Why can’t you get from A to Z? Why does it look hopeless?

fall in love with the grindPersonal note: I have been in this transformation game since 1985. I never understood why the human condition was the way it was, why it was hopeless. I didn’t know about the selfish gene… I was completely ignorant.  Like most transformational teachers I was ignorant.

A little knowledge is dangerous in the hand of someone who only missed that little knowledge… a little knowledge is dangerous in my hands. I am now confident that with this new knowledge I can guide you to better to win in life.

If you are here, then I guess everything is not going as well as you’d like it to.

Continue reading “Why can’t you get from A to Z? Why does it look hopeless?”

Success as the destination causes a failed life

In fact, it is not just success, but any supposedly positive outcome. When it is the focus, when it is the destination, it will cause a failed life. As certainly as that the sun will come up in the morning.

I have a student who wants to be worthy.

The question to ask: why? Why would you want to be worthy?

All your wants are fueled by a desire to fix.

It is human nature, it is not personal. What is personal is what you want to fix… not the desire to fix. The desire to fix is universal. Continue reading “Success as the destination causes a failed life”

Beyond the horizontal, beyond ambition, beyond desire…

climbing jacob's ladderI am re-reading Atlas Shrugged.

When the first two times I read it, I knew it was very important. but an essential aspect was missing for me. An aspect I just got a week or so ago.

This aspect, the difference between ambition and desire, that goes, hand in hand, with the word pairs, producer vs second hander, vertical plane vs horizontal plane. Continue reading “Beyond the horizontal, beyond ambition, beyond desire…”

If you don’t manage yourself, someone, something else will

manage-yourself-for changeSo I guess it is that time again… when the broken faced child comes out of the woodwork…

I use this expression ‘broken face child’ as if I expected you to know what I am talking about… You probably don’t.

So let me explain: When you were little, things happened to you that were beyond your comprehension. You had to make up some story,some interpretation of what was happening. It is normal.

The ‘normal’ story everyone makes up  is this: ‘There is something wrong here. Either with me, or with them, or with the world, that’s why this is happening.’

Most of us made up: ‘There is something wrong with me.’ Continue reading “If you don’t manage yourself, someone, something else will”

Do you need passion to love your work? The right work?

Do you need passion to love your work? Purpose? Maybe the right work?

What is the truth about that?

One of my former students sent me an email today. He is a former student, because I could not get him to achieve any results whatsoever.

But he has sent me valuable information before, so I read the email. Continue reading “Do you need passion to love your work? The right work?”

How to prevent a new project from disrupting your life?

humility prevents new knowledge from disrupting your lifeHow do you keep your focus? Keep your focus in spite of adding new tasks, new projects, new activities to your schedule?

How do you prevent it from disrupting your life? How do you become one of those people who can do more and therefore have more?

This is the question many of you have asked me.

Most people are unproductive. period. So this article is mostly for people who are productive in their main occupation, until… Continue reading “How to prevent a new project from disrupting your life?”

The Seven Boulders that you need to concquer

When you decide on a new direction for your life, you suddenly find yourself with obstacles blocking you, even your view of the horizon, let alone your path.

Your reaction to it will be one of two kinds… in my experience. Continue reading “The Seven Boulders that you need to concquer”

Do what you do today so your future self can…

Do what you do today so your future self can appreciate the effort you made

I got this email about two, maybe three years ago… and today. Both warmed my heart. Today I even wept.

The first email from this student/client: Continue reading “Do what you do today so your future self can…”

Are you a Frank or a Matt? In business, in life…

Frank vs Matt is a concept Andre Chaperon came up with to help demonstrate the two camps or categories (or models) that us marketers operate within.

Although Frank and Matt are not real ‘flesh and blood’ people per se — their traits are absolutely real and based on real people.

You’re currently one of them. Continue reading “Are you a Frank or a Matt? In business, in life…”

We all have multiple personalities… One is delusional

We are in the midst of the Drink your food challenge.

I didn’t know what to expect. I didn’t know what will happen… what spiritual, what intellectual, what personality issues will be driven up.

Here is what I am getting: people find themselves in the GAP. The gap between who they think they are, and who they are proven to be by the challenge.

This article from 2018 will shed a lot of light on what’s going on. Continue reading “We all have multiple personalities… One is delusional”