Self-awareness is the rarest of all the human virtues. Why? because it is all inner… and unless you have it you won’t even know you have it. And unless you grow it, you can’t change.
This is one of the things I measure in the Starting Point Measurements.
The numbers I get are between 3% and 20%, with 20% is being rare: I only found, so far, one person with that level of awareness.
So what can you notice if and when you are self-aware?
You notice your feelings and your emotions and then interpret them. Explain them.
We (and psychologists) have established that emotional intelligence is crucial to the quality of your life. Your life experience. Continue reading “Self-awareness… what is it and why is it crucial to have it?”
Generosity was one of the distinctions I spent years researching and trying to BE…
It is a tricky way to be, the full meaning of generosity, because almost no one ever is really generous.
We normally equate giving with generosity. Some give stuff, others give praise, some give of themselves.
Most generosity makes the recipient suspicious: what is the ulterior motive?
And rightly so: culturally, human culture, I mean, generosity doesn’t make sense… only trade does. “I give you this, so you’ll give me that.”
And yet, there are a very few people who are actually generous, and they are happy. WTF, right?
Here is another important question: just like with love, whose experience matters, the giver or the receiver? Continue reading “Generosity, choosing, gratitude”
Make your plane go where you want it to go…
This is probably the most shocking sentence in the whole 67 step program.
I literally don’t know anyone who lives that way.
People try to succeed, try a diet, try this and try that… while their plane crashes in every area.
So what is the difference between who are like that, who are on their way to become that kind of person, and others who never ever land their plane on the landing strip? Continue reading “Make your plane go where you want it to go… or what one thing you want to learn from Babe Ruth”
If you admire the butterfly, then you have low vibration… A butterfly person will not be enamored with a butterfly…
The “I don’t like” “I don’t want” list, seems to be a very reliable measure of the size of your world and thus your vibration. (You may call it your frequency, or your vibrational frequency… but what the words indicate isn’t real… your vibration is better defined in this article.)
When you have low vibration (under 200), the size of your world is tiny, mostly about you, your person, how you feel, etc.
Add the three-tier-value-system to the mix, and you are now clearly seeing someone’s vibration, without having to be able to muscle test or connect to Source. Continue reading “The fundamental difference between low vibration and high vibration is…”
Frame: state change. Causing yourself or another to change their emotional state, aka attitude.
The myth of “IS”
One of the invisible tools the memes use, the memes that keep us trapped and unable to take control of our lives is to spew “is” on us.
OK, that was a long sentence. let me see if I can reword it. The memes freeze us into a life where we have no power. It is in the wording. The freezing power comes from the wording.
We have spoken about the having to, needing to, wanting to, and should… these are a group of tools the memes use to rob us of our own power, and render us puppets.
The tool that renders us powerless to change is the improper use of “is”.
- Whenever you feel you need to change, this meme tool is at work.
- Whenever you point a blaming finger at yourself, at the world, or at others, this meme tool is at work.
- It is under learned helplessness. It is under resignation, cynicism, and unless you learn to recognize it, you’ll fight it… like Don Quixote was fighting the windmills. No chance to win.
Continue reading “Reframing: State change: Changing your emotional state”
I spent yesterday reading the novel the 1997 Dutch film (Character) was based upon. Of course they changed a few things, and the film left me in deep quandary. The title didn’t make sense. The whole dynamic didn’t make sense. So I read the book.
Most movies’ ending is clear… this is probably only the second movie that left me with questions: WTF just happened? The other movie is the 2002 Chinese movie “Together”.
Anyway, I read the Character book. It was written in 1938.
I did learn what the title was about. And I learned a lot more.
This article is not about the movie, this article is about what makes a man a Man. Continue reading “Ambition versus Desire… Why ambition has become a dirty word, and who does it serve?”
I found, during the call, that I still have a non-functioning segment in my brain, that is cold… dead? Muscle test says it’s a part of the brain I could coax back to work, if I put the work into it.
That is me. I do what I need to do to grow, every day. And some days I grow, others I don’t… but I DO WHAT I NEED TO DO TO GROW!
What do YOU do?
15 bucks to get your starting point measurements .
You now know where you are, how your brain works, to what degree you are barking up the wrong tree, to what degree what you see is not what is there. You may also know the causes: your hydration is off, your diet is off, your attitude is off.
So you decide to do something about it… but… no change… or temporary change only.
Why wouldn’t it work for you? It worked for me! It works for others!
This is what I’d like to talk about in this post. I even had some insight this morning. Maybe because I had the brain cleansing? I would not be surprised…
Please don’t discount brain health.
Everyone jabbers about mind-health, but unless your brain is healthy, unless it is a high performance machine, you are not going to be able to see, identify correctly, and correct.
Continue reading “I did the energetic brain cleansing webinar I promised yesterday”
All my articles are inspired, are an answer to something that happens right now… something that asks for a new way of seeing things.
Today is not an exception. It’s early and I have read only two of my emails, but the need to write an article is already there…. lol. The “bomb” is towards the end of the email, so try to hang in there: what you will learn there will first upset you, but has a chance to set you free… But the first part prepares it… Really.
M in Germany is looking at coherence and balance… and brings the following two visuals
1. Coherence is crafting a symphony… music
2. Coherence while having a whiny 3-year old tug at your skirt in the kitchen. Continue reading “Is life a symphony or is life chaos for you? What you manifest will be dramatically different”
Here is a quote from Rob Brezsny’s weekly newsletter to illustrate that “For every complex problem there is an answer that is clear, simple, and wrong”.
Answers that sound like solutions… but aren’t… they just hide the problem deeper… so we get further away from the truth.
Our ability to pursue our dreams can be inhibited by four addictions:
1. an addiction to what other people think of us;
2. an addiction to creating melodrama in a misguided quest for excitement;
3. an addiction to believing we’re imprisoned by what happened in the past;
4. an addiction to negative thoughts that fill us with anxiety.
(Thanks to success coach Tom Ferry for these ideas.)
The good news is that it is your birthright to beat all four of those addictions. The work won’t come fast or early, and it may never be perfect. But it’s quite possible
The above is an example of how coaches teach us. It’s all surface. Simple, easy, and not true. 99% of what you find in books on the internet, in articles, is simple, easy, and not true.
Explanations exist; they have existed for all time; there is always a well-known solution to every human problem — neat, plausible, and wrong. H.L. Mencken
Continue reading “FOUR ADDICTIONS or why people whose job is to help you, can’t and won’t”
Context is decisive…
I found a great article that described what has been the most important spiritual shift in my career as a teacher and a coach.
I trust that you’ll be able to see how it applies to you and how it can transform your life, and create a spiritual shift for you too.
Here is the story:
The Day I Pretended to Babysit My Own Kids
By Chana Bitton
Emotionally exhausted. This is how I was beginning to feel on a regular basis. Everything my kids did that wasn’t “perfect” got on my nerves. If they argued with each other, I yelled. If they didn’t listen to me the first time I asked, I yelled. If they had a complaint about dinner, I got annoyed . . . and yelled. Why was I reacting this way? Why couldn’t I enjoy my job as a mother, and see the beauty in raising a family?When did parenting become such a burden?
It was something I thought about regularly, because I knew that the way I was being was not the kind of parent I wanted to be. I wanted to rediscover the enjoyment in parenting, but I needed to dig deep to figure out how to find it again.
One night during bedtime, as I was putting my 6-year-old to sleep, I began having the same agitated feeling. She kept asking questions, not listening, squirming—basically, being a normal 6-year-old. I hated the way I was feeling, and decided to play a little mind game with myself. Continue reading “How babysitting your children, your business, even yourself alters how you feel”