A counter-intuitive strategy you’ve been missing…

build the habit firstSometimes you just do what you do... but you can't see the forest for the trees... until someone puts a label on what you do... I am talking about myself...

This is what happened today... what a glorious day!

Because unless you see the forest... you may be doing the right thing, but

1. cannot teach others to do the same
2. cannot start a new "forest" in a different area

Create the habit first... That is the principle... Unless you know the principle, you can't teach it... Unless you can teach it, it is not conscious enough... it is not guiding enough.

Most people start doing things wanting instant results. It is like building the penthouse first... It is not going to work.

Why is this revolutionary?

When you tackle one thing at a time, you are doing simple things easy. That is another principle: do simple things easy! Continue reading "A counter-intuitive strategy you’ve been missing…"

Want the good life? Use the Edge effect. Finding your niche where you can win. living life creatively

theodore-roosevelt-quoteYou want the good life... Creating the good life, health, wealth, love and happiness, will require creativity from you... 1

The opposite of creativity is timidness. 2

Creativity is living at risk... Existential courage. 3

You want to color inside the lines... and get the good life. No chance.

Unless you are willing to shuffle and stir things up, you are among the dead, you are among those timid souls that never know defeat, but never know success either.
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Many of you don’t have a Self… here is how to find your Self

We all have two selves. One is real, the other is made up.

The bigger the distance between the two, the less authentic, the less happy we are.

When you love yourself: you love your life... said in another way: when the two selves are in harmony, you love your life.

The soul's (the real self) job is to cause character, the soul's job is to help you find out who you are. The Self. The person you are...

Many of you have not managed to distinguish a Self from all the ideas of who you should be, who you want to be, who you fancy yourself being... The precious I, the delusional self.

A Self is your "I" that is independent and defensible from other people's opinion, and from even your own opinion of you... when you make mistakes.

I know this is a mouthful, so let me elaborate:
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Is your vibration a good measure to ask for? What one number could be better?

Hundreds of people ask for their vibration, or their frequency... and none of them is too happy about what they get.

Why? Because they don't know what to do with that number.

This article will explore a more useful number, a number that, if you are so inclined, can grow... and your vibration and life satisfaction will grow with it.

My training/coaching program focuses on another measure...

I had an insight today: instead of looking at the 67 steps as a collection of guidance, or even principles, it is a lot more useful to look at it as a dictionary of sorts.

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What is the opposite of entitled?

what do I deserve?Every generation is more entitled than the previous one. Why? Let me explain...

If appreciative is the opposite of entitled... does that mean that all those people who are not appreciative are entitled?

Entitled 1 is a worldview. It is a ground-of-being phenomenon, invisible, like the floor. An unexamined truth. To you. But for the other, it is quite obvious... 2

So how do you know that you are not appreciative? that you are entitled?

This is how:

  • Even when you thank someone, they frown...
  • You may even be diligent in thanking someone, you may even feel a stab of thankfulness, but those thanks are the waves on the waters, not the bottom of the sea... The bottom of your sea is entitlement.

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What are beliefs? And what keeps you from what you want?

Is there really such a thing as a belief?

One of the things that keep you stuck is the language that you use.

One of the words that definitely hand over the reins to someone else is the word belief.

I, personally, argue that such a thing even exists.

Approaching life, approaching reality, approaching tasks with inadequate tools, antiquated tools will lead to disaster, and that is where you, most of you, find yourself.

Lots of words, lots of books, lots of talking, but no advancement. Neither personally, nor as a race.

As a true empath, I actually see why.

You and everything you read is stuck on the surface. On the seeming working of the Universe, or in this case, the seeming working of a human.

If we dealt with computers, or cars, or even houses the way we deal with, try to fix, etc. humans, ourselves, our thinking, our behavior, we would go back to the stone age. Continue reading "What are beliefs? And what keeps you from what you want?"

How to become someone who can make good decisions that really serve you?

Is it worth it? Is it worth the bother, the effort, the work? Will it get me finally what I want?

One of the reasons people don't like to try new things is because they cannot judge whether they can do it or not. Whether it will be easy or not. Whether it will be pleasant and enjoyable or not.

How come? Why is it so difficult? Life is complex, and most of us have no tolerance for complexity. Complexity, ambivalence, ambiguity are normal, but the capacity to hold them becomes available to you in only at a certain brain development age... If you got stuck in young child brain development, that is most people, you have never developed the capacity.

Can you develop this capacity now? Of course you can. What is preventing you from doing it? Your low TLB number... you are a Twitchy Little Bastard... and you can't deal with complexity, confusion, or looking long enough to actually see something.

Some of my students, when they learned about my habit of looking long and more than just once... as a way to deal with my dyslexia, have started to practice the same... and their ability to hold controversy and ambivalence has increased... because of that practice. But if you fancy yourself smart, quick, etc. Looking long and hard is going to be difficult, because your precious "I" will tell you that only stupid people look long and hard.

Actually the opposite is true: your precious "I" is deceiving you and keeping you... eh... stupid. In the stupid as the stupid does sense. Continue reading "How to become someone who can make good decisions that really serve you?"

How do you know what you are afraid of? Why you are afraid… even when you have no reason to be.

what are you afraid of?It was 1991. Georgia... some miles from Atlanta, in a hunting lodge. November. Communication Commando Course.

Just the name was enough to put the fear of god in me. But then they ushered me in this little room where I needed to answer some questions about myself, name, age, where I live, who I live with... in front of a camera.

Now, by that time I had been on television twice, seen and recognized by millions of people. And yet, I was terrified.

What was I afraid of?

This is what this article is about... what is it that you are afraid of, that you cannot tell what it is, but it is as real as that if they keep you underwater long enough, you'll be dead. Dead dead.... Continue reading "How do you know what you are afraid of? Why you are afraid… even when you have no reason to be."

What is the level of your awareness? awareness of what’s going on, inside and outside

you don't know your ass from a hole in the groundFirst let me digress... If you search this question of google, you'll find out that not many people even know what this question means, what awareness means... They confuse and collapse consciousness and awareness... It's like they don't know shit from shinola...

OK, back on track: If you went back to your high school class and were given the opportunity to pick one person. And you would get 10% of their earnings for your lifetime. How would you pick? Would you pick yourself?

There are many criteria you can choose by.

According to the 67 steps, the level of awareness is the most telling of how well a person will do in life. Continue reading "What is the level of your awareness? awareness of what’s going on, inside and outside"

What if you find that your word has no power?

One of the hardest things for anyone is to know themselves. 1

And not knowing yourself is the cause, not just correlation, of the most misery.

Why you don't know yourself? Thousands of reasons... knowing yourself also obeys the Anna Karenina Principle.

This article will not be about that. This article will be about the price you pay for not knowing yourself.

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