Confidence: firm trust, a sense of self, appreciation someone's proven track record
If you look up the word in the dictionary, that is not what you find.
All dictionaries are now in step with the tendency to make words vague, not matching the reality... this word is a crucial word in your vocabulary. Unless you get this right, your chances of having a self, and thus the chance for self-confidence are between zero and none.
No one takes my Starting Point Measurements Seriously. How do I know? Because I have literally haven't had anyone ask clarifying questions about certain key words that will make or break you... Not even one.
I have given people driving directions in the ancient times where there was no gps and you could not google direction.
How did I do it? I drove the path several times, and took notes: what you see when you need to turn, what you see when you are still on the path, what you see when you went too far.
Looking back, decades later, and I see that this was training, preparation for what I am going to do in this article... give you "driving" directions to how to travel the path from where you are to where I am pointing you.
If that is where you wanted to get to, my directions are good. If that is not where you wanted to get to: you are reading the wrong articles.
"You can only kick with one foot at a time, Otherwise you fall on your arse."
You can only pick one thing that you want out of life, and if you pick the wrong thing, you'll never be successful.
...Joel Salatin said, "the worst thing in life is to get older and realize you got good at the wrong thing."
You would think that the title is about multi-tasking. But it isn't. It is a life that is un-integrated.
So what is an integrated life?
A life is like a symphonic orchestra.
Most people's life sounds like the tuning the instruments phase of the orchestra: cacophony. Bad noise.
Only when the conductor shows up, raps his baton against the music sheets, silence, and music starts. All instruments read the same music sheets, all keep their eyes on the conductor... Integration happens.
One of the brilliant ideas from the 67 steps that hardly anyone considers as applying to them is the idea of spending at least one third of their discretionary time in the company of people who are ahead of them. Preferably by 20 years of experience and wisdom and results in a certain area of life.
These people will be able to teach you something, and you will feel small, ignorant, and maybe even worthless.
But you'll have a chance to learn something useful.
Instead people prefer spending time with ignorant people they can feel smarter than. This is one of the main reasons you can continue feeling a lot more valuable than you actually are.
In my article "democratic" says more about this...
One of my students in the 67 steps coaching decided to start listening to me. That was a huge step for him... This happened after a whole year of pretending that he did in fact listen to me.
As a result he observed his environment and found that his boss is one of those 20 years ahead of him guys.