Permission to be the way you are, warts and all

permission to growOnly when you have permission to be how you are, who you are, where you are, that you have permission to grow.

If you don’t, it you should be more, better, or different, then you can’t grow… because your starting point is that A should not be A…

In this work we attempt to change our genes so we can become all we can become.

I read this quote in an email today.

I have done nothing all summer but wait for myself to be myself again.‘ — Georgia O’Keeffe. Continue reading “Permission to be the way you are, warts and all”

There is always more East to go… before you get there

There is always more East to go…

No matter how close I get to the absolute core of things, there is always more to the core.

Frustrating. More for you than for me.

Because what seems like a ‘silver bullet‘ doesn’t work for everyone.

I hate to think that what something doesn’t work for some people, it may be my fault. You would too… of that I am certain. Continue reading “There is always more East to go… before you get there”

What is it like to pull your anchor-to-doom the new way?

anchor to doomPulling your anchor to doom the new way is a profound experience. Life changing. For the client, and often for me.

So what is the new way?

The old way focused on emotions. But because all emotions arise as the consequence of words, words that give the backdrop, the attitude, it is more productive to look through the words, and the words that say what you want particularly.

So that is the new way, looking through the words of what you WANT… Continue reading “What is it like to pull your anchor-to-doom the new way?”

Life is best lead as a series of projects. Like a cheetah

One of my teachers, Sean teaches that instead of starting a business is start a project, not a business.

But most people don’t know diddly squat about building, creating a project.

They know goal setting… daydreaming… wishing, wanting, etc.

But projects? Continue reading “Life is best lead as a series of projects. Like a cheetah”

How wanting is the root of misery, not hate, money, or wars

An interesting result from the ‘one emotion to rule them all‘ article is this:

when you use your energy, when you downgrade your drive to be satisfied with instant gratification, what is easy, it is like you feed it junk food.

An aside: Most of what you eat is junk food, by the way. Unless the food leaves you energized, not hungry for at least four hours, it was junk food. Probably the least junky food is your breakfast… Continue reading “How wanting is the root of misery, not hate, money, or wars”

Your life is like a boat. It is driven by the drift 99%

Every learning is becoming. Every action that is aimed at learning but doesn’t lead to becoming… is not learning, it is just a pretense. Treading water. The drift.

But becoming is not easy, and it takes longer than you would expect. OK, longer than I expect. Longer than I have been expecting 🙁

Why? because some of the learning requires you to be right there, ready for that particular learning. You first need to become ready.
Continue reading “Your life is like a boat. It is driven by the drift 99%”

For whom the bell tolls, It tolls for thee. I weep for you

I am having flashbacks.

I hoped I wasn’t going to live long enough to live it in reality, but there you have it… I am.

Nazism. Law of Attraction. Idol worship. Pipe dreams. Continue reading “For whom the bell tolls, It tolls for thee. I weep for you”

The entitlement anchor: what being ‘entitled’ really means

The entitlement is anchored deep, and unless it’s pulled, it will keep jerking you back and forth, like a puppet.

Because I never felt that I was entitled to anything. My entitlement genes turned off when they were supposed to. It was around age 2. That was actually a little early, but that’s when it happened for me.

I never suspected that the entitlement anchor is actually more predictive to the quality of your life, to your unvoluntary harmful actions than the anchor to doom. Continue reading “The entitlement anchor: what being ‘entitled’ really means”

Compassion… why a coach needs to have it or else…

learn from this pupI cry a lot. Most of the time not about myself. I cry with people.

When I pull an anchor, decades of misery and sadness spill out. And I feel it. I feel your sadness. I feel your longing to belong, to be appreciated. And I feel that you feel that you have been mistreated. And now that we have uncorked it… you can grieve.

I recommend that you do. Grieve. Continue reading “Compassion… why a coach needs to have it or else…”

How beliefs, worldview give you your actions, your life

I’ve decided that there are two kinds of people; those who solve real problems and those who create imaginary ones. ~ quote from the Monday Morning Memo.

This quote arrested me…

True or not if I look at yourself right now, are you solving real problems or are you creating imaginary ones?

Your life, when we look at it, will tell you. Continue reading “How beliefs, worldview give you your actions, your life”