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Sophie Benshitta Maven: In reply to Kathryn
The harmonizer either has to be not working any more, or not a good match… in your case just stick with the harmonizer to get used to
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Kathryn: Sophie – Shape 8 is missing from the view I have on my computer, so I can’t find out my personality type. Oh, and Shape 9 is missing too. Can they be retrieved? Thanks!
Kathryn: Sophie – Did you really say plants don’t like energized water? When I purchased the Water Energizer audio, I did a search of the yourvibration website for plants and energized water and couldn’t find anything, so I started watering my plants with the energized water and they look to me like they’re liking it.
Also, is energized water good for our pets?
Kathryn: Sophie – If there’s anything any of us can do to help you, please let us know. We’re there for you. Please let us help if you think we can.
Sophie Benshitta Maven: In reply to Kathryn.Kathryn, I never really tested, I think I just decided… not like me, but that’s what I did.
I would be happy to hear some test results. Thank you
Kathryn: I’ve been listening to far too many “healing masters” over the past few years and now it’s scary to think what they’re really like behind the façade they present to the world.
Kathryn: Thank you Sophie!
I’ve had several complicated projects at work that I’ve been dreading and putting off far too long. Suddenly, last night I found myself wanting to tackle those projects and I dove in and I’m actually enjoying working on them and my mind is staying sharp and alert and I’m doing a good job. I couldn’t figure out what caused the turnaround until I read this article. Could this surprising (to me) turnaround be a result of now having a capacity I was missing?
Kathryn: Thank you Will for your lazy ass ? and divine inspiration. And thank you Sophie for making this sleepy time version. What a fantastic idea!
In reply to Kathryn.I am glad you like it Kathryn. And Will is coming around… makes me very happy.
Kathryn: Sophie – I’ve been playing Sleepy Time all through the night each night on a loop, but the other day I heard another student say they play it one time through (the first 1 hour and 36 minutes of their sleep time) each night. Do you know if there’s any benefit to playing it one time through each night vs looping it over and over all night? (If the benefits are equal, I’m going to switch to one time through because I’m not used to sleeping with headphones and the relative discomfort wakes me up on and off through the night.)
In reply to Kathryn.Kathryn, more is more… I made the sleepy time repeat the activator part 5 times… What I had in mind with it that at least one of those activator sequences will reach you while you are sleeping and therefore in a hypnotic induction mode.
If you are sure that you are asleep at least part of the hour and a half, then one time is ok.
Kathryn: Sophie – This post reminded me of yesterday’s Elite Circle Coaching call where you went into several of these things with me. Something definitely changed during that coaching call. I didn’t notice it yesterday, but today things are very different. Especially at work. For example, there is a product that is very important to the company I work for. And for over 3 years I have hated and avoided and resisted working on and testing it. In fact, for the past year I haven’t done any of the work I was assigned on it. None. Total resistance.
Then this morning I logged on to work and was deciding what to tackle first and discovered I have absolutely no resistance to that product at all. The things I hated because they were so complicated and slow and full of bugs are still complicated and slow and full of bugs, but I don’t feel hate or resistance or anything even close to that. I’m working on the product and am calm and peaceful. Not even a trace of resistance. My words can’t describe how incredible this is to me. A huge, constant burden that was hanging over me every day at work is completely gone. It’s mindblowing to me how this could have turned completely around – neither my projects at work nor my extreme resisting of this product got discussed during the coaching.
This, to me, is a miracle. I didn’t even “work” at solving it, or do “thinking” to solve it. It just poof disappeared.
In reply to Kathryn.Amazing, Kathryn, but that is the nature of transformation. Once you see the world differently, either because you are looking from a different place, or with a different aspect of yourself, the world seem to shift and with it your internal state.
Great example, I am very happy you shared it, thank you.
Kathryn: Sophie – When I look back, the times I’ve gone on the Atkins diet or other low carb diets, I’ve had more energy and felt more alive and not depressed. But I’ve never been able to stick with the diets because I start craving carbs so much, I become obsessed by them. Especially candy and desserts. Constantly thinking about them and wanting them and forcing myself not to eat them. Fighting the carb craving seems to take over my life. And I end up dropping off the diet and going back to the carbs.
I need some health coaching on ways to give up carbs and not become obsessed by them. Do you offer that kind of coaching?
Kathryn: Thank you Sophie. That is great news. I’ll bring it up in the next session.
Kathryn: Yes, I too would like you to write about more principles. Please do.
Kathryn: Sophie – Do you have advice on which way of infusing our water with Heaven on Earth would be most effective for purging the negative effects of harmful energies? Playing HOE long range into the water through headphones like we do the Water Energizer? Or putting HOE drops into the water? Or another way? Thank you!
Sophie – I’m fortunate and proud to be part of your small crew of misfits. You’re our Zeamer!
In reply to Kathryn.lol, Kathryn
Kathryn: LOVE the biker bar! ROFLMAO ? ?
Kathryn: Wow Sophie what you said to JohnnyHeart “feeling sorry for another person is just another way to get your value from another person… this time you are superior… ” just knocked me sideways!
I have been feeling sorry for people for years and I thought it showed that I cared. I had no idea I was being superior. But now I totally see it. In fact, it’s so obvious I don’t know how I missed it.
Thank you for knocking me into the insight! I’ve started applying it – instead of feeling sorry for them, I’m admiring them for their strength. Totally different viewpoint. What fun to see it this new way!
Kathryn: Sophie – Thank you for setting me straight on this. I started applying what you said about getting what it’s like for them. What a difference from what I was doing with the admiring! It’s more of a challenge than I thought it would be, but it feels exactly right, which keeps me motivated to keep practicing and meditating on it.
Kathryn: Sophie – Your articles are confronting, at times unpleasant, at times insulting. But they ring with truth. And your products and coaching (including the devilish homeworks) truly work. Since I started using your products and getting your coaching, my life has steadily gotten better. And the “better” isn’t going away like it did with so many other teachers/gurus I’ve studied. So if people feel like they want to run away when they read your articles, I recommend they stop, turn around, and give your products and coaching an honest try before they run. Because they, like me, may be very surprised by what can happen in their lives.
