Frames… what they are, and how they limit your success, your happiness, your health…

Everybody talks about subconscious beliefs, but I have seen no evidence that there is such a thing. On the other hand almost no one is talking about what's REALLY limiting you in life: your frames.

If you call something that it is not, you take away the power from the individual... and set them up to pay through the nose, and still remain the same.

Some people are masterful with frames, and their wealth is a testament to that... Tony Robbins is one of these guys.

I have been listening to this investment banker, Oren Klaff, who wrote a book (Pitch Anything) and is now speaking to crowds successfully.

His job is do or die... raise the money or die... every day.

Or as a public speaker, raise the enthusiasm of the crowd... or die.

What's his secret?

Frames. Controlling the frames inside which people listen to him. Continue reading "Frames… what they are, and how they limit your success, your happiness, your health…"

Selfish? let’s look at that, shall we?

Life is best lived where what you want for yourself is a side effect.

I know, for half of humanity that sounds like liberal nonsense... but this is how life becomes the most enjoyable, and maybe the most "life-earning" as well, in spite of it being counter intuitive.

And this is true in every area of life...

I can't write a better article on this than Zat Rana here.

What I can write best is the wretchedness of going straight for what you want, and quitting when anyone else benefits... And I can share how this... getting what i need as a side effect, consciously, has been one of the secrets of my inner peace, fulfillment, and happiness.

Some 15 years ago I started studying Kabbalah, an ancient body of thought. The truth value of Kabbalah is about 30%, while most other "ancient" teachings are less than 10% truth value, so if you have a large body of knowledge yourself, have read hundreds or thousands of books, have degrees, etc. You are somewhat safe in studying Kabbalah. Continue reading "Selfish? let’s look at that, shall we?"

Principle: Make your plane land on the landing strip, regardless of the weather

make your plane go where you want it to goI have been "harping" on this with my students: hear the principle first, and then hear the rest...

If I asked you (Cinderella) to separate the wheat from the chaff... what would you do first? If you are like me, you first find out what is the difference... in looks, in weight, and then start separating them accordingly.

I even used to use this capacity (oh, forgot to say, it's a capacity!) to hire or not hire someone to work with me. I would ask someone to separate a pile of things by their category...

For you Everything is the same as everything else ... except not always

Universally missing capacity... I found out.  The underlying capacity can be said with these words: be able to tell the forest for the trees. Continue reading "Principle: Make your plane land on the landing strip, regardless of the weather"

Connect the dots

That only after you're there, can you then connect the dots. You can't connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever.More on connecting the dots...

We all want to know where we are doing, what we are going to do there, we want to make sure we'll be happy there.

What business to start. What book to read. What to get curious in.

But here is the problem: dots can only be connected backwards. There have to be dots! And forward there are no dots.

This is why almost all grand strategies are bound to fail or become a disappointment.

It's cold but sunny today, so I went out for a walk. I ran into a woman who was walking her dog. I know her somewhat. In the brief time that I have known her, she adopted two Chinese girls, started and dissolved a ceramics business, started working in not for profit...

Her older daughter is looking at colleges, and is frustrated. She doesn't know what she wants.
Continue reading "Connect the dots"

Happiness or misery… the invisible dynamic

Tikkun is a Hebrew word, means correction.

I am yet to hear a Westerner, or an Easterner use the word: correction. The world, nowadays, is into "fixing".

Fixing is an ugly world, immediately signaling what the speaker sees, that there is something wrong and it urgently needs to be fixed, because it is wrong that it is. Reactive.

But when emotions run high, the cone of vision narrows, your intelligence plummets, and stupid as the stupid does, your fixing creates new problems, that are the next thing to fix.

Compare that with the approach of correction... course correction... returning to the path of true north. Continue reading "Happiness or misery… the invisible dynamic"

What can a one-track pony teach you?

I have been, I am just noticing, making myself miserable.

What got me out of that direction down to desperation, ultimately, a Carlos Castaneda quote: Continue reading "What can a one-track pony teach you?"

What is the shelf life of your word?

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Okay. This is part two for whatever day it is. Thursday. So what I said in the previous segment is that until you can tell the difference between what you say and what the machine says, there's no chance that you can change your context. Now, it's a little bit deeper than that. Because ... and that's why without integrity nothing works. It's an integrity issue. Now, we consider integrity in a very pedestrian way. You don't cheat, you don't lie, you keep the Ten Commandments and all that morality issue. But, that is not what integrity really is.

Integrity is that, but it is just the bottom of integrity. The real integrity has something to do with word.

Continue reading "What is the shelf life of your word?"

Without a new context your life will remain the same

Okay. This audio is still going to be about context.

I am getting requests to help people change their context or create a new context, such that life starts turning with this new context, so what am I talking about?

Life is co-created and life happens inside the context that you live in. Continue reading "Without a new context your life will remain the same"

How to live your life’s purpose: today

your life is like a trainThere is an audio I recorded six years ago but it is as sharp as anything I do today...
It is about how to live your soul's purpose, and how to start, finally doing something substantial, worth being called your life's work...

In this old audio I address something really important: your being, your attitude, at any moment, is correlated or very influenced, so much that it is given by the future you are heading for.

The future you are heading for is destination towards which the rails of your train go... If you are on a train to Chicago, chances are you are going to arrive to Chicago.
Continue reading "How to live your life’s purpose: today"

The four core default contexts… or Why I stopped participating in Landmark Education?

the four core enforced by booksActually, I continued to participate in Landmark after the incident I'll tell you about... but NEVER intended to contribute any more. Or not really. I was participating from hurt... knowing that what was broken cannot be fixed.

18 years ago, as I was coaching someone, it became clear to me that there are this four core invisibles, that are underneath every issue, every distinction, every weird, unethical, unsavory action a human being makes. Continue reading "The four core default contexts… or Why I stopped participating in Landmark Education?"