Become all you can become with Sophie
He that won't be counselled, can't be helped
One of the most important principles in the 67 steps program is to get rid of a ‘truth’ as often as you can.
No one hears that they should do that. No one does it. Why?
The mind says: ‘why should I get rid of a piece of useful knowledge.‘ Continue reading “Get rid of the memes… all of them are lies…”
“If you want to emasculate a guy friend, when you’re at a restaurant, ask him everything that he’s going to order, and then when the waitress comes … order for him.” It’s funny because it shouldn’t be that easy to rob a man of his masculinity — but it is.
I am doing good work with the participants of my accountability program. 1
One of the things that have been coming up is this: what did it do to you to be influenced more by your mother than your father?
Don’t be mistaken: man and woman, boy and girl, father and mother are different beings… almost as different as if they were two different species. And it should be.
Now, I admit that our “civilized” world makes the two roles more similar looking, but just like in eating, what works best for you is eating according to your DNA, the same is true about gender behavior. Continue reading “Boys don’t know how to be boys. They won’t be men”
If you are awake at all, you have noticed that people, both in writing and in actual speak, avoid the word lie.
Even when the word they replace it with means something totally different. They say: I lay down… instead of I lie down.
Why is that?
Because the word lie also means: say untrue things. Continue reading “What happens if you are a habitual liar, a con artist?”
If this goes way over you head… don’t worry. You can’t see what you can’t see. Your vibration is probably lower than the threshold of seeing this phenomenon.
I had a call with a client today. He shared that our conversations stay in his head a lot. Continue reading “What would Sophie say? What would Sophie Do?”
In the beginning our eyes sent wordless signals to our brain. And the brain figured it out what that signal meant for you, in that moment. It kept you safe, it kept you in food, it kept you in the good graces of your tribe.
But at some point words, like a narrative, accompanied the visual signals, and after another while we stopped looking and we started to be satisfied with the verbal commentary. Continue reading “When, how did you stop looking, stop seeing reality?”
I have been very sick, but I am feeling a little better. I can stay with a thing now a little longer, I can take an idea a little further.
I have been working out the toxins from my poor battered body, slowly, and somewhat effectively. Three weeks it has been since I gotten myself poisoned.
And one of the signs that I am coming back to myself is that I am noticing more.
The role of liking in following guidance, following coaching.
I have a few “clients” that keep on coming back, show up on my webinars, want stuff from me, but when I look: they follow maybe 1% of what they got from me, and the rest: they go to someone else to get guidance from. Continue reading “Liking, a strong cognitive bias… is lying to you…”
What capacity is missing so that you cannot tell, you cannot recognize the same thing in a different environment?
I think this is the main issue for people who cannot grow… even if they keep on having private sessions, do all my courses, or all Landmark Education courses, or all Mindvalley courses, or use energy stuff… mine or others’.
When you put something they know some other environment, they don’t recognize it in a different environment, a different context.
So what is the missing capacity, you wonder… And how can anyone dream up a method to teach it?
A little historical view of how humans evolved (or not) during their lifetimes in previous times… Continue reading “You cannot recognize the same thing in a different environment?”
“It’s easier to evaluate your results through drunken delusion than to gaze soberly in the mirror and face the truth.”
I had a conversation yesterday with one of my clients, and as it is predictable in many conversations, weight came up.
Weight is a universal source of grief, effort, disappointment, and self-hate.
But why would that be so?
I can recall, in my life, four “campaigns” to regain control over my body.
The most recent one is successful and is going to last. The previous ones included one or two elements that were not sustainable. for example the first time I was on a starvation diet, and I maintained it for 10 years, until I came to the United States, where the plenty beat me on my a**. Continue reading “When all your efforts result in no learning”
Most winners in life master one thing in particular: they are astute. Astute: having or showing an ability to accurately assess situations or people.
Accurately assess… as opposed to have an opinion, have a good feel, or guess…
Is that a skill, a capacity, a virtue? What is it and how do you get it?
A have a new “most visited” post, the 31 quotes that give you chills… Why? Because it promises an experience… an experience you crave in the consistently dull and painful life you have.
Wanting to get chills without any other benefits says a lot about you and your life. What does it say? For one: you are a mystery to yourself…
I have said it before… humanity bars its way to evolution by throwing big words around. Continue reading “More on the 10 dark years theory, or why it takes so long”
We are judged all the time. Justly, unjustly, the feeling of being judged is familiar to all of us… and some of us is bothered and paralyzed by it more than others.
What’s painful in being judged is that the judgment contains a kernel of truth (or more) and the other part is the judging themselves: in judging they place themselves above us… simply unbearable to the sensitive Precious I.
This story is about my very recent “bout” with being judged… and shows what is on the other side of judgment… how to free yourself from it so it doesn’t sting quite that much… maybe not even at all.
OK, here we go:
If you’ve known me for a while, you know that I don’t do housework, or really shamefully little. Continue reading “Being judged”