In reply to Kathryn.thank you Kathryn. I don’t know what to do to shock at least a small band of humans awake… nice won’t work, pleasant won’t work, magic won’t work, maybe horror works… or not.
Those that know they want to live with their eyes open find me, one or two a day, or a week… My stuff is not for public consumption: it is an unfamiliar flavor, not for the masses. Those that run: you know, let them run.
If you can’t take the heat get out of the kitchen… this kitchen is real, and is full of heat.
The doors are open. You can take the heat, you have proved yourself and your mettle. It only takes a group of 20-30 to save the world.
Kathryn: Another example of a context that could work is that small businesses and huge businesses can be successes at the same time. That the small business doesn’t have to be like the huge business in order to be a success. And the huge business doesn’t have to be a failure in order for the small business to be a success.
In that context, the small business owner would see the things that make it a success (for example, making such a huge difference in people’s lives) instead of thinking that it doesn’t measure up.
Kathryn: Touché! ?
Not such great group to be part of, I see. You WOULD reach a lot of people and sell a lot of your products. But a lowered vibration is definitely too high a cost.
Kathryn: Will, that is so great! I echo Sophie’s congratulations!
Kathryn: Sophie – Thank you for this article. It really hit home. For some reason, I cried through most of it. I don’t know what that’s all about, but I hope we can dig into it in the coaching.
Kathryn: Sophie – Could you take a look at the links for the Buy Now buttons? They seem to be taking me to the home page for my PayPal account instead of to a page to purchase the product.
Kathryn: Sophie – My suggestion for the weekly meditation recordings: What really matters to me is that the recordings only have your voice on them, because I think I will be using the recordings over and over for a long time. If having participants means their voices will be in the recordings, then my preference would be for the recordings to be made without participants. If the participants’ voices will not be in the recordings, I vote for allowing participants so that we have a chance to attend the live sessions where you do the recordings.
Kathryn: Sophie – (1) Does the effortless abundance activator audio reach long range like the unconditional love bundle long range does? If no, do we need to be close enough to it to actually hear it in order for it to work?
(2) Can we play HOE long range at the same time as the effortless abundance activator audio?
In reply to Kathryn.Kathryn, 1. The Effortless Abundance Activator is long range, because it has the Carrier Energy in it. in also has HOE. and it has Unclove Bundle. and then the special secret energy to calm down the beast of greed and emptiness that makes wanting money so horrible. It replaces it with effectiveness instead.
2. it can be played together with anything.
Kathryn: Wow – you really packed a ton of good stuff into it! No wonder I’ve been feeling better ever since I started playing it yesterday. Thank you very much Sophie!
In reply to Kathryn.Yes, it works famously. It, of course, works best when you are in tight places like you right now, Kathryn. Or me… any time… lol
Kathryn: Sophie – This is such a great idea and would help the gurus so much!
I may be able to give you some of the help you’re asking for, but I am hesitant because your approach to life is so in-your-face, slam-them-to-the-mat, bash-them-over-the-head-with-what’s-wrong-with-them, and my relationship with the gurus I know is not like that. And at this point I’m not ready to turn it into that. So I don’t know how much help I can be. But if your planned approach is gentle and would work with me being the way I am with them now, I would like to help.
Either way, you are giving them a life-saving offer and if they are courageous enough to accept the help they will find that they are forever grateful to you.
Kathryn: I like it. You packed it full of information that would help me decide if I wanted to try HOE and Sleep Rescue and Effortless Abundance, while at the same time you kept it short enough to keep people’s attention in this sound bite world. It kept me interested all the way through, which most video clips don’t. I would leave it exactly as it is.
Kathryn: “Effortlessly Get More Done”
I don’t know if that’s a catchy enough phrase, but all three of the benefits you discussed help you get more done and with less effort. Things that you wouldn’t have gotten done in the past. And I too am getting more done. I have the willingness to tackle things that in the past I wasn’t willing to work on.
Kathryn: If you use the label with the ADD children, I recommend you switch the “before” pictures to the left side of the label and the “after” pictures to the right. That’s the order in which before and after are usually shown in the United States, so the way the label is right now looks to us like the children are getting worse instead of better.
One other possible pitfall with using the ADD children is that if someone glances at the label and only sees the “before” pictures, they may think the pictures are of people who have taken the remedy and get a bad impression. That may sound crazy, but keep in mind that the vibration levels of most people are low and they don’t see the whole picture, so it could happen.
That said, my vote is for the label with the ADD children. The contrast of the before and after pictures is dramatic and gives a great impression of the product.
In reply to Kathryn.ok Kathryn, I swapped the two sides and put that version in the post
Kathryn: With the pictures switched it looks great! Definitely gets my vote.
Kathryn: Sophie – Are you sure Rudy Hunter doesn’t use energy? In my experience, it seems like he does.
You once said in a coaching session that one of the best ways to see if an energy product is working is to look at the effect it has on animals and children. My cats definitely react when I play Rudy Hunter recordings. They totally relax and practically go into a swoon. A very visible reaction.
As kittens, when we first took them into our house away from their feral mama, one of them meowed constantly and they were both very anxious. In an attempt to calm them down, I looped some Rudy Hunter recordings quietly in the background, and to my surprise it worked. The kittens immediately stopped meowing and relaxed. Each time I turned off the recordings, the meowing and anxiousness came back. And when I turned the recordings back on, they went back to relaxed. It appeared to me like they were sensing the energy.
Also, my legs buzz when I play his recordings, like they did when I first started playing your energy recordings.
Kathryn: I love the new name “Wake up productive”!
Kathryn: Sophie – Thank you for this practice. For the past several weeks, I’ve tried following the path of the energies during the Effortless Abundance meditations (and on my own between meditations), but so far I haven’t been able to feel where the energy is and where it stops as it travels through my body. Is there an even more basic level practice to help get myself able to feel where the energy is as it travels through my body?
Kathryn: Thank you Sophie. It’s great to have your guidance on products.
