Debunking two myths that lead you to no success and misery: from goal to context

Little Boy Reaching out to CookiesMost articles just flow out of me... this one just didn't want to flow.

Why?

My guess is that this article may be the most damaging to the current status quo, current success myths that keeps people that follow the common knowledge stuck in their misery.

My second guess is that it's because I myself am just now going through the process of liberating myself fully from this common knowledge.

With transformation, with success, with raising your vibration, there is no way around hard stuff, only through it.  The shortcut leads through the stuff... Said in another way: the shortcut is not an easy way, it is the hardest, emotionally, existentially, because there is no easy way... so if you were looking for an easy way, please leave now.
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Easy vs what works. Illusion vs reality… how to tell the difference?

bending spoon illusionWe are living in the matrix. We eat make-believe food, have make-believe relationships, fight for make-believe causes.

The main weapon of the illusion that it convinces you that it doesn't exist. They used to say that about the devil... but the real devil is the creators, the pushers, the promoters of the illusion. 1

25 years ago I participated, briefly, in a 12-step program: Adult Children of Alcoholics. As you may know, the first step of joining a group like that is to pick a higher power. Why? I am not sure, I have done no research. I am going to share my own way of using "higher power" because it is relevant to this topic.

I am an atheist. I do not believe that there is a higher power, per se. I do feel that there is a certain order in the Universe, that it is even intelligent, but Higher Power?

And yet, what makes AA and other 12-step programs work, is this higher power thing...
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What’s your context? I just have to look at your life and I can tell. Can you?

context is decisive. what's your context?The biggest price Positive Thinking junkies pay is this:

You can only have power in any situation if you are looking at what is so!

Why do I call positive thinkers junkies? Simple: they are, just like heroin addicts, unable to deal with the momentary feeling bad about anything, they need an escape from reality, at the expense of their life, their health, their relationships, their money.

When you are a positive thinker, your default context is that reality is just plain should not be the way it is.

For you it's wrong, for me it is just what's so... you are powerless, I am powerful.

Finding the silver lining is not available to you, until you see the reality of the situation. For example, yesterday I screwed up something and lost a lot of money. I saw what I did, I appreciated that this wasn't a good time to lose money, and then I looked for a silver lining: it was a learning experience.

I always return to this two moments in my life. Seemingly insignificant moments, but turning points nevertheless.

The first one was when I saw a poster in a chiropractor's office saying something like this: "In order to get to the next level, you need to give up who you have become."

And the second was a poster with a dark sky with a tiny sliver of light showing through. The words said: turn your face to the light...

The first one is the principle of transformation: everything you are, everything you know is in your way of having what you want, what you are striving for. You need to give it up. Painful, frightening, but it's so.

The second one is the idea of escape. Clinging to hope, clinging to "there is help", clinging to being an effect, never a cause. The opposite of power, the opposite of transformation, the essence of positive thinking: the biggest enemy you have ever nurtured on your chest.
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What is your WHY to become successful? What is your REASON and PURPOSE to raise your vibration?

without a big enough why, life is like herding cats

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Most people that sit on the fence, or sit on the sidelines wishing they could be somewhere else, enjoying the fruits of their labor, have a few characteristics to share, in addition to sharing the attitude: "this isn't it". Whatever that "this" is, it isn't it. Neither is how they feel about themselves, nor is the weather. The whole gamut.

The question I set out for myself to answer: what is it that makes these people not successful, not acting, not accomplishing much of anything, not attaining the fruits of their labor even when they do act?

  1. If they don't act, they beat themselves up for not acting, for being indecisive, fearful, overly cautious. They call what stops them fear of failure, but they are wrong: that is not what stops them. We'll see later what it is.
  2. They don't have a vision, neither short term, nor long term. When I ask them what they want, they don't know. They know what they want, what they want to get done. They may have a vague direction, but there is nothing more to it.

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What Is The Attitude That Is Most Missing For You To Succeed?

Paradigm shift: what you see comes from the paradigm you stand in I got an email from a reader today, one of many such emails:

"Hi Sophie, I listened to your video but I didn't get the answer or find solution to my struggles in life! I am wondering, yes as you said, why I am not transformed in-spite of learning so many methods from attending seminars and reading books! I came from a broken family I tried to change my life but sometimes my life was up but mostly down!

Financially I struggle, bankrupt and thinking to end my life. . . But when I hear your story, I did not and I am now almost 5 years searching for answers? I have read the Bible many times from cover to end and everyday, I received emails trying to sell me self-improvement books but I am fed up, nothing works! I would appreciate if you can help me!"

So what can you answer to someone who has been struggling and considering suicide a viable alternative?

One major distinction I need to teach to all my readers, students, a distinction that if you don't learn it, you'll miss everything.

The distinction is called: Where are you listening from?

The from is the operative word here. It is your base attitude consistent with your "grounds of being".

We each are embedded in a paradigm. The insides and the walls of our paradigm are built from our belief system. Your paradigm has everything that you need to stay the same, and nothing to be more successful that you are, happier than you are, thinner, richer, more entertaining, more attractive than you are.

Your current life is exactly what's possible inside your current paradigm.

When you look at someone who has what you crave, you can be 100% sure that they live in a different paradigm with beliefs that can't be found in yours.
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Maybe you can’t lead people to Heaven unless you know the habits and the moves of Hell: the anatomy of Evil

Products of evil are evil products If you went back to yesterday's post, you would find a horoscope by Rob Brezsny predicting that I will have whirlwind like experiences that will take me to what I need to learn, to the tools I need to successfully navigate my path.

I said that it looked exciting, like an adventure. It did.

Just like bungee jumping, roller coaster riding look like fun... Except there is a big difference between looking at it, and being on it.

