This question comes up in people’s minds, and if it doesn’t, then it should. After all I could be a “false prophet”, a fake Messiah, or just a garden variety “guru”, a dime a dozen, been there, done that.
Whatever you would like to attain in life, happiness, satisfaction, contentment, connection, riches, good health, great relationship: they all depend on “enough.”
The whole idea of doing enough is something that is so unfamiliar to people, that it seems that I will need to teach it and teach it and teach it, until you get it.
Even if I frame it the way I use it in my day to day life: whatever it takes, people either misunderstand, or look at me with blank eyes.
I have an educational story to illustrate “enough” on someone I have been working with for 17 years.
This is an old article. On compassion.
I dare to disagree: compassion is not a feeling, compassion is not an emotion. It is a capacity.
It is a human capacity to recognize the other person as a person like you, recognize their state as a state you have seen or experienced, and, surprise, compassion is a willingness to help the person through the situation, inner or outer, to the other side, where they can be well.
The way most people relate to compassion, is more like pity. A superiority. A leaning down to another.
No recognition of the sameness, only the difference: I am better off, I am better, I am lucky.
Compassion is rather a partnership, albeit temporary. But that is, probably, too much to ask of today’s humans… you?
When you feel compassion for someone, how does it feel to you? Does it feel sad, scary, loving, or a mixture? Think about it before you read on. When was the last time you felt compassion? Who were you with? Who was it for? What was happening to them? What did you feel toward them?
Compassion has a different definition in Asia than it does in the U.S., and frankly, I like Asia’s take on it much better. The primary difference is that in the U.S., we can have compassion for others, but not normally toward ourselves. In Asia, the term compassion includes self-love and love for others. I think this is a critical distinction.
I like to define compassion differently than everyone else. Compassion is one of the highest emotions we can experience. It is 100% pure unselfish love. In my definition of compassion, there is no fear. There is no pity. There is no sadness. There is only positive love in the highest vibration. It helps others far more to project our highest positive emotion rather than to spread our negative emotions of fear, sadness, and pity.
And this takes practice to perfect.
In the U.S., we’re not even too used to “practicing” our emotions. They kind of just ooze out of us. Once we start practicing compassion, we can get really awesome at it. We might be lifting the 20 pounder at the beginning, but once we start exercising regularly, we can lift more and more. The benefit of practicing is that we feel more and more love each time. The feeling of love gets more intense, and that feels good.
Here are five steps to experience compassion more intensely than you ever have before.
- Focus on yourself. Center and ground yourself. If you feel afraid, deal with that first before projecting your emotions on others. Compassion is not a negative emotion. Sending compassion because you are having a self-pity party about “what if it happened to me” is not a good reason for sending compassion.
- Fill yourself with compassion first. Most of us need to work on this far more than we realize!
If you need help being more intentional about your emotions, draw from the past: bring to mind a time when you felt tremendous strength, and re-live that emotion through savoring.
- Focus on the person you are sending compassion to. Make sure that in your mind, they are equal human beings to you in every way. This avoids bringing negativity into your compassion through pity or feeling sorry for the subject of your compassion.
- Send compassion to your recipient from a place of pure strength and love.
- Check to make sure your experience of compassion is purely positive, with no fear, no anger, no comparing, and no sadness.
Revel in the fullness and strength of your compassion now compared to how you have sent it before.
Because emotions are contagious, practicing compassion grounded in pure positive emotional vibration will help your recipient far more than compassion generated out of fear. You will feel less drained as well. You may even feel rejuvenated.
Go through these steps a few times until you become used to this new way of practicing compassion. Not only will you feel amazing each time you practice, the world will benefit from your high vibration and positive energy.
When more of us come from a place of high positive emotions more often, the world will move from chaos to calm and from fear to love, one person at a time.
If you have been involved in either therapy or counselling, or spirituality and meditation, in recent years you have probably encountered two basic, polarized viewpoints concerning personality. Essentially it amounts to this: therapists are pro-personality (and its improvement through healing neurosis etc.) while spiritual teachers proclaim personality a big waste of time, since neurotic or not, you are more than your personality.
This is not particularly surprising, since therapy and counseling tend to be concerned with the individual, while spiritual practices are concerned with higher matters. But it does lead the novices and beginners into a quandary where they are faced with the decision of what to do about personality. On the one hand, therapy could be an expensive, futile effort to better the personality, whereas, on the other hand, spiritual practice may offer an excuse to leave personal problems behind, with the justification that you are moving on to more lofty concerns.
