No guts, no glory… is that even a principle?

And whatever that glorious future you dream about, no matter which side of the great divide you are on, that glorious future is a stillborn. That is, unless you have the guts to go for it, and go for it with gusto.

And, because it is a principle… as every true principle, it is true everywhere.

Timid souls, careful souls, cautious souls’ good ideas die on the vine.

What really puzzles me, though, why is it that people who are on the side of genocide, racism, suppression, violence, world dominance…

Why aren’t those people who are on the wrong side of the law, why aren’t they timid?

Because they aren’t.

People who hate me have the guts to write to me and tell me. Tell me what a piece of excrement I am… egotist, judgmental, whatever they call me. They yell. Not timid at all.

On the other hand, my students whose life is slowly brightening, who finally find their path, who have reason to celebrate… they are quiet, with finger on their lips… modest, and silent.

I find the same thing in politics too.

What is politics? Unfortunately it is politics where most things about your life are decided… Decided by thieves, loudmouths, robbers, killers, cheaters, perverts… people you’ve elected. Both sides. Even if your current president is timid…

So life is getting worse. The dance floor is getting smaller. And the noise is getting louder from the wrong side of the divide… They yell AND ACT, so most of the rights people have fought for, are taken back. 

I find that only humorists have the guts today to say what there is to say. My favorite is Andy Borowitz… his Borowitz Report. Hilarious and outspoken.

About everything.

I want to be like Andy Borowitz when I grow up.

But honestly, personal responsibility, personal power is on the decline, and…

…those who have a crowd to scream with scream. Those who have no crowd… whimper.

Back some 20 years ago I was writing a magazine review on topless dancing. It was early afternoon and I was the only customer in the joint. The dancer was a blonde buxom woman. She was dancing for me. She spit on her breast and the saliva was sliding down on her skin… and I got turned on. Yeah… I still get a stomach ache when I think back.

So then I spent a few hours contemplating if I was suddenly gay.

I considered that I had to choose. And I looked what life would be like if I started to be attracted to women… and it looked like a disaster. Being different was already unpleasant. Even having friends was already a non-issue: I had none. But being THAT different: no, thank you, no. I didn’t want that.

Later I found out I could be turned on by anything sexual… for example two men kissing… huh… interesting.

So I am heterosexual…

I have counseled many (tens) of people who struggled with and against their attraction to the same sex and had to deal with their parents, their community rejecting them.

I hear that belonging is the strongest desire unfulfilled when it’s missing. I am lucky I don’t have that. Really, I don’t desire to belong. But most people do.

Anyway, what does this have to do with the principle: no guts, no glory?

A humanity that divides itself, as it is doing it now, to wussies and thugs is not doing well.

People whose voice I’d like to hear, have no opinion. Cowardice infects the brain and makes you dull. Incurious.

So does resistance… When you resist you cannot also have guts at the same time. Why? Because if we turned those energies to vectors, resistance and going for it are two vectors that extinguish each other.

If you are more afraid of death than of a meaningless, empty, dishonorable life then I am happy for you. You’ll have the meaningless and empty. Guaranteed.

If you don’t know that unless you at least attempt to fly the spirit you will live a life of quiet desperation, and you’ll deserve it.

In our Saturday Moneyroots session we looked that unless you encourage the Ego, the Ego that you think you shouldn’t have!, unless you allow and encourage the Ego, unless you feed it, you can’t have the guts, and you can’t have the glory.

Maybe all those timid souls think that if they hide they can get happy…

You can’t avoid, you can outrun, you can’t outsmart being unhappy.

Life is not designed that way, no matter what the ‘law’ of attraction people say. Life belongs to those who face the tiger. To those who grab life by the horns and risk for it. Not to the timid souls.

The more you practice distraction, the easier you are distracted.

By the same token…

…the more you practice cowardice, timidity, hiding, running from, trying to outsmart the tiger, the more you do it…

….and the less of you is available to have guts and glory.

Theodore ‘Teddy’ Roosevelt Quotes: ‘Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.’ ‘Believe you can and you’re halfway there.’ ‘It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed.’

Or this most famous one on the timid souls:

‘It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better.

The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause;

who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.’

So what can you do if this article touched on a nerve. If you realized that you have been timid and that is why life isn’t giving you what you hoped it would?

Instead of practicing distraction, cowardice, timidity, etc. you may want to start practicing courage, bravery, daring.

Slowly. I don’t recommend that you start big.

The art is to see choice, like I saw choice in that dunk booby bar 30 years ago. Choice. And then, when you see you can, choose courage.

Choose courage.

The more often you do that, the faster you can turn your habitual attitude around.

Don’t think cowardice is native to you. It is a habit, and like any habit, it takes work to change it.

In my Friday podcast I work with a person whose habitual way of being isn’t giving her the life, the business, the confidence, the self-esteem she would prefer.

We’ve been working for about a year and a half, once a week, publicly.

Slowly and almost imperceptibly she is learning to choose new habits.

  • Instead of thinking she is the only person she can trust, she has occasionally accepted guidance from me.
  • Instead of thinking that she needs to protect herself, everywhere, she is starting to open up everywhere.
  • Now, instead of looking only at herself, inside, she occasionally has the bandwidth to look at patients, colleagues, and even her husband and see them.

This is how it works.

