For whom the bell tolls, It tolls for thee. I weep for you

I am having flashbacks.

I hoped I wasn’t going to live long enough to live it in reality, but there you have it… I am.

Nazism. Law of Attraction. Idol worship. Pipe dreams. Continue reading “For whom the bell tolls, It tolls for thee. I weep for you”

The entitlement anchor: what being ‘entitled’ really means

The entitlement is anchored deep, and unless it’s pulled, it will keep jerking you back and forth, like a puppet.

Because I never felt that I was entitled to anything. My entitlement genes turned off when they were supposed to. It was around age 2. That was actually a little early, but that’s when it happened for me.

I never suspected that the entitlement anchor is actually more predictive to the quality of your life, to your unvoluntary harmful actions than the anchor to doom. Continue reading “The entitlement anchor: what being ‘entitled’ really means”

Compassion… why a coach needs to have it or else…

learn from this pupI cry a lot. Most of the time not about myself. I cry with people.

When I pull an anchor, decades of misery and sadness spill out. And I feel it. I feel your sadness. I feel your longing to belong, to be appreciated. And I feel that you feel that you have been mistreated. And now that we have uncorked it… you can grieve.

I recommend that you do. Grieve. Continue reading “Compassion… why a coach needs to have it or else…”

How beliefs, worldview give you your actions, your life

I’ve decided that there are two kinds of people; those who solve real problems and those who create imaginary ones. ~ quote from the Monday Morning Memo.

This quote arrested me…

True or not if I look at yourself right now, are you solving real problems or are you creating imaginary ones?

Your life, when we look at it, will tell you. Continue reading “How beliefs, worldview give you your actions, your life”

I had been miserable for a few days till…

I had been miserable for a few days now…

So when this happens I pay attention.

Of course my attention is splintered: some of it goes into feeling sorry for myself, some of it to ‘fix’ the misery… or its seeming cause. and some of it to see what is REALLY going on.

I always say that if you can go through hell with your eyes open and with wide cone of vision, you are going to see what lead you there and what you can do to reduce the likelihood of going through hell again any time soon. Continue reading “I had been miserable for a few days till…”

Love is wanting for you what you want for yourself…

Maybe love is wanting even more for you than you want for yourself… but I am not sure about that.

Because of great love one is courageous. And coaching you is a lot like training tigers to act like pussycats… And as dangerous.

A coach wants for you what you say you want for yourself… Continue reading “Love is wanting for you what you want for yourself…”

Prison Break… what is the prison? What holds you back?

Your prison has no walls… No fences. And yet you are not leaving. You know it well, and the devil you know is maybe better than the devil you don’t… But only maybe.

A good teacher’s fate is that some of the students will ‘fly’ higher than the teacher ever would… Continue reading “Prison Break… what is the prison? What holds you back?”

The rudderless, directionless, low energy, and the floater

I had a conversation the other day with my core group. They felt to me rudderless, directionless, low on energy… like a floater.

What’s a floater, you ask? A floater is like stork sh!t… floats in the air and occasionally drops on the ground. Storks are known to poop while in the air… their poop dries out and starts its own rise and fall journey with the air stream… no innate motive power. A floater is like that. Continue reading “The rudderless, directionless, low energy, and the floater”

My hunch: I’ll be bumbling towards clarity for a while

My new job is to take you, to lead you, to help you come out of the cave of the mind.

A prison break. Not unlike to the Exodus the Bible talks about: the Jews leaving the shadow world of Egypt for the Promised Land…

What is that cave? It is filled with words… filled with interpretation of facts, but it contains none of the facts. Continue reading “My hunch: I’ll be bumbling towards clarity for a while”

Reality is highly patterned. But do you see reality?

Reality is highly patterned… except that you don’t often SEE reality beyond getting an occasional glimpse.

Scientists know that reality is patterned… because they were looking for it. Continue reading “Reality is highly patterned. But do you see reality?”