Soul-Correction: Self Esteem

You must have heard that problems with one of the senses are usually compensated for through increased sensitivity of other senses or organs. For example, persons that had lost their hearing may delight in particularly acute eyesight or the sense of smell.

You can hear better in darkness where your eyes are disengaged, or with your eyes closed.

Our mind tells us, even, to hold our breath when we want to feel or hear... big mistake. We spend a lot of our life not breathing.

Now, given that this article is about low self-esteem, let me tackle it for you, and let me combine this topic with another one: self-discipline.

What is the origin of low self-esteem? You will be surprised to find out that the origin of that is not that your dad yelled at you, it is not that your mom called you names.

No, the origin is that you expected yourself to be able to do things well that you weren't equipped to do well.

Now, I am not saying that your parents weren't stupid, I think they were stupid of expecting you to do things that you could not do, but their stupidity doesn't take your self-esteem, it is your mistake that does.
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Living powerfully, what will it take to defy the odds?

living powerfullyLiving powerfully, what will it take to defy the odds?

Do you live powerfully? If the answer is yes, then I can tell you that you have a strong self-esteem.

What is your self-worth?
And I don't mean how much you want to make an hour, a day, a week, or a year. What you want has nothing to do with self-worth!

Self-worth also has nothing to do with what you know, what you can do, what other people think you can do or can't do. Self-worth is how much you think, deep inside, when the chips are down, when life looks hopeless, how much do you think you are worth then? Continue reading "Living powerfully, what will it take to defy the odds?"

What tools can get you unstuck? Try distinctions

distinctionsIn case you're stuck - distinctions can come to save the day.

What are distinctions?

A great way to define a distinction is that it is a a property that sets it different from anything else that's alike. A lady of distinction is a lady who's not like everyone else somehow, better, more, above them.

A different way to examine distinctions is that it is a concept or occurrence or maybe even abstraction. (abstraction definition: a general quality or characteristic, apart from concrete realities, specific objects, or actual instances. )

I am going to speak about this latter manner of looking, where distinction is a concept. Continue reading "What tools can get you unstuck? Try distinctions"

When it comes to your life, Are you a race car driver or…

race car driverWhen it comes to your life, Are you a race car driver or a hop-into-the car grocery shopper
Said in another way: If Your Life Were A Car, Who Is Driving Your Life?

This article is about your relationship with your life. It is fundamental, it is at the root of you never amounting to all you can be, it is at the root of why most people can only evolve a little bit in a lifetime (many go backwards!)

Mastering this area of life is the difference between a winner and a loser, and it is so subtle, that without someone pointing it out to you, you would notice no difference.

Let's start at the beginning: in life you accomplish some stuff (right?) and don't accomplish some other stuff. You win some races, and you lose some others.

Let's call all the stuff that you get done an accomplishment, and all the stuff that you don't (but would like to have done) stuff that you don't accomplish. OK? Continue reading "When it comes to your life, Are you a race car driver or…"

Your life pattern and how to change it

mind patternSuccess or Failure in life... where do they come from? Do you ever ponder that question? How come some people are successful and others are not, even though seemingly they do the same things?

Consider this: The mind is a pattern creator. It is not interested, fundamentally unconcerned about your thriving or success, it is interested in surviving itself and once survived, staying the same. It creates the beginnings of a pattern every time you survive. And it continues to do so till you die. That's why behavior scientists say it takes 21 days to change a behavior: a new pattern needs to be created.

Some patterns are deeper than others

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The boy in striped pajamas – propaganda for what?

the boy in the striped pajamasThe boy in striped pajamas... I must be off my rockers, right?

If you have been reading my articles for any length of time, you know that movies are a fertile ground for me to see stuff about myself, about the nature of ego, etc.

This article I am going to write about The boy in the striped pajamas

Why? I trust my inner voice, and my inner voice has been doing two things today: made me sing the "Amazing Grace" and ponder about the ending of that movie.

So, what's up with that movie? Great title, eh, the boy in striped pajamas, who would not want to watch that?!

Ever since I read the Ayn Rand book, Atlas Shrugged, my eyes have opened, and see things I didn't consciously see before. Continue reading "The boy in striped pajamas – propaganda for what?"

Intrinsic Values and Your Vibrational Frequency

intrinsic values are like a diamond's facetsIn the All-That-Is vibration, which is the highest accessible to human beings, you'll find all the intrinsic values, just like in a perfectly polished diamond, all facets of the diamond reflect the perfection of the whole.

What can raise your vibration? The mirror effect

In this article, we'll need to distinguish three things:

1. what are intrinsic values
2. what you complain about others shows something fundamental about you
3. what you are, you attract

What are intrinsic values?

Intrinsic values (I use this as an ethical term) are the many qualities, capacities and feelings one would strive for, although they do not produce or provide anything tangible and fly in the face of self-interest.
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How To proactively beat the top regrets of the dying? Part 2

top regrets of the dyingHow To proactively beat the top regrets of the dying?

Yesterday I gave you an exercise to imagine yourself on your deathbed.

Many people get all emotional about that: so it may not have worked for you. I love that exercise, but here is another exercise:

Imagine that you are on the riverside fishing. You see that the line is tout, the rod is trembling, so you do what fishermen do, and you pull out a fish.

As you take the hook out of the fish's mouth the fish starts to talk. It says: My good man (or woman, if you are a woman), please release me back into the water and I will reward you handsomely: I will fulfill three wishes for you.

You are surprised, you question your sanity for a little bit, so you throw the fish back, after all any wish should be more valuable than the 3-4 bucks this fish is worth when you cook it. Continue reading "How To proactively beat the top regrets of the dying? Part 2"

Top Five Regrets of the Dying and how to beat them

Top Five Regrets of the Dying and how to beat them

  • 1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
  • 2. I wish I didn't work so hard.
  • 3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.
  • 4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
  • 5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

These are the top five regrets of the dying, and here is how to beat having these regrets, or any other

I have read articles about dying and I have read poems written by old-old people expressing their regrets. They are in death's anteroom, and the view of their life and themselves is special from there: they are to the side and slightly elevated position from where they can both feel and see. Continue reading "Top Five Regrets of the Dying and how to beat them"

Reprogramming Your Mind For Peace, Happiness, Achievement, and More

reprogramming your mindReprogramming Your Mind

Huh? Reprogramming? For what? Why? How?

The biggest issues I encounter in my practice is the monkey mind. The noise. The morass. The voices you heed.

What am I talking about? I am talking about a busy mind, stuck in constant chatter, and unable to concentrate at the task at hand. Even to hear! When you are in this state, if you are like me, you are dreaming of reprogramming your mind.

Unless the task is a repetitive task, requiring no input from you, this may work, but if your input is required, especially if the input needs to be creative and complex, you are screwed! royally. Continue reading "Reprogramming Your Mind For Peace, Happiness, Achievement, and More"