In the extensive time I have been engaged in therapy and spirituality I can say that I have discovered the answer to this controversy! And I don’t say it without reluctance and a certain caution, since my answer is liable to offend both camps — therapists and spiritual teachers. Perhaps my answer is less a rejection or abandonment of one viewpoint for another and more of a synthesis. This may be an answer of the best kind – the kind that doesn’t marginalize or dismiss anyone’s experience or viewpoint. For my answer, while radically new and innovative, does not fundamentally disagree with either point of view, but considers each appropriate to the complex, total unfolding process of our human nature and potential.
My answer to the dilemma is to propose a third band of human experience. I call this “the authentic self” and since I am not using any unusual words I need to define this term, because I do mean something specific. The authentic self, in the way I use the term, is the bridge between the personality and the spiritual self. It is arrived at usually, but not always, after a lengthy period of intensive, deep, applied and consistent inner work. This inner work consists of a journey of self-discovery in which one circumvents the self, becoming increasingly aware of the conscious and unconscious material that comprises one’s sense of self, or ego. This involves character, which is essentially defensive strategy or an intelligent, protective reaction to early conditioning, which becomes increasingly calcified and adapted throughout adolescence and adult life. Character is composed of the way in which we survive and protect ourselves from inner and outer stimuli and ultimately avoid really meeting life. It creates a self-imposed prison — limitations in which we feel falsely safe.
Self-discovery also involves cultivating our awareness of personality, or the way in which character (defenses and strategies) is experienced. Both inwardly and outwardly we erect a barrier to experience — life events and other people — which is a mask, façade or persona which eclipses the real person, or our true nature.
We also raise emotional and behavioural patterns out of the murky stratum of the unconscious, out of unawareness, and see just how much our life is lived automatically, as an automaton without real human response, emotional feeling, resonance, empathy or even awareness.
The process of self-discovery involves witnessing, reliving and remembering, practicing awareness and releasing pent-up emotions, returning the bodymind, through self-regulating, self-healing and self-referral, to a natural state of balance, ease and relaxation, and opening to insight and experience. In the short-term the experience is enriching, enlivening and full of dramatic changes. In the long-term through achieving personal wholeness, soul nourishment and insights we reach a threshold, a bridge, a chasm – all variously transitional metaphors that signify a quantum leap, a fourth dimensional change that I have termed “the threshold of transformation”.
The significance of this threshold, and what distinguishes it from all the changes that have gone before, is that is effects are irreversible — it is a step from which there is no going back. Once taken, this step across the threshold will lead you to the condition of authenticity and intimacy with your own true nature.
This insight renders the controversy about personality redundant. But it does depend on our ability to clearly distinguish the psychological from the spiritual.
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We all want to manifest our wants and needs. We all want miracles. We all want some divine assistance to solve our problems. But…
How to Manifest Anything or the Missing Piece of the Law of Attraction Puzzle: Desire or How to Be in Vibrational Harmony With Money, Love, and Success
Some religions preach to you to suppress your desires. They say that it’s the root of all evil. Maybe even a sin. Christianity, Buddhism… to mention the ones I know. Kabbalah teaches you to awaken desire, that is how to manifest anything. Continue reading “How To Manifest Anything or THE Missing Piece Of The Law Of Attraction Puzzle:”
End Of Times, The Earthquake, The Tsunami, The Nuclear Threat, Hydrogen Peroxide, desire to receive for the self alone, A Spiritual Interpretation
Why did the earthquake in Japan happen, what about the tsunami and the threat of radiation from the nuclear plant, desire to receive for the self alone? A spiritual interpretation
There are two major attitudes that “humanity” uses to look at an event. Both are desire to receive for the self alone.
- 1. personal. the question is asked? why me? how did I deserve this? or “father, why did you forsake me?”
- 2. global i.e. not personal. The tone is blame and “there is nothing I can do about it” “I am not at fault” and the like.
Both attitudes are faulty and driven by ego and a profound misunderstanding of how it all works.
- 1. On the personal level, though there is karma, there is cause and effect, the cause is so far removed (decades, often lifetimes) that the connection is hard if not impossible to see. Continue reading “The 9/11 of Japan, desire to receive for the self alone, A Spiritual Interpretation”
Huh? Reprogramming? For what? Why? How?
The biggest issues I encounter in my practice is the monkey mind. The noise. The morass. The voices you heed.
What am I talking about? I am talking about a busy mind, stuck in constant chatter, and unable to concentrate at the task at hand. Even to hear! When you are in this state, if you are like me, you are dreaming of reprogramming your mind.
Unless the task is a repetitive task, requiring no input from you, this may work, but if your input is required, especially if the input needs to be creative and complex, you are screwed! royally. Continue reading “Reprogramming Your Mind For Peace, Happiness, Achievement, and More”