The Wake Up Productive remedy is already “cushioning any mental, emotional or physical turbulence,” so my main hope for this product is that it will be what I need to finally stay motivated to exercise.
Kathryn: Regarding the third label option you added: Removing the central picture does make the label less busy and more pleasing to the eye. BUT you lose the benefit of having the smiling son and mom on the label. To me, that picture increases the appeal of the product and helps sell more bottles.
Kathryn: Thank you for the warning! On the surface, this product sounded good, so having your feedback on it really helps.
Kathryn: This is me. The first half of the article hits painfully close to home. All my life things came too easy for me. And even though I’ve had some spectacular failures, including getting fired from jobs, instead of looking at the failures as a challenge, I took them to mean I should move on to something that I could succeed at.
Kathryn: I need this class, but it’s intimidating. It would be very difficult for me. All my life, the first meaning that came to my mind almost always made my teachers happy, so I learned to stay with that first meaning. Finding other meanings is almost inconceivable to me. I’m afraid this course would be very frustrating. I would need you to take tiny, baby steps. And be very patient.
It’s ironic, isn’t it, that by spending my life making myself “intelligent” for school, I made myself stupid.
First step: If you haven’t already, go to each place you put a link to amazon for your products and change the links to go order forms you have on your website. That way, until the dispute with amazon is resolved, you won’t lose the business that comes from the people who click on your links.
Once the problem with amazon is solved, you can switch them back.
Second step: If you haven’t already, ask amazon to give you exactly what the other sellers said. Get the exact words or actions that they are complaining about. That will give you a better opportunity to rebut their accusations.
The next steps will depend on what you get in the second step.
You mentioned in an article that one of your students is a lawyer. Perhaps she can help with rebutting the accusations.
What amazon did to you is unfair, but I’m sure that somewhere in their massive written contracts with their sellers they reserve the right to do it. If I can find any other recommendations of what to do, I will give them to you.
In reply to Kathryn.Thank you Kathryn.
1. I have swapped out the links… I would not have thought of it for a few more days or maybe ever, thank you.
2. they will not give out what they said, and they haven’t answered my email yet. I only assume, from the hateful harassing forum posts that the alcohol is their issue… so I explained that 10% per volume doesn’t classify selling alcohol…
3. the lawyer is a foreigner and hasn’t practice law in about 20 years…Very useful. Thank you.
Kathryn: The next most important step is to get a complete copy of the contract you have with amazon. Not just a summary copy. I’m pretty sure they’re legally required to provide you with a complete copy.
It would be good to see what the contract says amazon is required to do in a situation like this. Including what information they’re required to give you. If the contract says they’re supposed to do something and they refuse to do it, that will give you the right to sue them and win. (Not that you want it to come to that, but at least you know you have the law on your side and that will encourage them to do what they’re supposed to do.)
Kathryn: I really do get your point about not suing. The reason I brought up the right to sue is because if amazon knows the contract says they’re supposed to so something, but they refuse to do it, they know you have the right to sue them and that “encourages” them to do what they’re supposed to do.
I recommend that you ask them for a copy of the complete contract, or, if it’s located on their website, ask them where to find it. It contains the rules of the game. Without it, you can’t stand in a position of power and assert your rights because you don’t know what your rights are and you don’t know what they’re obligated to do.
Kathryn: You go girl! I’ll be cheering for you!
Kathryn: Sophie – Would you be willing to write a little about the distinction of “who” a person is and “what” a person is? I had difficulty seeing that distinction when we discussed it in class yesterday and I still haven’t been able to fully get it. Thank you.
Kathryn: Please don’t drop your feeling proud. Yesterday was a great coaching session for all of us. I’m just really stupid on the what/who distinction. I’ll bring up your hunch in the next coaching. There’s something there.
Kathryn: Thank you for this tool of choosing as a WHO happy. When I successfully apply it, I feel it at my core and my resistance to reality actually does drop away. I still fail most of the time because when I command I am happy my mind jumps in and assumes it’s a WHAT command and says “who are you kidding”. But when I repeat the command until I feel it at my core, it works. And I feel strong. I love the exactness of it.
Kathryn: We don’t need another guru. We need a Sophie. Write the book, make money, but please don’t give up the blog.
In reply to Kathryn.Kathryn, you are the only one, so far, that actually got the message, driving my point home. Thank you for that.
Kathryn: Hi Sophie –
Is the Unification remedy made and available for purchase? If “no”, if I infuse water with the Unification downloads you’ve done in the group coaching sessions, would that create the remedy?
Thank you –
Kathryn: Touché! Thanks to your coaching, I actually am spending time practicing being with reality and practicing connecting. But your remedies are a great help, so if there’s a Unification remedy I definitely want to use it as reinforcement.
Kathryn: “afraid what they will find out this time”: Yes, I definitely feel that when I come to the coaching calls.
When I get to where I look forward to finding out those things about myself, terrible or wonderful, even if I’m still feeling trepidation, I will know I’ve made huge progress.
Kathryn: “go inside ourselves and find home”: Reading that, I feel peace.
Kathryn: Could curiosity be a tool of the inner world? I’ve been noticing that when I’m in the “reality nothing/everything” you coached me on, I tend to have a gentle curiosity about things.
In reply to Kathryn.Yes, Kathryn, that is a good catch. I didn’t think of it because it is so normal to be curious, but at the same time, if you ask me to, I can see that most of humanity is resigned, complacent, and the first thing to go is curiosity. Good sign that the mind has taken over.
Kathryn: I’m seeing that I’m in an almost constant struggle to try to make things be not what they are, to try to make them other than what they are. Each time I read this article, it knocks me out of that struggle, knocks me out of being in my mind. Thank you Sophie.
Kathryn: I’ve seen the magic from your coaching me beneath the surface of two main incidents from my childhood and I’m very interested in participating in this!
Kathryn: This is will be so much help! Maybe I’ll even wake up and start really living again. ? Please do include me.
Kathryn: My vote is don’t hire an editor to dumb down your articles. They’ll have to chop out too much and make the articles lose too much value. If you feel compelled to do it, could you set up a separate website for the dumbed-down articles and keep the unedited versions on this website?