I started on my journey to transform whatever I needed to transform, because my life felt like a roller coaster and I hated it. I hated the feeling of having no control, I hated being jerked to the left, only so that the next moment I can be jerked to the right. I am not built for this kind of excitement, I am not.

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Context is decisive, or what do you do that upsets people and destroys your relationships

Someone with a critical eye will offer you some unsolicited advice today, and you should not be afraid to hear them out. Their reputation for painful honesty should be no excuse -- your feelings don't matter when real knowledge is out there to be learned. Do not sacrifice an education just for the sake of your ego. If you do, you are not giving yourself enough credit. You are in a solid learning phase, and your mind is ready to take in new information in an objective way.

The above is the horoscope that showed up the other day in my inbox.

And the below one came from Rob Brezsny, for the same time period.

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How To Play An Active Part In Your Organization

In a Landmark Education Course I took back in 1987, I learned that it is possible to live life from a new conversation, a new context: "Life is a conversation"

It is quite simple if you can wrap your mind around it, incredibly difficult if you are attached to the way you see the world.

Humans, you, live as if we knew reality. As if we could know reality. But the truth is: reality, if it exists, is unknowable, it is beyond anyone's knowledge.

So the way we are trying to gather knowledge so we can more accurately describe how it is, is just being a better peon, a better slave, never the master, never the creator we were meant to be.

We look for the meaning in things, or we already know what things mean, but what if that is really the way life can't change for us, and all we can do is all we can do?

"Life is a conversation" means that nothing inherently means anything, that the meaning of things isn't fixed. It also means that for life to change, you need to change the conversation you have about it.

After the weekend course I set out to test it out.

I worked as an architect for hire in Lower Manhattan, so I had to walk about 30 minutes from the train to get to the office. On my way I decided that "ownership" is a conversation, just a piece of paper, but it is also a conversation. I am the owner of that firm... I decided to come from this new conversation.

As owner I noticed litter on the carpet, noticed when people were chatting on the phone, pretending to work. In addition to get my own work done much faster and better, I also reminded people to work...

At the end of the day the owners, two young women, called me into their office. I was scared.

Turns out they called me in to thank me and praise me. This was pretty much the first praise from a boss I got in my 17 years of being employed as an architect, by the way.

Weeks after this conversation, the stock market crashed, and the firm lost most of their clients. But regardless, whenever they had any work for a freelance architect, they called me... all because of living life as if it were a conversation.

Every organization is composed of people with different ranks and positions. The leader is set to lead and direct while the members are the followers. Whatever your position is, you should take part and do your best for the organization to be able to achieve its internal goals and render a satisfying service to its clients. Excellent performance is not only required from leaders: all the members of the team should actively cooperate if the goal is to succeed.

It requires courage and other team values to be able to do your part with both the heart and mind set out for it. However, because this is a must so that you can influence others and lead them all to follow the quality of teamwork, you should learn how to be an active part in the organization you belong.

Know that there are points that set the leader distinct from the members. Basically, you have to have a clear knowledge and understanding of your own obligations as well as of others within the team. Always consider the boundaries of each ranks. Overlapping of tasks causes an insult to the other party who is supposed to take care of the things that you do.

The Role of the Leader

The leader's role within the organization is very crucial. Being the leader, he is the one in the forefront. He should see far ahead to be able to stay away from the harmful elements that can cause the organization to fall down. He should also check out every part of the organization and see to it that they are working well together. He has duties as well as the rights to do what he deemed as right and appropriate for the whole organization. He gives commands, initiates plans, formulates goals and solves problems. A good leader should interact with the members of the team in a proper way. If he has to be an effective leader, he should relate with his followers and win their trust and obedience.

The Role of the Member

The members are the followers of the leader. What the leader initiates, they will follow. While every member of the team, including the leader, works hard, the performance of the members is always checked in order to ensure that productivity is high and the team is working as is expected of it. The people comprising the team are of different skills, and each one is placed in a position he or she is needed the most. Each member should have a sense of respect, trust and commitment.

Every rank is coupled with responsibility. Tasks may not be the same but the important thing is that each one will do his best.

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How to Keep Your New Year Resolution So You Can Feel Good About Yourself?

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Keep Your New Year Resolution? they say they are broken so often, they seem to be made to be broken.

Here is an article that I'd like you to read if your overall sense of life and your important areas of life is that they are stressful, and that you are never getting ahead. When you re-evaluate your projects with the method taught in this article, you will feel good about yourself, because you will keep more of your resolutions.

The method in this article can make a huge difference, and the time it takes is very small compared to you being stuck for a long-long time.

Joe (not his real name) made a new year resolution to stop smoking. He set the date, and he made a plan. Then he started to implement his plan. The plan was to gradually cut down. Then he kept on smoking.

We had our usual coaching call on Wednesday at noon. I asked: what would you like to accomplish in this call?

Joe started to talk about his weight... that one day he lost a pound, the other he gained 2... He weighed himself upon awakening every day, and he was mortified at the up and down nature of his daily weight. He was spending a lot of time worrying about that, he confessed.
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Context, Mindset, Backdrop… why should you care?

Context, Mindset, Backdrop... why should you care?

This is going to be a mind-bender, and at the end of it you'll come up a lot smarter, and with a lot more power over your life... interested?

It is all about mindset! Context is decisive... and what the heck is a backdrop?

Let's start with backdrop. Why? Because it's the easiest to see what's going on.

I say that the backdrop is more important than what happens in the foreground.

  • Someone says something to you and you are hurt.
  • Your boss assigns someone else to an important assignment.
  • Your experiment at making money with your first product is a flop.
  • You continually have trouble and emergency in your life.

The above statements are the foreground.

Depending on your mental attitude (mindset) you say it's bad, or it's good, or you have no opinion.

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