Witnessing is noticing. Noticing is giving value. Giving value is appreciation…

Without witnessing nothing happens.

Witnessing is noticing. Noticing is giving value. Giving value is appreciation… The word comes from precious: valuable.

So witnessing is giving value.

Why does something needs to be given value?

Because just like nothing is wrong in reality, nothing has value either. Value is always in the eyes of the beholder, value is given. Individually. You give value to something you got: you got something valuable.

Most people don’t know this, and therefore never acknowledge the value they got… if they got any value.

Now what happens when you do that? When you don’t acknowledge the value you get? Continue reading “Witnessing is noticing. Noticing is giving value. Giving value is appreciation…”

Pattern recognition… or how widely and how deeply do you see?

From time to time I watch an animated feature movie on Netflix.

Those movies have the most clues for inner world patterns of all the movies… even though they are clearly designed to distribute memes… to train the next generation to become sheep.

But the artists that make the movies unwittingly, or defiantly, place some fundamental guidance and truth in those movies.

So it is with this little movie: Leap. (In other languages it is called the Ballerina)

It’s about a little orphan girl who lives in an orphanage, but dreams about becoming a dancer… a ballet dancer. She escapes the orphanage and goes to Paris to enroll in the famed ballet institute… to fulfill on her dream.

Through unpredictable events, she does… and though she can’t dance… a cleaning lady she finds turns out to be an ex famous dancer, until an accident made her an cripple. And she will become her mentor.

OK, here are the principles in the movie that stirred my inside up and explained a lot of things to me about me: Continue reading “Pattern recognition… or how widely and how deeply do you see?”

Did you feel what you felt?

before you can discern...When you think you are an insomniac… or when you are always tired and you suspect your sleep has issues, what “scientists” do is hook you up to “feelers” to see to what degree reality matches your experience.

I have heard of people who have sleep apnea and wake up hundreds of times a night, just enough to start breathing again. Their consciousness records it… but their conscious awareness doesn’t

Consciousness and conscious awareness are not the same. Not even close.

In fact consciousness is not related to conscious awareness… it would be more appropriate to call it The observer, or The Witness.

How would you know?

Now that enough of you are using the consciousness wakeup audio, the Big Bundle (stupid name, isn’t it?) and consciousness instruct your unconscious awareness, whatever that is, to do repairs… do you actually know about any of it?

If you do, then you are different from me. I don’t. Continue reading “Did you feel what you felt?”

Your fixed emotional response to anything and everything is the source of all your suffering

You probably haven’t realized that you have a fixed emotional response/reaction to everything.

I identified it a few years ago. I only realized that it is everywhere just this morning… Why not before? Because to identify it, one needs a self-awareness number higher than 30%.

Is that possible for a homo sapiens? I doubt it.

OK, what is mine? It is what I call “personally offended”. The lips slightly protruding an a pout, and the corner of the mouth turned down.

What is the age of this “mood”, or this emotion? I’d say 3 years old. Continue reading “Your fixed emotional response to anything and everything is the source of all your suffering”

You expect to f… it up… You expect to succeed…

f__d it up again… or not f… it up… Same thing. both result in no peace, no joy, no good results.

Why would you have that expectation?

Given the reaction you have to that expectation, given the reaction you have to that sentence, devastation when you actually do f… something up, suggests, that you expect yourself to go through life never making a mistake… i.e. Perfection.

You are not alone. Some people give their whole life to that “not”… to that unreality… and suffer, become total underachievers, and altogether unpleasant people no one really wants around. Continue reading “You expect to f… it up… You expect to succeed…”

Emotional Intelligence and your experience of life

Emotional Intelligence is a buzz word, an expression, that no one explains, and yet, everyone pretends that they know what they are talking about.

No such THING as emotional intelligence… it is made up.

And yet: some people maneuver life better than others, have less upsets, upheavals, self-hate, than others.

They take obstacles differently than others. They are OK with themselves, and they don’t worry about what other people think about them. They are not attention, approval, drama seekers. They just do what they do… and let others do what others do.

We call those people emotionally intelligent.

I guess you are reading this article because you are not like that. Continue reading “Emotional Intelligence and your experience of life”

Are you stingy or you are in survival with barely enough energy to DO your life?

You are stingy with others… You don’t have energy to be kind, caring, supportive… Or if you do, maybe your family and friends are not kind or supportive to you… Here is the why…

To be kind, etc… you need an abundance of surplus energy. If your body is in survival mode, the first things that NEED to go are the nice things for others… then for yourself. Some dogooders reverse the order…

People are just as wonderful as sunsets if you let them be. When I look at a sunset, I don’t find myself saying, “Soften the orange a bit on the right hand corner.” I don’t try to control a sunset. I watch with awe as it unfolds. ~ Carl R. Rogers

That, being wonderful as a sunset, includes yourself, but…

You may be able to imagine yourself looking at others this way… but looking at yourself as perfect, wonderful, and no need to change?

Rarely if ever…

Occasionally I stand in front of my bathroom mirror and I like what I see. Occasionally. One minute out of thousands a week.

So why are we unable to even imagine that we are like the sunset… or the sunrise: my favorite. Continue reading “Are you stingy or you are in survival with barely enough energy to DO your life?”

Do you talk too much? talk about what is important to you? and no one wants to hear it?

talking too much, talking AT the otherWhat’s going on?

Quite a few of my students and clients are in this predicament, I even found myself feeling starved for “companionship”… for someone to hear what I have to say.

What is this about?

The answer, the elegant answer comes from a movie, Shall We Dance? where Susan Sarandon hires a private detective to find out what her husband does every Thursday night, and why he is acting so different.

The private detective asks why Susan Sarandon’s character married this guy.

The answer is the answer to your question: “I wanted my life to be witnessed.” Continue reading “Do you talk too much? talk about what is important to you? and no one wants to hear it?”

Why can’t you learn, and how could you? The single most important factor…

Going from smart to intelligent…

In this article I am biting off more than I can chew… So it will probably make more sense to people who are in my programs, and will make sense once I learn how to speak/write it coherently. 1I was just checking what the dictionary (Tree of Knowledge says about intelligent vs. smart. Turns out that probably intentionally, just to make you less intelligent, lol, not funny, they use the two terms opposite of what they actually measure.

here is just one of the definitions on the internet:

  • The difference between smartness and intelligence is mainly behavioral. (truth value of this statement: 20%.)
  • While an intelligent person can be smart, a smart person may not be intelligent. (truth value of this statement: 80%.)
  • Intelligence means the ability to acquire information rather rapidly. (truth value of this statement: 30%.)
  • Intelligence is a trait a person has since birth. (truth value of this statement: 10%.)

Continue reading “Why can’t you learn, and how could you? The single most important factor…”

Overwhelm, survival mode, resignation, what is the connection? And un-managed, how they lead to becoming dead man walking?

dead man walkingI had an important and eye-opening insight today. A looking back…

Let me tell you the story so you get the fact that the likelihood of me ever discovering this was between none and zero.

It began some 30 years ago when I was a magazine publisher. Every time a magazine was already in the street, I went to my computer and cleaned up the space, I archived everything that was said and done, made room for the new issue. I did the same thing in the office.

I called this time and energy consuming step “cleaning from the root”, or alternatively “preparing for a new harvest”…

My life was organized, orderly, I was thin, vibrant, beautiful, and OK.

Then something happened. There is always something that happens before this process begins to really ramp up… but truth be told, it really begins around age 3… hidden for quite a while. Continue reading “Overwhelm, survival mode, resignation, what is the connection? And un-managed, how they lead to becoming dead man walking?”