There are some of us who study your articles and read them over and over to try to get everything you’re saying. But even with that, I still find a lot of it goes over my head. You’re way out of my league. But I do get some of it and would hate to lose the opportunity to try to get it.
Kathryn: suggestion for topic: hiding
I don’t understand how you could edit the articles and keep the sense of them.
Like Kathryn and others, I read and re-read the articles (and do the same with the videos/mp3s).
Today I was re-listening to Werner Erhard talking about authenticity and responsibility. I felt like I understood a little bit more than when I last listened a few weeks ago, and with the ever-so- slightly widened perspective. I have overlooked this in the past, but now I understand that I am experiencing the change I work towards, each time there is a little bit of movement. It’s not big or flashy.
And I see reading your articles the same way; study them, put something into action, penetrate a layer, repeat … I would be sad if you took the layers of meaning out of the articles (if I have correctly understood your intention in possibly having them edited).
I also wonder, would the truth value of an article be altered by the vibration of the person editing it?
I am grateful for your writing Sophie.
Even though, I resonate with Kathryn’s remarks, I don’t revisit these articles nearly enough. It occurred to me that my perspective was more of a ‘let me take a bite of this great piece of knowledge’ approach. Now, I do realize that I would never want to be without your writing, but my cursory approach is certainly not beneficial to anyone. Thank you for helping to see a distinction here, and if you had your writing edited by someone on the ‘second floor’, I don’t see you being ultimately pleased with that. Just my 2 cents
Kathryn: Love as an emotion has not been good guidance for my life.
In reply to Kathryn.thank you Kathryn
Kathryn: What great videos – the short one and especially the long one! Most of what he said, you’ve already taught us, but it helped to hear it again. And, as you pointed out, there were some new things too. I especially liked the difference he pointed out between visualization the way it’s done by athletes compared to the way it’s taught by positive thinkers. Thank you for sharing these videos with us.
Kathryn: Wow, Sophie, this is mind-blowing. As far back as I can remember, I’ve automatically believed things are inherently good or inherently evil. I didn’t even consider that they might not be and that, in fact, it was my decision. I even imposed the supposedly inherent good and evil on the people around me, judging them for allowing “inherently evil” things.
What you’ve written here is a totally different view and I feel freed up and empowered by it. Another piece of my blinders wiped out. I’m excited about tackling life from this new view! Thank you Sophie.
In reply to Kathryn.Kathryn, you are not alone, in fact I dare to risk that most people, as in 99.99% of them believe it the way you do. And if you really look, most misery comes from that.
It’s taken me 66 years and that amazing student question to get what is going on, and verbalize what happened to me when I went from being prone to utter misery and devastation to an utter peace of mind, not long ago.
Even though I had had pieces of this puzzle, the unifying idea was still missing until last night when the coaching session happened.
Thank you for being the first to get it.
Kathryn: Yes, please do post the stepping back recording! Thank you.
Kathryn: Thanks to your Instant Coherence class, I have my sheet music, and what a difference it’s making! But I truly get what you’re saying about the Conductor needing the support of coaching. My mind keeps reaching up and trying to grab me. I’m using the Reality: Nothing/Everything process, and stepping back videos, and connecting videos, over and over to break free from my mind when it grabs me, but I can see I will need the reinforcement of coaching.
I’m excited about you raising your prices. I feel a shift and see dignity shining through you.
In reply to Kathryn.Thank you Kathryn. Especially the remark about dignity… thank you very much.
Kathryn: The “instructions” link in the article is taking me to the instructions for the Day 1 meditation instead of Day 6. Could you take a look? Thanks!
Kathryn: You crack me up Sophie.
Kathryn: The last thing Igor asked was “How do we build a world inside ourselves that we actually want to live in?” The answer for me was the Instant Coherence workshop. Ever since I found my organizing principle in that workshop, I live in a world that I actually want to live in. Instead of miserable and so many things “wrong.” That is beyond price and I can never thank you enough Sophie.
Kathryn: Date of workshop says July 21. Is it actually today, August 4?
Kathryn: I think I’m looking at a different place than you are. It’s near the end of this Perspective Series Part 2 article in bold type.
In reply to Matsa.refresh… I changed it when I wrote the answer to Kathryn’s comment
Kathryn: •You need to abandon “knowledge” . . .
•You need to give up your impossible standards that keep you glued to the spot . .
•You need to concentrate on becoming . . .
Wow – these really hit home with me. Do you have any plans for a coaching program or class that focuses on them?
In reply to Kathryn.Yes Kathryn, that is going to be a coaching program.
Kathryn: “children have to grow up in the sewer of your emotions” – I’ve never heard it said that way – that describes it perfectly
Kathryn: I LOVE this article, Sophie. You give us such amazing gifts in your articles. This one puts me onto the vertical.
In reply to Kathryn.Thank you Kathryn. I am glad
Kathryn: When I read this article I realized that all my life I have only taken on things that I had a high percentage chance of winning. If I saw I had a high percentage chance of losing, I wouldn’t even consider doing it, no matter how much fun it could have been. Even with the adventurous things I’ve done, I had a higher chance of winning than losing. I thought I was so smart for being that way and I was so entrenched in it that if someone had tried to point out that it wasn’t so smart, I wouldn’t be able to see it.
Today, reading this article, it dawned on me that the truth is that I’ve been keeping myself in prison by refusing to consider doing things that have a high chance of losing. So many things I’ve missed out on.
I want that “Certainty that whatever you will do will either succeed or fail, win or lose, and both are OK.” When I have that, there will be no more prison.
I got the Nothing to Fix activator this morning and have been playing it all day – maybe that’s what made me able to see the truth of what I’ve been doing to myself.
In reply to Kathryn.Kathryn, what you are saying is so important, I wrote a whole article about it. Thank you, thank you, thank you
Kathryn: Mine is: Not good enough. And not just not good enough for other people, I even keep judging myself as not good enough for me.
