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How psychologists, writers, gurus, get it wrong… and nobody is happy, including them

I looked at pictures of Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi... who wrote the book Flow, and is an expert on talking about happiness. Not being happy, mind you, on researching happiness.

He doesn't look happy, doesn't feel happy (remember, I am an empath).

I even went and found videos where he speaks Hungarian... hoping to find a picture where he is joyful.

Didn't find any. Not even one.

His insightful quote: "People who learn to control inner experience will be able to determine the quality of their lives, which is as close as any of us can come to being happy." is what was missing for him, and what is missing for most people most of the time. Continue reading "How psychologists, writers, gurus, get it wrong… and nobody is happy, including them"

You can have everything, but not at the same time…

Look how hard I try! Look how good I am!

You can have everything, but not at the same time...

In certain areas of life it is obvious... Like eating sugary stuff and weight loss...

But in this work, the work of causing human evolution, from human to human being, I don't address many obvious things, because the secret of evolution is in the invisible domain.

Invisible doesn't mean anything woo woo. It means it is not easy to see it with the naked eye.

Or maybe more importantly, you cannot see it until someone points it out. And then you can see it.

These invisible things we call distinctions: once you see it, you see life differently.

This morning I was going through all the 50 or more tabs that were open in my browser... and found a pdf of an article on rackets in Transactional Analysis.

I have known rackets from Landmark, so I started to read the article.

I was stunned. The distinction "racket" in Transactional Analysis is different and a lot more approachable than in the Landmark version...

I'll do my darned best to start introducing it in this post.

Racket in TA is a feeling, or more precisely said, a feeling you use to extort strokes from others. What you want is strokes, so your spine won't shrivel up... strokes that puts you in balance. Strokes for which you are forcing, cajoling, the unfortunate other... Continue reading "You can have everything, but not at the same time…"

Everyone talks about reprogramming your mind or brain or whatever part they blame for your lack of success and lackluster life.

Everyone talks about reprogramming your mind or brain or whatever part they blame for your lack of success and lackluster life.

When Tiger Wood discovered that his swing that he trained and won with was actually limiting him, he needed to take time out to "reprogram" his body to do the swing differently.

If you try to program the brain while you keep the current programming, you'll be like me... I was in an Israeli supermarket when this French lady came up to me and asked me if I spoke French. Yes, I said. Can you read the English instructions on this box in French for me?

I started to read it in French, I thought, but turned out I read it in Hebrew, or a mix of French and Hebrew: I could not even tell.

The memory of that fiasco stuck in my mind forever: this was 30 plus years ago.

So what do the "reprogram the mind" people do wrong that no one ever gets reprogrammed, and basically we are all screwed if we follow their teachings?

Before you can write something on a blackboard, and make it dominant, you need to erase what is already there. Continue reading "Everyone talks about reprogramming your mind or brain or whatever part they blame for your lack of success and lackluster life."

Desensitizing you to the mind-noise

Desensitizing

the unexamined lifeI watch Netflix series that don't make sense on the surface for me to watch. But when I look, there is no book, no fiction, that would teach me that principle.

I am looking for principles. Principles are a lot like laws. According to the dictionary, a principle is a fundamental truth or proposition that serves as the foundation for a system of belief or behavior or for a chain of reasoning.

When things don't work, there is something you don't see... when things don't work, most of the time what you don't see is that the principle or principles upon which you build the thing that isn't working, are not sound principles.

If your premises are false, wrong, or mistaken, whatever you build on it won't work.

Most of humanity's life is a history of false premises. All the statements of what humans are supposed to do, allowed to do, are false premises, popped out of someone's near-sighted, or skewed brain. Continue reading "Desensitizing you to the mind-noise"

Imagining success, imagining stuff… here is what really happens…

Unless you know what creates your sky high desire number, and your unbridgeable gap between reality and your delusion... you need to learn where it comes from, what feeds it, and what is the feeder's goal.

Your guiding principle should be: If in 30% you don't know who is the sucker in the room, then it's you. You are the sucker.

