We are judged all the time. Justly, unjustly, the feeling of being judged is familiar to all of us... and some of us is bothered and paralyzed by it more than others.
What's painful in being judged is that the judgment contains a kernel of truth (or more) and the other part is the judging themselves: in judging they place themselves above us... simply unbearable to the sensitive Precious "I".
This story is about my very recent "bout" with being judged... and shows what is on the other side of judgment... how to free yourself from it so it doesn't sting quite that much... maybe not even at all.
If you found out in which quadrant you chose to live in, beauty, truth, goodness or power... and now try to argue, or you are worried, or you are resigned... consider that you are just doing what you are doing: you want to be where you are not... or more precisely: you never what to be where you are, you never what to think what you are thinking, you never want to feel what you are feeling.
So you do what you are doing, think what you are thinking, feel what you are feeling only so-so... A student of mine coined the phrase: in the neighborhood of truth.
If you can't physically stop doing what you are doing, etc. then you withdraw into the cave of your mind, and languish there.
It is a safe prison... more like a tomb. You don't have to be with yourself.
Why don't you want to be with yourself? Because when you look into yourself, you find evil inclination, you find ugly, and ultimately you find empty. Not empty as in nothing, but an abyss. You get scared and you run back to your periphery, where it is so busy, you don't have time to even contemplate that there is nothing inside... that there is no you.
One of the big interruptions, potentially, are the times when you get sick.
There are many ways to deal with the Universe, with reality, and most of them are ineffective.
The more effectively you "deal" with reality, the more you get out of your life.
Billionaires Warren Buffet and Charlie Munger, Bill Gates, read books on physics, the ice ages, and the shorelines of our planet... and I see how it helps them in dealing with reality. this is what this article is about.
A principle is a pattern. Big pattern, small pattern, it IS a pattern.
"Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way." By that, Tolstoy meant that for a marriage to be happy, it had to succeed in several key aspects. Failure on even one of these aspects, and the marriage is doomed . . . the Anna Karenina principle also applies to ecological risk assessments involving multiple stressors.
One of my students suggested that the linchpin capacity that humanity isn't exercising is allowing. The 12-step programs say: Let go - Let god...
I have been pondering this ever since I got the email with the suggestion. At first I didn't see the beauty of it, but it is growing on me.
Every living thing must have fear or they would be dead already... meaning the species. Fear is a useful warning that live is dangerous, and every species is the food of another one.
So we have a reason to be afraid. In reality. Animals, cars, other people... all good reasons.
In reality fear is like a nudge. Lasts for a few moments. If you don't pay attention: it will nudge you again. If the danger continues and you ignore the signs, it now turns the nudging on.
In the cave it is totally different. In the cave you your fear is almost totally continuous. Because in the cave reality and the idea of reality are not distinct, not separate, and you are insulated and separated from what is real.
You are going to understand this article on the level of your current accuracy... Be warned... it is probably less than 10%. Reading it more than once won't help, only getting more distinctions into your tool box... accurately.
People don't like to read... read and think... forget about it. The ones that do read and think will be the ones who win...
The English language uses feelings and emotions interchangeably. Anyone who believes that, looks through that lens has a clarity of less than 10%. It's not a judgment: it's a measurement.
Your effectiveness in life is a function of your clarity.
To increase your clarity, I'll attempt to separate feelings from the emotions.
Feelings are sensations. They are for the survival of the species, including the individual. The terminology and the science for this article come partially from Margóczi's book, Feelings, and partially from my internal observation on myself and on my clients. Because I am a True Empath, or however you'll label me... I can feel and identify inner processes accurately, including the processes Margoczi has opened up for me about 16 months ago.
The purpose of feelings is to let the individual specimen know that there is something to pay attention to. The feeling also accurately identifies what to pay attention to... when life and Life are in harmony. All feelings intend the species' survival and sur-thrival. Following the edict of Life: wanting more life.
Awareness is the number one predictor of how your life will turn out. High awareness: a much better life.
In essence, awareness is a number that shows how much of your time you spend outside of the mind... how much of reality can get through to you.
I just had an insight.
Most people can't see anything that they didn't already see. Nothing new can penetrate their awareness... No changes even, nothing... One way mirror. And you are on the mirror side. I can see you making faces at your reflection, picking your nose, etc. What i don't see you is seeing what is on the other side of the mirror. And when I say, hearing works the same way.
Seeing what you have always seen, hearing what you have always heard is not useful.
Most people are on this site because they want to raise their vibration. And raising your vibration means seeing what you haven't seen before, bringing conscious awareness to all areas of life.