loves something, and has lost something
    10. Comfort is the enemy of achievement.

  2. My suggestion would be, for you, the one where it says: you have nothing to prove… For me the most important shift EVER happened when I stopped proving that I was smart… and accepted that I was stupid. The moment I got my attention back, I was able to put it where it produced results I wanted to produce. Without that step I would have never become fulfilled, and joyful. NEVER.

    not obvious, but this is the meme that says that: 2. Climb mountains not so that the world can see you, but so you can see the world

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