So I am listening to the "itch" calls from 2014, and I am mortified at the level of transformation... It is near zero.
Sometimes I put the cart in front of the horse...
The insight (the horse) on the two selves that unless they become a team, no transformation can happen, came since I did those amazing Itch calls in 2014... so no wonder that the results are missing...
What am I talking about?
Your machine, your particular machine, was built based on an incident. Or better said: a decision you made by you (or accepted about yourself) as a child.
So far so good... but the process doesn't stop there.
Yesterday I found a quote that shook me to my core... So I want to start with that. You could say: that quote accurately expresses my attitude about life... and I am moved by that
It is 60% truth value, not because 40% of it is not true, but because it doesn't quite distinguish the path, doesn't look at the invisible dynamics of life it a way, that people can catch themselves as they make themselves miserable...
It is never circumstances, nor other people that make you miserable, it is your inability: lack of distinctions, to see exactly what creates your attitude and behavior.
You can't catch what you can't see! And lack of distinction is the cause of it.
Distinction is the ability to tell two things apart, even if and when they are very similar.
I have a couple of notebooks in my bed, and I caught a glimpse in one of them: love one day at a time.
It seems that society conspires against the peace that comes from the way of living: society wants you to chase something far away, and while you chase it, make vision boards, mind movies, bombastic declarations, and get caught up in the Desire Trap, which I'd like to rename Wanting Trap.
And although the best things come to you as side effect, not as results of goal setting, although what works in like is taking care of the process, keeping your eye on what you are doing, not concerned with big goals, or the future, most people today are caught up in the Wanting Trap, and live a life of unhappiness, and underachieving. Continue reading "All Goals in Life Are Problematic — Except One"
I like failed experiments. Why? Because successful experiments are more likely the result of confirmation bias... So even in experiments I opt for the Anna Karenina Principle: remove all that isn't a certain yes, everything that is accidental in the results or make the result a bad result, something I don't want.
So I am preparing for an experiment today, the "don't eat the marshmallow" experiment.
I have been, thus far, absolutely unreliable and untrustworthy to not eat something I should not eat, like candy or chocolate, or fruit.
Most people have one or two tools in their tool box... And what is even stranger: they don't want any more. Why?
Some of you cannot deal with complexity, and therefore you will deny your right to feel feelings. And some of you will indulge your feelings and never look, never ask any probing questions that could let you see what is really going on...
There is a saying: man makes plans, god laughs... but how do you explain it without god... I am an atheist. This article is about what it means "god laughs" and what happens to you and your plans if you don't know what it means, and how to recognize it.
I found something I have never seen before.
As I have said before, the case, your case, is a shape-shifter, and it knows more tricks than are found in all the trick books out there.
As you know, my case is that I am dead, should be dead, who knows how long I have...
Now, learning, starting a new business, learning a software is for the long term. And I have found myself a non-starter in that. I have more programs I have never even started to work with that cost me more money than I could afford.