In reply to Kathryn.that fell flat… no energy in it. I don’t think so, Kathryn. I think it is much stronger than “not good enough”…
Kathryn: When I first read your answer, it bothered me. But I’ve learned that when you tell me something, there’s gold to be found in following up on what you say. So I started digging into the main incidents that I thought were telling me I’m not good enough and, yes, you are right, there’s something much stronger buried deep down in there. Just in beginning to look, I started sobbing racking sobs. I don’t know what it is – I quit because I need to be interacting with other people for the next few hours. When I get alone time later tonight I’m going to go back to digging. But this feels like it may be something I’ll need coaching to get to the bottom of.
In reply to Kathryn.Good work Kathryn. And if you need coaching, I am here.
Sobbing is always a good indicator… by the way. It hurts… that is where the energy comes from.
Kathryn: I don’t know if I’m the student you’re referring to at the beginning of this article, but I looked at my Facebook page tonight and it could match the description you gave. If I am the one, there is more to see. I haven’t been on Facebook in a long time because I had completely lost interest in it, and you are the reason I lost interest. Out of curiosity, I looked at my activity feed this evening and found I had not even logged onto Facebook since back in July when I had my breakthrough in the Instant Coherence webinar. Since then, I’ve had no interest in Facebook or the “gurus” that I had friended in years past. Since then, I removed myself from the email lists of most of them and quit reading their Facebook posts and quit tuning in to their appearances on telesummits. I haven’t paid enough attention to Facebook to realize they were still friended. So their being friended and your not just reflects my complete lack of interest in and neglect of Facebook. Facebook doesn’t reflect what is important to me now.
For me, you are the one who gets results. The “gurus” didn’t. I do value and cherish you. I keep running away periodically because I have an extremely difficult time dealing with your direct, sharp way of communicating and coaching. But that doesn’t mean you’re not valued and cherished. I run away and lick my wounds and during that time I work with what you uncovered and incorporate it into my life. And then, once I feel strong enough to interact with you again, I come back.
In reply to Kathryn.good catch Kathryn, I looked at your facebook page.
There is one thing I’d like you to ponder. Read the second paragraph of your comment, and consider that talking to me represents looking at what is hard to look at, instead of making me or my sharp way of communicating the reason you lick your wounds.
There is no not painful way to do what I do. And every surgeon could say the same thing. It hurts because it hurts, not because of what I said or did.
If you leave it buried your life will remain s-h-i-t. And that would be such a waste, my friend.
Kathryn: It truly is painful discovering those “bad, evil, nasty” things about myself, but mixed with the pain is the surprise and delight of seeing a truth that I hadn’t seen before and I like that part.
It has been looking to me like sometimes you coach me as if you’re by my side, guiding me to see the truth, which sessions I love, and sometimes you coach me as if you’re an adversary, hitting me with the truth, which sessions I run away from. But what if you’re actually always by my side and the difference in my experience is caused by the context that I’m choosing for that session? What a completely different view! Then I’m the one making me run away! What fun!
Kathryn: Sophie – Thank you for this. I started using the “all is well” context as often as I can remember to (which isn’t nearly often enough, but I’m working on it!) – I’m finding it knocks me onto the vertical and into the present moment. You give us such great tools – they actually work (unlike tools I’ve gotten elsewhere).
Kathryn: Sophie – The combination of this article and the free e-book knocked me into the experience of being the Observer last night! The ACTUAL EXPERIENCE of being the Observer, not just my mind imagining it. I can’t even describe what it was like, but it definitely felt like I belonged there. And I realized that, in the past, I had been trying to move into being the Observer with my mind (good luck with that!) and had considered the Observer as something separate from myself and therefore was having a lot of difficulty. My experience last night didn’t happen from my mind. I was just knocked into it. And it was easy and natural. And the Observer was me, not something separate. This morning I’m no longer in the Observer position, but I feel closer to being there and I’m more relaxed and less stressed. And I now have this article and e-book as tools to use to practice moving into being the Observer. Thank you for this gift!
In reply to Kathryn.congratulations, Kathryn. What you experienced is valuable, because now you know. You’ve been there. And you know where to LOOK, because it is a physically stepping into a position, not thinking it, not becoming someone else, but YOU stepping a small step backwards… at least in my experience. The distance between the Observer and the observed is increasing… that is the trick.
Very good work. well said.
Kathryn: Is it possible that an approach of helping nature get the mites under control might work as an alternative or add-on to the approach of finding an independent substance that will destroy or chase off the mites? Our bodies are swarming with trillions of bad bacteria and yeasts, but it has been my experience that by helping nature build up good bacteria and yeasts in and on our bodies, the bad bacteria and yeasts are kept under control. Maybe there’s a way to determine whether our bodies are armed with any natural defenses to mites and help build up those defenses?
Kathryn: I can just see our bodies swarming with carnivore mites, making everything even worse, LOL . . .
It’s great to hear you received potentially the last piece of the puzzle!
Kathryn: Sophie – Please do write the mites report as a series of articles and please don’t put your attention on trying to present complete information. Please just write in the flow like you write your articles on the website, meander, go where you feel inspired, tell the story, and I’m sure we’ll get the information we need without losing the Sophie-ness that is so valuable. Please consider it. You could even end up with a report that’s a delight for you to write and us to read, instead of a chore.
Kathryn: I see myself in this article. When I’m on the horizontal, which unfortunately is most of the time, I’m terribly depressed with the present moment and try to always put something out in the future to look forward to so I can bear my life.
When I’m on the vertical, the present is fine exactly as it is and I don’t need to have something out in the future to look forward to in order to bear my life. Whether there’s something out in the future or not makes no difference.
Life is incomparably better on the vertical, but I keep falling back onto the horizontal and staying trapped in it. Which seems totally ridiculous when I could instead choose to be on the vertical. I many times see myself getting swallowed up in drama and at the moment I start to get swallowed up, the moment when I can choose to turn my back on the drama and move to the vertical, I find that I very emphatically and knowingly choose the drama. I’m definitely choosing it. That makes no sense. Why on earth would I want to be caught up in the drama and so terribly depressed?
In reply to Kathryn.Kathryn, if this is a real question “why on earth would I want to be caught up in the drama?” is a good focus for observation. There is something still missing to authentically be in the vertical.
