Updated: When you don’t hurry, time doesn’t hurry either. When you are prepared you can afford to not hurry

Hurry is a reliable sign of the Fixed Mindset. Fixed mindset and growth mindset describe the underlying beliefs, the invisible part of the iceberg of your beliefs that crash the Titanic! you have about learning, effort, and intelligence. When you believe they can get smarter, you may understand that effort makes you stronger.

there is no hurry on the creative plane... hurry and mistakes go togetherI am updating this article I wrote four years ago, to include the distinction "fixed mindset".

An article I wrote about IQ and your inability to see higher than 1 degree above your level, and about 5 degrees below your level fell on dead silence. Hm, interesting. It seems to have violated something unsaid, and got caught in the filter the mind mounts to stop disturbing news to enter your consciousness.

I shared this with the woman who drives me to do my errands on every Tuesday, and watched her emotions (remember, I am a True Empath!)... the emotions were "holding your breath, playing possum: I am not even here... Nobody home, I didn't hear you..."

I pondered it until I saw it: we don't like our bubble burst. We want our self-image to stay the way it is, so all of life can stay the same.

This, in spite of all the wants to be more, live more, do more, have more. In spite of the desire to raise your vibration. Why? Because it's scary. It is scary to hear that our worst fears are true. Or maybe even worse than we feared them to be.

Before that conversation I had never measured MY IQ. I didn't want to know it... for the same reason: maybe I am as stupid as I am afraid I am... ugh. But because of how the conversation went, I could not avoid it. I had to show the whole picture of the inability to see beyond the narrow cone of vision, and that included exposing myself.

I had a pleasant surprise, my worst fears can be put to rest. 140 is not stupid. (I often wonder how someone with 140 IQ do stupid things like I often do... but that is neither here or there... By the way, being willing to be stupid is a high spiritual, high vibration state. It is an excellent starting point for a growth mindset.)

Now, let me look at something that you didn't expect, didn't know, and it will be a surprise to you:

Because I didn't know I was smart, because I thought that I was a little feeble minded, I have replaced smarts with preparation. With work. With diligence. And with patience.

Most people I know are in the habit of winging it. Winging it means that you don't know what's coming, you are not prepared, you didn't do the work, and you rely on your superior intelligence to cut the muster 1 , to solve the issues, to win the games of life for you, to succeed.

People, the wingers as we'll call them, are always in a hurry, always behind, always making mistakes, wrong turns, a lot of waste, a lot of driving, a lot of time spent on stuff.

Given that I was certain that my abilities were not up to par, I've substituted for the lower brain power by preparing, creating systems, analyzing, and finding the fastest and least wasteful ways of doing things.

I am always on time or early. I almost never forget or lose anything. I wear the right clothes, I know what I want to buy, I know where the things I buy are in the store, I have a list, I have a list of what I can eat... I know how much money I have on my card... I am prepared.

Way before I leave home, I look at the map and study it, no matter where I need to be. I spent a lot of my time studying the maps of all the areas I have ever lived, especially the three most difficult cities I lived in, Budapest, Jerusalem, and Syracuse, NY. I have found the shortcuts, the way to go when there is a traffic jam, where the signs can't be trusted, etc. I take into consideration that I am dyslexic: I can't tell my right from left, north from south... so preparation is the key to not getting lost.

I don't do things mindlessly: I pay attention about 90% of the time. All time-wasters come from the 10% when I am not awake, when I am not present. Also all the complaints about me being too blunt...

For me, it was a matter of survival to perform on the level of a superior intelligence despite my lack of it. I was born into a family of geniuses, and I wasn't going to be less.

My little brother is the exact opposite of me. He doesn't know he is not as intelligent as the rest, so he doesn't invest into preparation, or study. He treats me as his inferior: his IQ is 100.

Now, if you could substitute smarts with preparation and work, and as a result you would never had to hurry, you would have time for everything you want to do, never miss a deadline, never have to apologize, and you would know that you can do it, would you want to know where you are standing in matters of intelligence, and capacity?

pretense fast computer, pretense high iqIf we spoke computers we would say that IQ speaks for processor speed and RAM. Slower computers can do everything (almost everything) a faster computer can, but you

  1. need to prepare the task better to remove redundancy, to organize the sub-tasks better
  2. you need to do some of the work manually
  3. and it will take you longer to get the result. But you would get the results! And that is my point.

PS: fast doesn't mean hurry, and hurry doesn't equal fast.

PPS:

  • Nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished. ~ Lao Tzu
  • We occasionally stumble over the truth but most of us pick ourselves up and hurry off as if nothing had happened. ~ Winston Churchill
  • It's too late to dig a well when you are already thirsty
  • When you hurry, your intelligence is cut in half
  • An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure
  • Spend 90% of your time on sharpening your saw (preparation)

PPPS: Because I didn't think I was smart, I substituted speed with preparation, effectiveness and efficiency wherever I could. Where it wasn't enough, I invested tenacity and persistence: after all, just like water, you can eat your way through steel... with some tenacity and patience.

PPPPS: Here is a recording of a webinar for you where I taught how to re-invent yourself as a winner. the link to the webinar recording
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Keywords: Description:
growth mindset Fixed mindset and growth mindset describe the underlying beliefs, the invisible part of the iceberg of your beliefs that crash the Titanic! you have about learning, effort, and intelligence. When you believe they can get smarter, you may understand that effort makes you stronger. 
fixed mindset  In fixed mindset you live in a world of scarcity hoping the get the most out of what you have... without every adding to it. You also spend a lot of time fretting about finding out anything that would make your precious "I" feel devalued
Relative devaluation of your "I"  When you consider yourself a fixed "I" you are protecting it. Your whole world is about who has more, not who works more. Not who tries harder. Who invests more effort. Your results are meager and you are MISERABLE, always threatened. Most underachievers suffer from this. Because every difficulty threatens with the relative devaluation of your "I", every guidance, every feedback. Ugly life.

Footnotes

  1. English Grammar Rule - Cut the Muster or Mustard?

    The saying (idiom) goes like this: Cut the Muster, not Cut the Mustard. The modern sense of the idiom is to succeed; to have the ability to do something; to come up to expectations.

    Etymology or history: Its proponents often trace it to the American Civil War. We do have the analogous expression To pass muster, which probably first suggested this alternative; but although the origins of cut the mustard are somewhat obscure, the latter is definitely the form used in various sources of writing throughout the twentieth century. Common sense would suggest that a person cutting a muster is not someone being selected as fit, but someone eliminating the unfit.

Author: Sophie Benshitta Maven

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3 thoughts on “Updated: When you don’t hurry, time doesn’t hurry either. When you are prepared you can afford to not hurry”

  1. I am coming into an inheritence, and knowing my past behaviour, I am afraid I will go unconscious around such a large amount of money for me and wind up going through it rapidly. Reminders not only to slow down–and keep fluid in redefining myself–are important lessons to read and keep reading. I can already see where they apply to my life right now.

  2. My recommendation is that you start coming to the coaching calls and design yourself so the designed you handles money differently. Sporadic reminders probably won’t do the trick.

    Also, sorry for your loss. Much love. xoxo

  3. What I have seen about effectiveness so far, both at work and for performers is that preparation, practice, and familiarity lead to mastery.

    I am learning to appreciate preparation, as it makes me more confident, and puts me in a position of having something to offer, rather than expecting people to make allowances for me.

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