If you want to become more, grow, evolve, self awareness is important but it is not enough. Meditation is not enough. Having a person to model yourself after is not enough. Reading is not enough. Understanding is not enough either.
Something is missing, the presence of which would make the most difference, and could take you through the barrier to full knowledge of your machine.
What machine, you ask?
This is the same as when you mention to someone that their little voice is always talking... What little voice they ask?
As I am continuing giving long and substantial "strategy sessions" to people, I am learning a lot.
I am seeing stuff that cannot be see through feeling. I am seeing stuff that won't come through in the Starting Point Measurements, no matter how good a tool muscle testing is. Some things won't even become clear in a short call...
I love the expression: "in the limited perspective of the human mind" and now I am inclined to add that even inside the human mind, you can look at things through different perception organs... and you'll see more if you use more than just your favorite.
Most people's "perception organ" is to turn to, habitually, to what they have already decided. The mind.
This gives you the least true-to-reality perception, obviously.
The walls of the groove cover up what the groove is really about.
I have two students with the same soul correction, both want attention. What they don’t see, what they will have a difficulty seeing is that attention is the wall of the trench… not the cause: an effect. The effect that prevents them from seeing the cause, and prevents them from living a full life.
Let's look what could be missing?
All humans have needs that when they are not fulfilled, their chances to remain alive are lessened.
We have read that if an infant is not held, is not groomed, the lack of that touch makes them less resistant to illnesses, and less able to stay alive.
"For babies to truly thrive, they need to be held and touched soothingly. Research has shown intentional touch can deliver neurologic, behavioral and cognitive benefits to a developing infant. ... Skin-to-skin or “kangaroo” care: The mother holds the diaper-clad infant against her skin beneath her clothing."
"Why is touch so important to an infant? This sense is essential to children's growth of physical abilities, language and cognitive skills, and social-emotional competency. Touch not only impacts short-term development during infancy and early childhood, but also has long-term effects, suggesting the power of positive, gentle touch from birth"
I feel that touch is an indicator that the child is wanted. A promise.
Sometimes people get an idea of activating a capacity that is so alien to their culture, it takes a good 5-10 minutes for the history channel, the ancestors backwards, to build.
No one in your ancestry possessed that capacity... so it has been non-existent for you even culturally.
It is so unfamiliar that ego doesn't even know to protest. It is like a way of being that is totally unfamiliar... you can't see other than special people, like kung fu fighters, or shaolin monks to demonstrate it. And, of course, Aikido. I have a book, Aikido in everyday life... illustrates how this principle looks in real life... brilliant.
Your world view is hidden from your view, hidden from your awareness.
And it is, of course. World view is how the world IS for you, not how it seems.
If you have a fixed world view, than all the King's Horses and All the King's Men Could Not Put a new world view for you... unless you are willing to become flexible.
Cognitive flexibility has been more broadly described as the ability to adjust one's thinking from old situations to new situations as well as the ability to overcome responses or thinking that have become habitual and adapt to new situations.Continue reading "Are you flexible?"
As a "writer" I struggle with one thing: It is hard to be funny in writing. For me.
I can be funny in conversation, but writing is different: I imagine the echo. And imaginary echo doesn't echo, does it? While when I talk to a living breathing human, it is in a particular state of emotions, so I know where I throw my volley... and I know what havoc it wreaks... so it is easy for me. I can shock, I can mortify, I can wake up, I can do a lot of things that make what funny does... make you pay attention by jolting you.
I am in the process of downloading nine seasons of Seinfeld. My teacher says that a lot of his funniness in writing comes from Seinfeld. We shall see. One thing is for sure: Seinfeld, the person, can be funny. Exactly that "jolting you" kind of way.