I have asked that question before, and what I got: it’s more interesting… which means, to me, that there is a lot more ego than not ego.
So the beauty of the present moment isn’t quite there. “There is more East to go young man…”
Good question, thank you for it. The other is: when I hear “I see myself in this article” my heart jump of joy. Thank you.
Kathryn: That’s fantastic news about cracking the mites issue!
Kathryn: I’m so sorry about your niece dying. I never know what to say in these situations – the words are inadequate.
Thank you for what you said about observing your thoughts and emotions and learning about yourself as you react to your niece’s death. That’s something I need. My mother died last year and I still find myself falling into grieving at times. If I start taking it as an opportunity to observe and learn more about myself, I’ll get something worthwhile out of it instead of just wallowing in the drama.
Sophie, I agree with Kathryn. I have stayed up most of the night reading all the posts and researches on the mites that you provided… doing my head in and I feel quite depressed about it all. Have been through the birds nest and filth in the roof and the chemicals to eradicate the ‘itch’ from our bodies, even my little kids. have had the redback bite & hospital, fleas congurate to me,, mozzies and sandflies are horrific,, but I can see those!?! the things on my eyebrows and lashes and behind my ears I cannot see,, have to say that I want to lock myself up and not spread it to my grandkids or anyone else,,,, it’s scary. for the regular bites that we get every day here, like mosquitos and sandflies,, I have found that emu oil has been the best attack.. rub on and then 10/15 mins later another rub,, it at least relieves the pain and basically the bite disappears… but for the other ‘itches’ I have no idea,,, want to put myself into a balloon and sail away… sorry, just the way I feel at the mo.
Kathryn: Thank you for this Sophie! This was perfect timing for me. I have a huge deadline looming tomorrow evening and I have been getting myself into more and more of a panic every time I’ve thought of it. When I read this article and started pulling my mind back to what I’m doing now instead of dwelling on all the bad things that will happen if I don’t make the deadline, I relaxed and started making better progress. Each time my mind jumps to thinking of the scary deadline, I pull it back to what I’m doing now. When I’m here in the present doing my work, I’m finding I actually enjoy it. So this has turned my day from anxiety-ridden to enjoyable!
I see that one of the big ways I’ve been making my life miserable is by almost constantly dreading the future. What a life. But I’m excited because I can see this tool is making a difference already.
Kathryn: “Cancer is caused by carcinogens… they aren’t” – what an intriguing statement in an intriguing article! Would you be willing to expand on it in a future article?
In reply to Kathryn.of course, Kathryn. I will.
Kathryn: Maybe during the child’s outbursts, the mother could move to the Observer position so she doesn’t take the outbursts personally and doesn’t feel she has to solve anything. That would also help her just be there as the witness for the child, which could help the child.
In reply to Kathryn.thank you Kathryn. Is this what your mother did?
Kathryn: No, unfortunately she and I didn’t know anything about the vertical or the observer position. What she would do was criticize me and make me wrong, which I didn’t like at all, and I learned that if I didn’t want to be criticized I had to put up a fake front that looked like what she wanted me to be. I didn’t feel safe to be myself around her.
Kathryn: Thank you for the follow-up article Sophie. Very eye-opening for me – showed how, as usual, I assumed I was so smart and had all the information I needed to solve the problem. LOL.
I think Baheej came the closest to what you found was needed – his solution at least included finding the cause of the little girl’s anger.
In reply to Kathryn.One more thing, Kathryn. We, as a society, are avoiding negativity as much as we can. So we don’t get exposed to reality, only to a slice of it that we say we can be with. I bet you are more interested in what you want, and read about that, than about reality… Reality is not pretty, it is full of nasty stuff, like greed and lust and using others.
But it leaves you at serious risk of not being able to think either… Life is 360 degrees, not that narrow swath of positivity, 5%? max.
And if you don’t train yourself to be able to be with anything, then when the sh-it hits the fan, you are sh-it out of luck…
In my ‘next plague’ article I don’t say, because I don’t say, but when the plague comes, the squeamish, the positive thinker, the nice-nice person will definitely, 100% dies. Only the lucky and the hardy will survive.
Kathryn: You’re definitely right that I’m more interested in what I want, and read about that, than about reality. And when you say “train yourself to be able to be with anything” – that makes me want to run for the exits. I see I’m one of the squeamish ones. And yet in times of crisis I surprise myself because strong, intelligent abilities surface and I jump in without hesitation to get myself and others through the crisis. So it could turn out that I might be one of the survivors when the plague comes.
Kathryn: Is it edible?
Does it have a distinctive scent such that it can be recognized simply by the scent (like a rose or an orange for example)?
Is it multicolored?
Kathryn: If a person had it in their house, would they be most likely to have it in their kitchen?
in their living room?
in their bedroom?
in their bathroom?
Kathryn: Is it chewy when eaten?
Kathryn: To answer your “what on earth” question: What I already know is that the thing is solid, no larger than a tea cup, edible, no distinctive scent, one color. That could describe a food and that’s the track I was going on with my chewy, crunchy, soft question. From your reaction, I clearly wandered off onto the wrong track, oops, LOL.
Kathryn: Is it useful for pain relief?
Kathryn: Is it useful against mites?
Kathryn: To clarify, is answer 98 (“yes”) answering John’s question 91 (“food supplement”)?
Kathryn: Is it useful for providing enzymes to the body?
for providing probiotics to the body?
for providing protein to the body?
Kathryn, please pay attention that you are absolutely and categorically refusing to think in categories… Or maybe you are unable?
Kathryn: My understanding of a food supplement is that it is a concentrated form of something you would ideally get from your food but isn’t adequately supplied by your food.
Thinking of powdery food supplements I’ve used over the years, here are categories (worded as questions to get additional info):
1) is it a vitamin?
2) is it a mineral?
3) is it an herb?
4) is it an enzyme? the answer was no
5) is it a probiotic? the answer was no
6) is it an amino acid? the answer was no
Sophie Benshitta Maven
In reply to Matsa.see Kathryn’s comment
Kathryn: Is it a B vitamin?
