Self-Control, Flexibility and emotional intelligence

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 Our current world-view is as if we are backseat drivers, at best driving next to the driver.

All we can do is

  • observe
  • react
  • hope
  • suggest
  • protest
  • resist

but ultimately we feel we have nothing to say in the matter of where this life is going. That is our current view of the world.

The purpose of this activator, self-control, is to return you to the driver’s seat.

When I was downloading the activator on today’s Daily Connection webinar, I experienced great ego-resistance from the participants.

Ego didn’t like it. Ego didn’t want it. Ego prefers to react.

But… We are made of the God-stuff, so we are capable of driving our life. I don’t mean “Life” I mean our life.

What does this mean exactly? Aren’t circumstances, weather, society, who is the president, what the money oligarchy is doing to us, largely independent of us? I mean totally independent, really?

Yes and no.

Your life is defined by your perception. It is like a giant hologram, but you have your handle on the designing keys.

The same exact circumstances that in your perception are horrible, in my perception are occasions for creativity, in a third person’s perception are the best of times.

What is the truth? Beats me! I don’t know. I don’t think there is truth other than your truth. And you have 100% control over that.

That is what the Creator considers self-control.

When I first encountered this activator, I was sure it was about self-discipline. About forcing myself to conform to some prescribed norm, like only eating when I am hungry. Will power.

And although that would be really great, and I would probably be skinny as in skin and bones, I just could not see how the Creator would be so interested in that capacity, so interested in it as to make it a main activator in the Third (advanced) Phase of the Planetary Ascension.

And then I looked at some of the pointers the Creator has shown me, circumstances like flood and other catastrophes, moving to another state, moving to another continent, and I thought that the willfulness inherent in my original interpretation would make absolutely no difference in those circumstances.

Actually, willfulness would make me brittle, and I would break.

And that is when the Creator’s definition started to dawn on me: self-control is really about the capacity of being able to live in a world of your own design, conscious design, instead of resisting, forcing, manipulating, or changing anything.

The world of your own design is given by your perception of what’s going on. And the flexibility of that.

As a former architect, I know tweaking, redesigning all too well. As a “writer” I know re-writing, as a coach I know re-wording, re-phrasing my coaching.

The world of your own design is exactly like the examples above: you tweak, ongoingly. You interact with this world ongoingly, actively, creatively, and you shape it to make you well, to make you energetic, nimble, happy, joyful, exuberant.

In the created design of your world your eyes are not there to perceive what’s out there, they are there to PROJECT what you designed. You are already doing that, just unconsciously, and in a way that you can’t win.

You are projecting what you invented when you were upset, not on a rainy Sunday afternoon when you had nothing else to do, and you could invest the time and the thought to design what you want.

Instead of being locked up in the world the common interpretation of events give you: low grade depression, below the conscious perception misery, with peaks that make you reach for help, the bottle, for sex, for your gun.

If you want to get the third phase activators, including the activator of self-control, you can get the recordings…

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Obviously this topic is coming up because most people who want to g for growth, for having a great life and hindered by their rigidity…

Rigidity is, of course, in every area, mental, intellectual, emotional, and even physical.

This article kicks out my attempt to conquer this rigidity…  If you want to know your rigidity number you can get your Starting Point Measurements

In the work we do in The Soaring Method, or in any other program where you invent a possibility for yourself and for your life, unless you have a higher flexibility number, the possibility will not live for long… as a possibility. The words will become flat… meaningless, not moving, not touching, not inspiring.

So becoming flexible is probably the number one job you need to do if you want to live a bigger, more meaningful life… No exceptions.

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Author: Sophie Benshitta Maven

True empath, award winning architect, magazine publisher, transformational and spiritual coach and teacher, self declared Avatar

4 thoughts on “Self-Control, Flexibility and emotional intelligence”

  1. I remember a poster in my math class, I stared at it every day and never forgot it. I think I was 8 years old.

    The poster read:

    “If it is to be, it's up to me.”

    I have lived by that rule ever since I read that poster.

    It hit me on a karmic level.

    It sometimes got me into trouble because I bit off more than I could chew, but it sits there in my conscience and motivates me.

    It felt like I was given permission to be the captain of my ship. This morning I felt like I was given permission once again. Thank you for that Sophie.

  2. That's wonderful Rene. There are very few of your determination out there.

    Did you also get the aspect of the creator of the world-view? Or did I not express it clearly enough? Just checking

  3. You may have not gotten it on the conscious level, but you did get it, I hope, on the subconscious and the history level. I'll go for it today to fill out what I missed yesterday.

    I found a woman on Amazon, I am interested in maybe asking her for help in wording the activators. What do you think?

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