People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care

…poet and filmmaker Jean Cocteau said.

  • 1. There are truths that you can only say after having won the right to say them.
  • 2. True realism consists in revealing the surprising things that habit keeps covered and prevents us from seeing.
  • 3. What the public criticizes in you, cultivate. It is you.
  • 4. You should always talk well about yourself! The word spreads around, and in the end, no one remembers where it started.
  • 5. We shelter an angel within us. We must be the guardians of that angel.

IF THE ANGEL DECIDES TO COME . . .

‘If the Angel decides to come it will be because you have convinced her, not by tears, but by your humble resolve to be always beginning; to be a beginner.’ ~ Rainer Maria Rilke Continue reading “People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care”

How do I decide what to write about?

how do i decide what to write about?Before I answer that question, I want to look at something closely related, but something I have only seen addressed one single time. And that is: how to be in a conversation where you listen in such a way, that everything you say will be delightful for to the other… where you are in a gentle and pleasant dance… instead of how you are now: separate, all about yourself… never dancing, never really having an experience of belonging to the human race, or even to that particular conversation. Wanting to win, wanting to dominate, wanting to be right, look good, etc.

And as a result you now have a life that you don’t belong with the closest people, family, lovers, children… co-workers, bosses, even friends, if you even have any. Continue reading “How do I decide what to write about?”

What is the “real” meaning of little hinges swing big doors? What glorious thing can it mean to you?

What is the “real” meaning of little hinges swing big doors? And what is the practical benefit of knowing this principle? What is the practical benefit of putting this principle to work in your life?

The difference between the 99% and the 1% is what we are talking about in this article.

99% of people, and the 1% of people… that is.

You may or may not be able to raise yourself to the level of the 1%, but you’ll move from wherever you are to a lot higher in income, a lot higher life satisfaction, etc. depending on how well you employ this principle… a concept you probably have never thought of as it could apply to YOUR life.

You are smart… right? Well, no, you aren’t.

Unless your life shows that you are smart, let’s consider that you may be smart, but your actions aren’t.

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Desire: is it good to desire? Is it really the Everyman’s Super Power as Mark Joyner teaches?

the everyman's superpower mark joynerI don’t remember why, but I signed up to Simpleology, Mark Joyner’s program. 1

He created a new comic strip, the everyman’s superpower, and, of course, sold it with the same thing he advocates in the comic strip: desire.

Desire, what YOU know as desire, is a lower self vibration, fueled by greed, sexual energy, hunger, anger, vengeance, jealousy, anger… not something you want a lot of.

And even though it is a strong energy, and it may take you to success in some areas, it is destructive of who you are as a person, who you are as a higher consciousness specimen of the  species.

I should already be used to it!

“Source”, or whatever it is I am talking to all day, is steering me to do work I didn’t intend to do: experience, test, fall flat on my face, half-kill myself or my business or my relationships.

OK, here is the havoc I have wreaked as a result of this “steering”… Continue reading “Desire: is it good to desire? Is it really the Everyman’s Super Power as Mark Joyner teaches?”

Everything You Ever Wanted Is Coming To You Through Other People.

Henry David Thoreau wrote

The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation. What is called resignation is confirmed desperation.

What is the meaning of desperation?

Desperate means “having lost all hope.” … If you are in a desperate situation, it means things are really, really bad. Desperate… Both desperate and despair come from the same Latin verb as despair.

I remember clearly what that is like. It wasn’t long ago where I was wholly resigned and therefore had nothing to look forward to…

It was about 10 years ago that I had a turning point.

Continue reading “Everything You Ever Wanted Is Coming To You Through Other People.”

What’s blocking you from having a fulfilled life?

orphaned fawnDon’t ask yourself what the world needs. Ask yourself what makes you come alive. And then go and
do that. Because what the world needs is people who come alive. ~Nelson Mandela

There is a word in Hungarian. It is very expressive, a word I ponder… a lot.

It is “elanyatlanodik”. If I want to translate, so I don’t lose the root, it means becoming a motherless orphan.

The word indicates that a child, at any age, goes through a fundamental loss when they lose the mother.

Half of my students, in some emotional way, lost their mother, the other half would have been better off losing their mother.

What do I mean? Continue reading “What’s blocking you from having a fulfilled life?”

What does positive thinking have to do with learned helplessness? what does belief have to do with it?

Why do I fight positive thinking, why am I trashing it?

This morning I got to a realization: the students that are not making strides, not moving higher on the evolutionary scale are the students that are confusing “there is nothing wrong in reality” with positive thinking.

Positive thinking says: avoid negativity. Turn your back to it. Make up something nice to say about things you don’t like, don’t want.

The French has a saying: The more things change the more things remain the same.

This is a principle: true in every area of life. Continue reading “What does positive thinking have to do with learned helplessness? what does belief have to do with it?”

When Life seems to work against you… or does opposite of what you expected

One of my teachers, via Ayn Rand, has been Aristotle.

He taught me one thing. Most people will not teach you much… they will do one thing and one thing only: alter your foundation.

And with regards to foundation altering: Aristotle’s teaching is the most jarring, and the most transformative.

Here is the teaching:

Contradictions do not exist. Whenever you think that you are facing a contradiction, check your premises.

If you are doing all the right things and still don’t have your results… that is a contradiction. Check your premises.

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Simplicity… Elegance… Coherence… Ask a different question…

We tend to look at the world in black and white terms. This or the opposite…

You and me… 1

But often what you think is the opposite is not…

My current favorite book, 46 rules of Genius, says:
“Rule 24 (of Genius)

“SIMPLIFY

“People tend to view simplicity and complexity as opposites. But this isn’t strictly true. The enemy of simplicity isn’t complexity, but disorder. And the enemy of complexity is also disorder.

  • While complexity seeks order through addition,
  • simplicity seeks order through subtraction.

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Become all you can become? Why? How? Aren’t you already all you can become?

Yesterday I spent about four hours listening to Jordan Peterson. The material I listened to was a truth value of 30%… not bad.

In some ways Jordan Peterson, the teacher, and I, the teacher, deal with the same things: people don’t see why they should learn.

Many reasons, I see, but one of them is fundamental, and also invisible, meaning it is an invisible part of reality, the part that is below the sea level of the iceberg. It’s not hidden, as one of my students says… although Werner calls the process that makes it visible “unconcealing” suggesting that it is concealed, which is another word for hidden.

According to Kabbalah, 90% of reality is also hidden, so maybe I should call it hidden… but I prefer invisible… sue me if you don’t like it. Continue reading “Become all you can become? Why? How? Aren’t you already all you can become?”