Is it vitamin C?
Is it vitamin D?
Is it vitamin K?
Kathryn: Is it niacin?
Is it riboflavin?
Is it folic acid?
Is it thiamine?
Is it pantothenic acid?
Is it biotin?
Is it B6?
Is it B12?
Sophie Benshitta Maven
In reply to A.It’s biotin, b7… Kathryn beat you to it.
Kathryn: What I learned is how bad I am at this type of game. It took way too long to get it, and without the additional hints you threw in (especially having to hammer us with the “categories” hint), it would have taken forever to get it.
I also found it exhausting instead of fun.
Kathryn: The exhausting feeling definitely indicates I need practice. But to be honest I don’t know if I could push myself to play in chat rooms.
Kathryn: Sophie – Did the vibration drop also happen in the remedies we already purchased from you? If so, was there any harm if we used them while the vibration was low?
Sophie Benshitta Maven
In reply to Kathryn.No Kathryn, the energy reaches my house… and not even the whole house: the water in my bedroom stayed high. So you are safe. If in any doubt, energize your water. It only effects the energizer, not the HOE or unclove… whatever
Kathryn: I’m definitely guilty of avoiding negativity and this article is very eye-opening. I didn’t realize I was helping the Dark Side. I want to stop doing that. I think a good practice will be to start catching when I turn away from “bad” things and, instead of running away from them, practice seeing them as they are and being there with them as they are. No resisting, no judgment. But that’s a lot easier said than done. I feel like running away even as I write this.
Kathryn: Wow, this clears up something I was puzzling about. For many years, I continued to criticize and “make wrong” my husband even though I wanted to stop and I put a lot of effort into trying to make myself stop. It seemed out of my control. Then, suddenly and unexpectedly, after you pulled my dominant belief, I was successfully stopping myself from criticizing and making him wrong. That was a huge, very welcome surprise. But what was puzzling me was that I’m still getting the urge to criticize him. It didn’t go away. What changed was that when the urge hits me, I now successfully stop myself, and without the effort and anguish that used to be there. I thought the urge to criticize would have to go away before I could successfully stop. But from what you’ve written, it’s like the “I am a smoker” doesn’t go away but you’re able to change the action. And for me, the “I am a criticizer” doesn’t go away but I’m able to change my action.
I don’t even know how my “I am a criticizer” relates to my dominant belief, but my actions definitely changed when you pulled my dominant belief so it sure looks like they were somehow related.
Kathryn: Hey Sophie, how about that webinar?
Kathryn: Good point . . .
But I sure would like a webinar on this if you ever get interested again.
Kathryn: They do feel like anchors to me. I use them to make myself right and others wrong, to stay the way I am because I’m so “right”!
Kathryn: My vote: When you replay scenes from a movie in your mind to see some common occurrences with people, you’re definitely thinking, using your mind as a tool, and on the vertical.
I have that experience when I’m writing some new computer programming that I’ve never written before. In times like that, I’m thinking, using my mind as a tool, separate from my mind instead of drowning in it.
Sophie Benshitta Maven
In reply to Kathryn.Thanks, Kathryn
Kathryn: How can we learn how to tell if something is ours or not? And how do we dis-identify ourselves from our feelings?
Sophie Benshitta Maven
In reply to Kathryn.If you have to ask, then I didn’t get my job done with you Kathryn.
Even if you just used one of the techniques, like the sideways glance… you’d already know that your identity is always where your eyes are…
Only when you consider your eyes behind your eye balls that you are identified with your body and your feelings.
I hope this answers the question.
Kathryn: That does help – thanks! I love using the sideways glance and I gave it a try and it does help me dis-identify with feelings.
But I’m having a tough time with seeing that a feeling isn’t mine. It almost seems like I automatically glue myself to any feeling the minute it shows up and make it mine so then when I look at it, it is mine. Maybe I need to work on spotting when I do the glueing thing?
Kathryn: To clarify, the sideways glance is helping me dis-identify with my feelings. But I still feel like ALL feelings are mine – I can’t see a difference between feelings from someone/something else and my own feelings.
Kathryn: I’m not expressing myself very well. Trying to ask two different questions at the same time isn’t a very good idea! ? What is happening is that when I do the sideways view, I separate from the feelings and it doesn’t matter whose they are. I am separate from them. But when, out of curiosity or just because I want to get caught up in the drama, I don’t do the sideways view and I get caught up in the feelings and I try to determine whether they are mine or someone else’s, they all look like mine. I was just curious how, when that happens, I can determine whether the feeling is coming from me or from someone else.
Kathryn: ROFL! That is such a good point! It does sound stupid of me to keep asking. I just have always been curious about it because you’ve mentioned in many articles about feelings coming in and you spotting they aren’t yours and I’ve always wondered how you could spot that.
Kathryn: Oh! Thank you.
And thank you for your comment about living from the sideways view. I’ve always used the sideways view for a rescue and after I was rescued I went back to my “normal” view. I never even thought of living from the sideways view. I’m going to give it a try.
Kathryn: Whew, that explains it. I was so miserable all morning and, try as I might, I couldn’t move into the Observer position. I started wallowing in all the reasons I could find to be miserable. Fortunately, I realized that wasn’t such a good idea, LOL, and I stopped it and turned to a great solution: I dove into reading your articles and after a while I was able to move into the Observer position and no longer be drowning in the misery. Much better! Thank you Sophie!
Kathryn: I agree with Matsa’s comment! Taking the resistance away – incredible – it seems too much to hope for. I’m so glad you chose this energy to work on!
Sophie Benshitta Maven
In reply to Kathryn.Thanks Kathryn. I mostly work on what I need, I am selfish this way. Besides, unless I can test something on myself, I don’t believe it works.
Kathryn: Is the Shock Absorber getting close to being ready? It sounds like you’ve been extremely busy lately, but I’m hoping you’ve been able to fit in some time to continue work on this one!
Kathryn: I’m so glad to hear it’s working – I sure am looking forward to using it. And what a great way to celebrate your birthday!
