What about your negative emotions?

There is a hidden monkey wrench in the title. Emotions are neither negative nor positive, but let's just forget that for a moment.

Depending on the answer to that question, you are either a happy, well-adjusted person, or a wretch.

Wow, Sophie, isn't that an exaggeration? The answer to just one question?

I understand your outrage, but yes. The answer to just one question will tell me what kind of person you are. As far as everything... by the way.

I used to be a person you didn't want around. I came from an abusive background, and spread it to others in spades. Misery loves company... lol not funny. 1

When suppressed, when denied, emotions go underground. What is unexpressed yearns to be expressed. It builds pressure and one way or another it will express itself. In self-abuse, in the abuse of others, or maybe even more violent ways.
Continue reading "What about your negative emotions?"

When life looks hopeless, too hard, unmanageable…

What do you do, where do you go, when life seems to tell you that you are not enough? When you feel you are pushed into overwhelm 1

When your precious "I" gets threatened?

When you get a glimpse that you are, in fact, not the knight in shining armor...

I think I am becoming more empathic. I think I am becoming more sensitive to your unhappiness. Maybe even more compassionate?

Compassion is seeing where you are at, seeing that I've been there before, and offering a helping hand to help you get through it. 2

This is not how you had it, am I right?

Anyway, back to topic... what do you do when you find that you are not enough, you are not a match to life? Continue reading "When life looks hopeless, too hard, unmanageable…"

Why is the average truth value of a good article only around 7%? That is a very low number! Please explain…

As you may have noticed, it is harder and harder for me to write an article a day. There are 4000 articles on this site, and they all came easily... if I remember correctly. But suddenly I have nothing to say. Or better said: I have only to say something when someone asks me, like in coaching or on a webinar... otherwise I feel there is no listening for me to say something, therefore I have no desire, no urgency to say anything.

Why? Because I feel that I am far too removed from the mainstream, and other than my students, no one can hear me, and even my students can hear a small percentage of what I say.

So last night I pondered, instead of sleeping, whether I was done. Finished, emptied, used up, dried out. I am not depressed, by the way. Continue reading "Why is the average truth value of a good article only around 7%? That is a very low number! Please explain…"

That sadness, that grief… what is that about?

I don't know... I am still crying. 1

The mini-series I watched is called River... we could have called it Riveting... because it is. For me...

River is a police detective. His long time partner, Frankie gets murdered: shot from a moving car River didn't see, doesn't know who shot her.

River sees and talks to, converses with dead people, especially Frankie. The love is tangible between them, between River and Frankie. The story isn't about being a psychic, afterlife... not any of that... please continue reading, without preconceived notions, or you'll miss what's important to you.

The story is about River's investigation into her death, and into her life.
Continue reading "That sadness, that grief… what is that about?"

How to have all the skeletons in your closet come alive and conspire against the future you invented, the future you desire?

skeletons-in-the-closetThere is a myth humans hold onto, that if they stay angry and something or someone, then they are better people than who they are angry at.

All pretense... which is bad in and of itself, but there is more...

When you are mad at something you did, or mad at someone who did something you recognize... then you are hooked.

Hooked on that angry mode of existence.

Locked in the anger, locked out of freedom, future, happiness.

As long as you hold onto that anger.

I think it may be useful to dig deeper at the invisible dynamic...

Your anger, your hate seems to be against someone. They did something...

But underneath, under the surface, not even deep, is the real cause:
Continue reading "How to have all the skeletons in your closet come alive and conspire against the future you invented, the future you desire?"

The speed of life… Are you authoring your life, or is life happening to you?

Even though I have completed my 20-day learning challenge, I am still listening to Dr Popper's videos. 1

In one of these videos he says something very important, that i really managed to connect to some of my own experiences only on the third hearing.

Here is what he says:

The speed of life robs us of our ability to fully experience, fully feel. Continue reading "The speed of life… Are you authoring your life, or is life happening to you?"

When Life seems to work against you… or does opposite of what you expected

One of my teachers, via Ayn Rand, has been Aristotle.

He taught me one thing. Most people will not teach you much... they will do one thing and one thing only: alter your foundation.

And with regards to foundation altering: Aristotle's teaching is the most jarring, and the most transformative.

Here is the teaching:

Contradictions do not exist. Whenever you think that you are facing a contradiction, check your premises.

If you are doing all the right things and still don't have your results... that is a contradiction. Check your premises.

Continue reading "When Life seems to work against you… or does opposite of what you expected"

The three levels of value: an amazing process to fall in love with yourself

In this article I'll teach you something that has the potential to turn you into a happy, joyful person. No kidding.

Also, it can serve as the bridge between human and human being...

From that you can guess: the distinctions in this article are advanced.

At present, if you are a "normal" human, you are judging yourself and others. You are miserable, wretched, prone to get happy, get sad, get depressed at the drop of a hat.

I assert that you are judgmental, because distinctions are missing, and there is nothing wrong with you. Or them...

You are judgmental. You can't help it. You may try to control yourself, suppress it, but it isn't going anywhere. It is there. It's vicious. You judge yourself as much as you judge others. This is how you learned to be by modeling your parents, your teachers, your bosses, your church, your politicians.

Download the pdf version of this article at the end of the article
Continue reading "The three levels of value: an amazing process to fall in love with yourself"

The secret of happy producers… NOT what time they get up in the morning, or how many books they read…

My students, like popcorn, are starting to pop at the same time. It is hard to say what made each pop... especially if your vocabulary (distinction) is not keeping up with the richness of the invisible reality.

What do I mean?

I have been intrigued with the idea of helping people to be intrinsically motivated, ever since I read and re-read Deci's book: Why we do what we do.

Without words one can be the best at something, but will never be able to teach it... Continue reading "The secret of happy producers… NOT what time they get up in the morning, or how many books they read…"

The 39th Bach Flower Remedy: the Yew: Desire to receive for the self alone

 Original publication date: March 11, 2012. Today all day I am reminded of this time...

The 39th Bach Flower Remedy: the Yew: Desire to receive for the self alone

One of the benefits, for me, to do the Connection Calls is being with all of you, and feeling how wretched, how miserable you feel. Not pleasant for me, but very useful.

I have been feeling some energies, some feelings that are not covered by the 38 original Bach Flower Remedies.

At the same time, while writing the Soul Correction articles, or teaching the core group classes, I can see that there is resistance there that doesn't respond to the Heaven on Earth energy bundle.
Continue reading "The 39th Bach Flower Remedy: the Yew: Desire to receive for the self alone"