But do you even know, have you even decided what is the MAIN THING?
The internet is full of articles by people who know exactly how to solve the other guy’s problems. They do this with how to do this or that in 3-7 steps articles and books… but they are all wrong, and those ‘solutions’ are not solutions at all.
People have good ideas… And as ideas go they are pretty darn good… Yeah… that should work…
But when you look at humanity…
…the end result of thousands of years of good ideas, I don’t think we have gotten to where we wanted to get to with all those good and even great ideas.
Some people get tired of advising people, and take the future into their own hands…
I just finished a book that tells of such an example.
In Buddhism, the thought you die with determines who you will be when you are re-born.
In this book by Blake Banner, a dude is the head of a Buddhist ‘school’. The school is teaching people to be in the Buddhist way. He doesn’t want to continue his thankless job. Because teaching rarely teaches beingness. So he did something unexpected. He got tired of saving the world the ‘giving guidance’ way. Instead, he methodically set up to kill nine students to be re-born as Buddhas. Once they’ll be reborn they will save the world… sweet. Not.
But all tomfoolery aside, there is a methodology that is as counter cultural as it comes. And it is: forcing yourself into an ever narrowing path, the strait and narrow (both words mean narrow, by the way). Narrowing path to get to the place where adding more and more won’t get you.
Why? because most of us live like a puddle… narrow, shallow, and wide. And we detest everyone and everything that tries to restrict us. At all.
The strait and narrow is restriction. Restricting the puddle first into a stream, then into a rapid…
Unfortunately all doing, all restricting is all up to you, there is nothing I can do to force you to the narrowing path.
But it works…
The original ‘Anna Karenina Principle’, of course came from the novel by Leo Tolstoy, and it says:
According some it means that a deficiency in any one of a number of factors dooms an endeavor to failure. Consequently, a successful endeavor (subject to this principle) is one for which every possible deficiency has been avoided.
I don’t like that definition (from Wikipedia) because deficiency (a lack or shortage) is the word that seems to beg for more…
On the other hand, I do believe in this: if you don’t have any of the right stuff, spiritual, intellectual, mental, physical, than you’ll hold onto your bad qualities to take them into the narrowing…
Our jails and prisons are a great demonstration of this: when people go to jail they take with them what they have, and who they are… Only a few of those in jail have something to build on and create a life apart from, away from crime. A mighty few.
And yet, the path to happiness, success, fulfillment is in the narrowing, voluntary narrowing of the path.
There are methods of coaching that can drive up the superfluous, unnecessary and potentially harmful activities, concerns, habits up. Activities that if and when you can shed them, you’ve performed a constructive and voluntary narrowing.
Here are the steps to get to the strait and narrow:
- take notes, for a whole week, of everything you do and how long you did it.
- At the end of the week mark all those that didn’t point to a better result. better life, more money, more health, more love. and endeavor to eliminate them or ‘delegate’ them… let someone else spend their time on it.
If you want to take it further, you can go further…
Group the items on your list by this question:
- I want to do less of this, because it’s neither necessary nor useful
- I want to do more of this, because it is very useful
- And I want to continue doing exactly as much as I am doing this, because it’s both useful and necessary
And then, when you are done with that, pick a ‘One-thing‘ that you’ll designate as your focus, because it answers the question:
What’s the ONE Thing you can do/be such that by doing/being it everything else will be easier or unnecessary?
My one ‘doing one thing‘ was/is to write to what my readers are concerned about, so I answer their questions, whether they asked me or not… instead of pushing my agenda. ;-\
I promptly failed at that one thing.
My ‘being one thing‘ I picked was to be like a velvet hammer… ruthlessly compassionate. It is making life a whole lot better… I have to tell you.
In my programs, with my students, I am most interested in their being-one-thing. And that one thing becomes quite clear to me, while it is totally hidden from their view, or if it is not hidden, it is not clear to them.
One of my clients emailed to me to get the Eliminate Procrastination Avatar State Activator.
It sounds like she accurately identified what plagues her. but what if doing all the things she ‘procrastinates on’ shouldn’t be done at all?
What if the issue is that she has allowed her spirit to fall asleep. To languish, lose vitality, grow weak and feeble in her.
And that spirit languishing is causing her not to attend to what is important to her: getting important things done.
So I offered her to make her a new Avatar State Activator, so she can start reviving her spirit… and ‘get inspired‘. It will gently tug on her spirit to wake it up.
Here is another sign that the spirit has gone AWOL in most people:
In most homes the vibration of the people is so low, that the water is taking longer and longer to energize to full coherence. And the people, thinking it’s business as usual, think the water is coherent. And they drink it before it gets coherent, and fall back to walking dead state.
The first thing I notice when we interact is their failing intellect… They are stupid on the calls. Tired. Burned out. Can’t understand the conversation. can’t pay attention, narrow their cone of vision so their issue is the only thing they see. can’t hear another person saying exactly the thing they came to the call to hear.
Do you think they suspect their water? Not at all.
If you pick one thing, pick the main thing, pick reviving your spirit.
If you have become sluggish, dutiful, blah… and it’s been easy to become that. It’s been winter. The scenery is boring. it is ‘social distancing’. and if you get your energies from interactions, you are suffering from impulse withdrawal.
I am, luckily, an introvert, so I am not suffering as much as you do. but I still miss my dancing exercise classes and I miss touching. So I miss laughing, bantering with others, in shorts and such. I miss it.
At some point during this epidemic I even slipped into a mild depression… that by now, thank heaven, I’ve managed to dig myself out of, by restricting my sleep… and with that urging the spirit to get busy.
And interestingly hope, faith, joy, returned… when the spirit came fully awake.
But if it is not sleeping too much that causes your dispirited state, you may want to try the Get Inspired Avatar State Activator.
It’s a vortex energy I happened upon by accident. An energy so strong, that it can transport you from the horizontal state to the vertical state, from the horizontal plane of survival to the vertical plane of thriving.
The vortex is too strong for headphone delivery: it can actually scramble your brain, so listen to it in the background… it comes with a nature sound: my favorite, the meadowland’s birds. Cheerful.
I play it in my own apartment, and although I only get conscious of hearing it 3-4 times a day. it always brings into consciousness that I am on the horizontal plane. and the moment my consciousness actually gets that, I am there.
It’s been going in the background, halfway between my office and my bedroom. the same audio, for five years or so. It is the abundance version of the Avatar State Activators. Hearing that has allowed me to quit giving massages to supplement my income.
It has created an environment for me to not get sidetracked by shiny objects that promise the world with the push of a button.
It has assisted me to gently and gradually get into a workable, pleasant rhythm of making money, making a life.
Between you and me, any one of my Avatar State Activators will awaken the spirit from its slumber, so if you have one, use that.
I know I am cutting my nose in spite of my face, but I owe you to tell you the truth.
Of course focused audios work better… Make that your one thing…
OK, too much talk. Here is your buy button if you are inclined to buy.
You’ll need an mp3 player with a speaker, something that you can leave on 24/7.
Mini mp3 players are a dime a dozen, although the good ones I used to stock, are not available any more. I think I still have one, but that is that.
It has a pleasant birds track to cover the sound of me sighing…
Set the audio to repeat (loop)
And although it is energetic in its nature, the audio is what carries the energy, so setting your audio to mute won’t work. No audio, no energy.
Obey the spirit as it awakens… and start moving more vigorously, look wider, dance if you are inspired, laugh if you find something funny.
It will be gradual, and maybe the most pleasant experience you have ever had.