Kathryn: This morning I ran the emotional shock absorber before I ran the big bundle and I felt the big bundle energy much stronger than usual. It felt as if the shock absorber cleared things out of the way for the big bundle to better reach me. Interesting!
Kathryn: It does make sense.
It was over an hour ago that I ran the Shock Absorber followed by the Big Bundle, and my body is still buzzing from the energy. I’m going to make this my regular morning routine!
Kathryn: “my current series, second viewing, is teaching me how to be well, how to be zen, in spite of all that is happening or not happening… how to be unattached and yet be on purpose, never losing sight of what I am up to”: Could you tell me what is that series? If it might help teach me “to be unattached and yet be on purpose” I would like to watch it. Thanks!
Kathryn: This is going to be great!! . . . except for the “poking YOUR box” part – I don’t like that part – makes me feel squashed and invalidated. But to be able to consciously get the second phase activators without having to connect is worth going through most anything. Please count me in for the “sample downloads” webinar. (And if I qualify for the course, I vote for Sundays so it’s not during work hours.)
Kathryn: I definitely hope I’m not resistant to the downloads. And I would love to get to where I see the poking as something to love, cherish and await lovingly instead of hating. That would be a huge help because right now I’m running away from your webinars to avoid the poking. Do you think you might be willing to coach me on changing my view of poking if I bring it up in the Talk to Me webinars?
Kathryn: Please do start teaching again
Kathryn: Wow Sophie you hit the nail on the head with this for me. I see that when I started something, I was expecting it to continue on its own momentum. I just sat back and expected it to continue. Which, obviously, it didn’t. This article snapped me out of that false belief and for some reason, I don’t know why, it actually feels good to know that if I take something on I will have to keep swimming and swimming and swimming. Maybe because I’m finally seeing the truth.
I want to increase my capacity to do and follow through. So I started a small project to do every hour during my work day, 10 times a day. I set a bell to ring each hour and when it rings I stop what I’m doing and come to present time, get completely present in my body. Yes, it’s small, but it helps me see things clearer and it’s something I can see continuing for the rest of my life, so it’s a good project to start out with.
Thank you Sophie.
Sophie Benshitta Maven
In reply to Kathryn.yes, Kathryn, that’s an excellent project. Congratulations.
Kathryn: Keeping in mind that any words you use instead of “activating DNA capacities” won’t convey exactly what you want to convey, but hopefully will communicate closely enough to get the message across, I think you something you said in the previous article would work well. You said “Capacities can be interpreted as abilities, but there is only a correlation. Talent would be a closer approximation of what DNA capacity is.” I think “activating abilities” (with no “DNA” or “capacities”) will communicate well to the average person, even though there is only a correlation. (I don’t think “talent” will communicate as well as “abilities” even though it’s a closer approximation.)
I’m one of the people to whom “activating DNA capacities” doesn’t communicate well. I find my first reaction to articles about DNA anything (by you and especially by other people) is to turn away and read something else. I tested “activating abilities” on myself and, in contrast, it attracted my attention. So it might work with other people.
In reply to Kathryn.thank you Kathryn. what you are saying confirms my suspicions. thank you.
In reply to K.you are the third, thank you Kathryn.
I wonder if you can see my point that if someone doesn’t want to read what I recommend because it is written better by someone than I can ever explain it… I should not work with them, because if they don’t do this, they won’t do anything? I am curious of your view on this.
In reply to K.ever the peace maker you are, Kathryn, eh?
Kathryn: “practice telling feelings apart from you”. Thank you for this advice Sophie. I started looking at each feeling as it comes up, looking at it separate from me and identifying it (instead of getting all caught up in it like I usually do), and that’s already helping me not get dragged into the drama. What a great Christmas gift!
Kathryn: harshly stated, but the truth. I see I still didn’t get the difference between separate and distinct. You downloaded flexibility to me in last week’s webinar and I have been experiencing differences so I thought it was active and I thought I was exercising flexibility when I was observing my feelings instead of getting caught up in them.
In reply to Kathryn.don’t get defensive Kathryn. that closes you down.
the distinction you need to get, and I am sorry for using use as a brave volunteer, is the distinction between coming from/standing in, and going to.
What I was observing is that you were watching and catching from the mind, from being bothered to not being bothered.
When you stand in flexibility, you see only clouds, with amusement.
If I was misunderstanding, I apologize.
The capacity is halfway open, so you could have stood in beingness and I was misjudging … what do you say?
Kathryn: oops – I did get defensive. OK, dropped it. To answer your question, it really does seem to me that I’m standing in beingness when I observe my feeling. I’m peaceful and I see with that amusement that you talk about. And I don’t get caught up in the feeling. In contrast, when I try to observe my feeling from my mind, I fail. I get completely caught up in it.
Kathryn: Sophie – Is there a process we can use to purge an experience from our cells, from our memory?
Kathryn: I see what you’re saying about my tendency. I do have a lot of things that I’ve gotten to “no big deal” on and a lot of things that I haven’t gotten to “no big deal” on. So it looks like I’m following my tendency and stopping generating the process on some, but continuing on and completing the process on others. Why the difference? It feels like I have a different attitude toward the ones I follow the process through to completion and the ones I don’t. I need to change that so I can get to “no big deal” on all of them.
Kathryn: Wow Sophie, I was expecting to feel offended by what you just said but instead I just felt comfortable. Every word you said rings true.
So that explains why each time you’ve managed to motivate me to move toward expanding human being, I’ve only stayed with it a short time and then fallen back.
So frustrating for you to be trying to turn me around – kind of like trying to push a wet noodle.
You’re not going to like my response, but you’ll say it’s predictable: My response is that I recommend you write me off for now. If I grow a backbone, I’ll let you know.
In reply to Kathryn.One more thing Kathryn: I LOVE your response. It is further proof in the experiments I have been running. It was as predictable as the night comes after day.
Kathryn: Hi Sophie – I have a couple questions:
(1) Do we need to be able to connect to be able to use the videos?
(2) Would the videos be beneficial to people who are not doing the 67 steps?
Kathryn: These are HILARIOUS! It’s scary that several of them look like they’re actually real and not just people kidding around.