- That original incident…
Little Harriet is going to be 2 years old on the 8th.
I can see her, I can hear her. I am pondering how a little girl with two loving parents will experience something traumatic at age 3 that will, for life, determine her seed level… Looks very unlikely.
But then I remember that it is not the event that happens, but the tendency for a particular meaning that creates that machine… that no one can escape living inside of. The machine that kicks off with an incident.
And no amount of caution, no amount of concern, no amount of care will prevent.
If there was something or someone who designed life, that thing, or that person designed it to be mechanical… Hm.
You can learn to have anything you want (but not everything) inside the machine if you know how the machine works, what triggers it to go into a cycle.
Wanting it not to move, trying to tame it, trying to cautious as not to trip it (trigger), is the death of aliveness, the death of creativity, the death of living life to the fullest.
I am paying attention to how I operate. I am fully alive. And yet I live inside a machine.
I am noticing that I am a risk-taker… I like to push until something or someone tells me that I have pushed too far.
In different areas of life it shows up differently. But all in all, I fall on my face when I pushed too far, I get up, I dust myself off, I shake off the dizziness, and I sit down to learn from it.
I don’t leave the learning to a later date, or to come up and keep me up all night. Not only because I like to sleep when I am in bed, but because the learning is lost if it was in bed… I have lost enough great schemes and ideas to that, to forgetting it. Each time I say: I surely won’t forget this… and then I do.
So, if you haven’t figured it out, one of the evil words is caution.
Trying to avoid life is what caution means.
Being/feeling fully alive is not possible if you are cautious…
Almost every student of mine is cautious. They play for keeps… But only the brave is going to be admitted to the Promised Land.
The second evil c-word is complacency.
It cost more lives than I care to think of. Not in terms of death, but in terms of aliveness.
I am borrowing this little story from Michael Senoff… to show you the opposite of complacency.
I see myself in this story…
It’s graduation day at this high school.
After graduation, each student would go up to the microphone and say what they’re going to do next.
So a boy, Bob, said, ‘Well, I’m going to help my father with his farm.’
Sarah said, ‘Well, I’m going to marry Tony.’
Then, this little girl got up, and she said, ‘I’m going to go to Nashville and become a country music star.’
Everybody else had been applauded for.
But hearing this, they all started laughing.
And she said to herself, ‘I’m going to remember this laughter.’
Every time she felt like quitting
Every time she got rejected, she’d remembered the laughter.
They’re not laughing anymore.
Because her name is Dolly Rebecca Parton.
Remember, if they’re laughing at you, there’s a good chance you’re on the right track.
Most people are not supportive of your dreams because they didn’t reach their dreams.
The typical behavior when someone laughs at you, when your mind discourages you, is to say: Oh well, it was a nice dream.
I said it only once in my life and it still hurts… even though it would have been, most likely, a wrong path, for me. With my rebellious, disruptive personality. And yet… I said that famous ‘Oh well’ the hallmark of complacency.
As long as you can survive, your steady companion is comfort. And comfort and growth, comfort and fulfillment, comfort and joy can’t coexist.
When you give up taking an action, even to make a promise, even to do much of anything is like being a walking dead, empty and hollow.
Everyone who had it, their struggle years are the favorite memories… For me that is my whole life, not by chance, but by creation.
I was born almost dead… but I learned in my bones, that the only way to feel alive is to rock the boat, to go for something that is slightly out of reach, to strive… Even defeat is better… especially because defeat is always temporary.
I like defeat. I have been picturing myself all my life as this mystical phoenix bird who rises from the ashes, stronger and more beautiful than before. So I don’t mind burning…
The fourth and last evil c-word is cynicism.
from the dictionary: The definition of cynicism is an attitude of suspicion where you believe the future is bleak and that people are acting only out of self interest. An example of cynicism is when you always think the worst and have a hard time seeing the good in anyone. … (uncountable) A distrustful attitude.
And a cynic is a person who believes that only selfishness motivates human actions and who disbelieves in or minimizes selfless acts or disinterested points of view. … a person who shows or expresses a bitterly or sneeringly cynical attitude.
Interestingly, when I look at a cynic, it is always a projection of their own inner world… they are the liars, the pretenders, the self-serving people…
But instead of attending the deadening behavior, they blame others…
If you paid attention, the reason these c-words are evil is because they are deadening. Much like the c-word in health…
Whichever c-word to choose to give you your miserable puny joyless life… You should get busy getting rid of the attitude, if you ever want to feel like a human being.
Of course what feeds the attitude is the mind. The EVIL of all evils, the mind.
Without learning to ignore the mind, you’ll never be able to silence the attitudes: they are really fed by the Mind.
Some people have a strong ego (all desires come from the ego) and an equally strong mind (all mind talk is fear-based) and these people are forever in limbo.
Limbo is horrible… The equal strength ego and mind people are rare… Most people have either the mind or the ego dominate.
You want to tame both.
unfortunately. But I have a technology to tame the mind… the Amish Horse Training Method.
It is a simple course, but hard to implement. It attempts to teach you to be able to tell the difference between you and the mind… in your head.
And then… allow the mind chatter to become noise.
Noise, however strong it is, you can get used to. Even jackhammering down the street, or the garbage collectors… it is just noise. You don’t need to attend to it.
But clattering of dishes in the kitchen, if you live alone… you better wake up and get your gun… lol.
I don’t have a gun. But I sleep with one eye open (figuratively, of course) so I wake up if there is any threat to my safety. But I know I can ignore all the doomsaying, negative voices in my head: they are mind-chatter.
This is 90% the reason I have never given up, except that singular ‘Oh well’ episode in being trained to become a Landmark Forum Leader…
If you want to tune out the mind and its negative, complacent, cynical, cautious voice… then get the Amish Horse Training Method. Next Sunday, on the 13th of December I will have a live session, that you can also sign up to… but better be prepared or it won’t make sense. How to prepare? Listen to the two videos inside the Amish Horse Training method… that is how to be prepared… and of course practice to tell yourself and mind apart…
Here is the lifesaver link… It is a lifesaver, because it will help silence the evil c-voices in your head. Don’t be mistaken, even getting the medical evil-c is better than walking around hollow and lifeless… How do I know? I observe people… and it is clear to me. Nobody home… shells instead of alive and robust people.
Train yourself to ignore the mind chatter!
I have just received the ad-setup for my Facebook advertising campaign. I paid a lot of money for it, and I’ll pay a lot of money to run these ads… So my mind was immediately piped up… you are going to lose all that money, it’s never going to work, you are stupid, and you are going to stay that way.
If I weren’t trained in the Amish Horse Training Method, I’d fall for the mind’s not very encouraging little spiel, and give up, before I throw good money after bad money.
But remember? If you are not willing to fail, you are not willing to win either. And that is not me. I love failing… I love learning from it. After a few failures, I am sure I will see how to win in the same thing… Live and learn.