So how are you made the sucker? And how come you don't know?

The mind, that storage/imaging device that is part of your brain, is really stupid. It really believes everything it hears.

You do "imagine" exercises, and the mind believes that it's there.

Now, what good does that do to you? None, I say... no matter what your "wealth conditioning" expert teaches you.

It gives you delusions, and a delusional person becomes the next sucker... plain and simple. Continue reading "Imagining success, imagining stuff… here is what really happens…"

What is the source of your bad feelings? The bad feelings you try to suppress or fix…

Almost all bad feelings you have come as a result of your delusional self, your precious "I" is scared of being devalued.

It is as if you were a gold plated coin pretending to be solid gold, and life would be continually threatening you to reveal your fakeness.

I used to be like you. I felt that there was a big gap between my accomplishments and my abilities... and maybe there was.

But most importantly, every little error, every little mistake I made or even just faced!!! jerked me down a hellish path... filling me with dread, and fear, and remorse, and regret, and who even knows words for those horrible feelings.

And mistakes? I made plenty.

I misunderstood, I jumped into conclusion, I tried to do something too fast before I even saw what the heck I was supposed to do... Put my foot in the mouth... lol.

40+ times a day. Continue reading "What is the source of your bad feelings? The bad feelings you try to suppress or fix…"

Setting your sights sky high… getting not even dirt in your hands

Are you always going for the home run? The big win?

One of the most useful steps in the 67 steps is the step where Tai compares business/life to baseball.

The most important aspect of business is to not lose money. Money lost is the result of mistakes. Mistakes are the results of hasty actions, or actions that try to go from zero to sky high in one fell swoop.

Like a baseball player who tries to hit the ball so hard every time as to be able to have a home run...

Most people I talk to have no skills, no plans, no idea... but when I ask them what they are up to, they talk about the sky-high.

Most people want to raise their vibration to 500+ right away... Continue reading "Setting your sights sky high… getting not even dirt in your hands"

Why is the future of the planet the way it looks… ugh…?

I am reading an amazing and disturbing book.

Like yourself, I also prefer to look at the pretty, the beautiful, the harmonious, the happy... but if you want to tell the truth, there is not much of that, at least where humans are involved.

Of course I can't avoid it... no matter where I go, no matter where I look, some horrid inner turmoil of some person, wholly unrelated to what I am doing, is taking over my body. Ugh.

And then there are the people to whom I have to connect. You are not pretty inside.

The book, Stanislaw Lem's is the chronicles of a 25th, maybe 27th Century man, I. Tichy... who visits planets, who time travels, and chronicles.

The horrors he relates to with deadpan seriousness 1 is the future of the attitude we have on Earth.

Desire for the Self alone... disregarding the whole... narrow cone of vision.
Continue reading "Why is the future of the planet the way it looks… ugh…?"

How does your Soul Correction prevent you from getting to a life worth living?

When you change the way you see things, the things you see change!

The measure of intelligence is the ability to change.
-Einstein

I have a disproportionately large number of people asking for their numbers, whose soul correction is "Sexual Energy"

I could ponder why the Kabbalist named the soul correction that... but instead of that I'll say: How you do anything is how you do everything... meaning whatever your attitude to one thing in life, will be visible in every area of life, including sex.

The main attitude of this soul correction, "Sexual Energy" is: It is my due. One may say "I deserve it". I heard the expression "Magiya li" in Israel a lot. 1

We all think about certain things, we all view certain privileges as a right, as a due, as an "of course", but the nature of reality dares to differ. Continue reading "How does your Soul Correction prevent you from getting to a life worth living?"

Playground: The One Ring Method

If you love yourself, you love your life.

It sounds so good, but how could you? How could you love yourself, knowing all the horrible things you have done?!

Last night, after the Playground, after I turned the light off... memories of those horrible things started to revisit.

After about 10-15 minutes of that I was feeling really horrible, doubting that I can do any good in the world. And then it hit me: none of the horrible things I said I did ever happened.

What? was I lying to myself? Continue reading "Playground: The One Ring Method"