There is a hidden monkey wrench in the title. Emotions are neither negative nor positive, but let's just forget that for a moment.
Depending on the answer to that question, you are either a happy, well-adjusted person, or a wretch.
Wow, Sophie, isn't that an exaggeration? The answer to just one question?
I understand your outrage, but yes. The answer to just one question will tell me what kind of person you are. As far as everything... by the way.
I used to be a person you didn't want around. I came from an abusive background, and spread it to others in spades. Misery loves company... lol not funny. 1
When suppressed, when denied, emotions go underground. What is unexpressed yearns to be expressed. It builds pressure and one way or another it will express itself. In self-abuse, in the abuse of others, or maybe even more violent ways. Continue reading "What about your negative emotions?"
As you may have noticed, it is harder and harder for me to write an article a day. There are 4000 articles on this site, and they all came easily... if I remember correctly. But suddenly I have nothing to say. Or better said: I have only to say something when someone asks me, like in coaching or on a webinar... otherwise I feel there is no listening for me to say something, therefore I have no desire, no urgency to say anything.
Why? Because I feel that I am far too removed from the mainstream, and other than my students, no one can hear me, and even my students can hear a small percentage of what I say.
The mini-series I watched is called River... we could have called it Riveting... because it is. For me...
River is a police detective. His long time partner, Frankie gets murdered: shot from a moving car River didn't see, doesn't know who shot her.
River sees and talks to, converses with dead people, especially Frankie. The love is tangible between them, between River and Frankie. The story isn't about being a psychic, afterlife... not any of that... please continue reading, without preconceived notions, or you'll miss what's important to you.
In this article I'll teach you something that has the potential to turn you into a happy, joyful person. No kidding.
Also, it can serve as the bridge between human and human being...
From that you can guess: the distinctions in this article are advanced.
At present, if you are a "normal" human, you are judging yourself and others. You are miserable, wretched, prone to get happy, get sad, get depressed at the drop of a hat.
I assert that you are judgmental, because distinctions are missing, and there is nothing wrong with you. Or them...
You are judgmental. You can't help it. You may try to control yourself, suppress it, but it isn't going anywhere. It is there. It's vicious. You judge yourself as much as you judge others. This is how you learned to be by modeling your parents, your teachers, your bosses, your church, your politicians.
My students, like popcorn, are starting to pop at the same time. It is hard to say what made each pop... especially if your vocabulary (distinction) is not keeping up with the richness of the invisible reality.
What do I mean?
I have been intrigued with the idea of helping people to be intrinsically motivated, ever since I read and re-read Deci's book: Why we do what we do.