Courage hasn’t even come up as a choice… yet.

You have become the way you are through decades of practicing being that way… And it may take years to change you into a person who can, who will, you will live a life worth living.

No guts no glory. Every step of the way.

Doing my classes, doing my workshops needs you to have courage. That is why I only have a handful of students. Because you have no courage.

Because you practice cowardice… And you get better and better at it.

In the Starting Point Measurement it is easy to see where you can start expecting the fastest results… But, alas, it also takes some courage to find out where you are at.

If you are of the persuasion that bad news is better avoided… then this is not for you. You’ll find out that you have a disease only when it is incurable, that you are poor when you have no more energy to turn it around.

It is your life. Really. Death is worst for the people who remain alive after you die.

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What does it take to communicate? Not just talk?

What separates humans from other species, yes even from the dolphins, is language. But dolphins do communicate! WTF?

So we have language. Language that hasn’t evolved, let’s say, for tens of thousands of years.

Language is the visible tool of communication.

We have language. And yet we know nothing about communicating. Yes, we talk. Talk a lot. But we don’t communicate.

What is missing for communication to happen is in the invisible. Continue reading “What does it take to communicate? Not just talk?”

Can you grow? Grow curiosity, intelligence, motivation?

Let me start with a joke:

How to have a million dollars in business? Start with two million

How do you make a million dollars in the restaurant business? Start with two million

This is the joke that is making the circles in my brain when I think about how to have clients who have ambition, motive power, and actually accomplish stuff? Continue reading “Can you grow? Grow curiosity, intelligence, motivation?”

The secret life of the superiors also called the 1000

If you managed to listen to the whole two hours of Alex Hormozi answering questions video, you can tell that there is a common way 1000’s think and behave.

One of these is to avoid doing things in order to… Agenda replaced the joy of doing.

The joy of doing?

Yeah. Continue reading “The secret life of the superiors also called the 1000”

Pretty but useless. Talented but not amounting to much

There is a science to create worthlessness, embedded in your life script

Yesterday during our Context Workshop I shared each participant’s picture with others… if we were on zoom everyone would have known how everybody else looks, but I do my workshops on gotowebinar… because it works for me. Continue reading “Pretty but useless. Talented but not amounting to much”

If your life is manageable, you can’t and won’t grow

The first step in AA, Alcoholics Anonymous says: We admitted that we were powerless over alcohol––that our lives had become unmanageable.

Whether you know it or not, that is the most important of all the steps. And of life… Continue reading “If your life is manageable, you can’t and won’t grow”

Frazzled-unfrazzled…When your connection to Source fails

When your connection to Source failsMy health has turned to the worse in the past week or so.

I am experiencing almost unceasing pain, occasionally unbearable.

I don’t know what is hurting. And surprisingly Source isn’t helping. Why?

Give me a chance to explain how I got to the answer, instead of just giving it to you straight.

I have been promoting the Full Bach Profile and the 48 matching Bach Energies. I’ll talk about those later… but for now just know that is what I am doing.

The Bach energies are tools for the Inner Authority course.

Inner Authority is a course where we clear all our preconceptions, and the past from our space so we can feel the body’s guidance as it was meant to be… Continue reading “Frazzled-unfrazzled…When your connection to Source fails”

The bridge building process nobody teaches

Introducing The bridge building process to get from where you are to where you want to be

One of the hardest thing for people, as I see, is to come up with the bridge between a dream and actions.

You can have the most amazing plan for the future, for a business, if you don’t know what actions to take to get there the dream will remain a dream… unfulfilled.

In my participation in Landmark Education courses and programs I always volunteered to be group leader or coach…

The biggest issue people faced, even if they didn’t talk about it, is the unbridgeable gap between where they were and where they wanted to be.

It is painful for everyone, but if you are in a program that ‘forces you’ to create a vision, then it is even more painful. It is discouraging, damaging to your self-image: you feel like the odd man out, the only loser.

But please know: this is totally normal. What is missing is not your fault: what is missing is a process. A process to get to the core of things… so you can build some legs… Continue reading “The bridge building process nobody teaches”

What human habit makes others richer than Croesus?

croesusTalk about Croesus: Human Design, a company, a system, entirely based on date and time of birth, has started, about ten years ago a thing, called eating style.

I get thousands of visitors a month looking for their eating style.

I did, myself, sent money to get my eating style, and what I got back was something… close to what it should be, but not quite.

The system diagnosed me as a ‘separator’. That I should not put even two different foods in my mouth at the time.

Nearly impossible to follow instructions… no salads, no bread, no soups, no stews, no bread and butter, no tea with milk, no coffee… not worth living. Continue reading “What human habit makes others richer than Croesus?”

Anxious? Fearful? There must be a belief underneath…

Everyone has an Achilles Heel. Mine is deceit…

On the surface it looks like I make that behavior wrong… but what is underneath it is a concern.

A concern is what keeps your foot nailed to the floor so you cannot do much more than dance around that nail.

The concern is feelings stupid when I fall for the deceit… when I can be duped, when I am too stupid to be able to tell.

Of course I could say: I love people, I see the best in them, blah blah blah, but that is not the point.

I have an impossible standard for myself to never miss the sign of deceit, to never be found out that I am too stupid to see it a mile away. Continue reading “Anxious? Fearful? There must be a belief underneath…”