..that is one of the disappointing things you learn when you do work with me. I won't feed you baloney like "you are a spiritual being having a human experience..." and other garden variety horse manure.
The other half-sentence is just as disappointing: "you can't get out of this life alive..."
These two half-sentences address 70% of the popular delusions of humanity.
There are emotions and then there are the effects of emotions. But
all emotions can cause incoherence.
You know you are incoherent when your decisions are wrong, and take you down the path of self-destruction or hurting yourself or someone else. When you can't hear what someone is saying. When you find your attention wandering. When you are not present.
Some emotions' energy goes outward, other emotions' energy goes inward.
Either type of emotions,
in a weak person, wreak havoc and cause devastation. A strong person can harness their outward emotions to move mountains, to accomplish, to achieve, to grow.
And a strong person can accept their inward going emotions as not necessary, not rolevant, and let them go.
On one of the webinars the topic was "Not being heard... Being misunderstood"
Every person on the call had at least one painful childhood incident where their speaking wasn't getting for them what they intended to get, instead their speaking was earning them grief and heart ache.
They wanted appreciation, understanding, equality, or love, validation, significance, or at least agreement.
When something doesn't work, one would expect, next time you'll try something different. But no... in real life it seems that the more something doesn't work, the more you, humans are trying to fit a square peg into a round hole.
There is a hidden monkey wrench in the title. Emotions are neither negative nor positive, but let's just forget that for a moment.
Depending on the answer to that question, you are either a happy, well-adjusted person, or a wretch.
Wow, Sophie, isn't that an exaggeration? The answer to just one question?
I understand your outrage, but yes. The answer to just one question will tell me what kind of person you are. As far as everything... by the way.
I used to be a person you didn't want around. I came from an abusive background, and spread it to others in spades. Misery loves company... lol not funny. 1
When suppressed, when denied, emotions go underground. What is unexpressed yearns to be expressed. It builds pressure and one way or another it will express itself. In self-abuse, in the abuse of others, or maybe even more violent ways. Continue reading "What about your negative emotions?"
The best way to examine whether emotions give you a reliable internal guidance system is looking at the flip side of emotions.
In emotional terms, for example, love's opposite is hate, disgust, being appalled, repelled. But if you look at your emotions, these opposites are right there, right behind the emotion: love... They come together like the front of your hand and the back of your hand. You are in perpetual ambivalence, yoyo-ing back and forth, ups and downs, and incoherence.
Love, the one that vibrates at 525 or so, is not an emotion. Love is a commitment to love.
Love is a commitment to accept another human exactly the way they are and exactly the way they aren't. Whether they do the right thing, love you back, chew their food with their mouth open, lower back the lid on the toilet, or leave the top off the tooth paste.
The world is mundane. Ordinary. At least through ordinary eyes. It is just the way it is.
Some people see beauty, some people see truth, some people see goodness, but for the most part you see reasons to justify why you only trudge through life, never really seeing any poetry, any romance, anything really uplifting.
The Beyond, The Divine, The "Spirit" gets through to you through one of those, truth, beauty, goodness, and how you know it got to you because something echoes in your Soul.
You cry, you laugh, you shut up... words don't come close to express it.
When I work with people on their life's purpose, on the meaning of their lives, especially when I do it in a private call, I need to work a lot.
Humans have a dual nature, a dual nature that is the enemy of growth, enemy of learning, enemy to the survival of the species...
Arrogance and pride...
Arrogance is duality itself.
It says, on one hand: I already know. I know. I am beyond that.
On the other hand: OMG, I am so stupid. I make so many mistakes. I better slow down, and not be so sure.
We call the arrogant side "it" in this article. And it talks. And it knows. And it pontificates...
What "it" says it knows? It knows everything. It knows if it is worth it to listen, if it is worth for you to do. It knows if you can. It knows the future, the past, what it all means, what it doesn't mean, what it's all about, what is important and what isn't. Continue reading "Spiritual Arrogance"