One of the most important things I know is that you are smart. That you have earned to be here. You have tried a lot of other teachers or gurus or methods or tools to get what you want: more energy, better decisions, more love, more peace, a sense of meaning in your life.
There is no way to throw a dart and get to the right solution, every mistake you make, every wrong turn, wrong decision, believing false promises, falling pray to money-sucking gurus or cults have caused you to get here, zig-zag.
The more often you have been disappointed, the more hopeless it seemed, the more of your funds were eaten up, the smarter you have become, and the more ready you have become to actually see your way, do your work. You haven't given up. Good.
As I have written before, the book I am reading now is the Metaskills.
The author is a designer, and looks at life through a designer's glasses.
The article "You live in a world of your own design" is one of the favorite articles on my site. People want to design their lives.
The popularity of the program, Mind Movies builds on that desire to design... but the requirements for design are not there, not there for 99.99% of humanity... What is there is something else, something that doesn't allow for design.
When you decide on an organizing principle, aka direction for your life, you'll suddenly find yourself with obstacles blocking even your view of the horizon, let alone your path.
This article is about that...
Some ten years ago I learned a valuable way of looking at making life meaningful, or living a meaningful life. The teacher suggested that we pick a horizon, a direction, and then look what's blocking the way of getting there.
Since then I saw that even seeing the horizon is blocked... Blocked by seven boulders, lined up one behind the other, blocking your view, blocking your movement.
So, in my coaching practice, when I ask people to set a direction, and they can't see any, I am inclined to suggest that they choose the direction: living a meaningful live, or a fulfilled life... without specifying what it is.
There is a Science to Life... and if you want more life, you need to follow it, you need to work WITH Life.
But you, and most everyone else, think yourself smarter than everyone else... and your mantra in life is "Don't tell me what to do!" or "I'll do it my way!" and you follow your mantra, not Life.
And your life is a true mirror to that attitude: nothing is done exactly, no rules are followed exactly, and your life is shabby, hodge podge, and you are wretched.
Why is it that not every person get the promised results out of reading the book, The Science of Getting Rich? Or any other course or program? Really, that less than 1% do? Is it always the fault of the teacher?
One of the brilliant ideas from the 67 steps that hardly anyone considers as applying to them is the idea of spending at least one third of their discretionary time in the company of people who are ahead of them. Preferably by 20 years of experience and wisdom and results in a certain area of life.
These people will be able to teach you something, and you will feel small, ignorant, and maybe even worthless.
But you'll have a chance to learn something useful.
Instead people prefer spending time with ignorant people they can feel smarter than. This is one of the main reasons you can continue feeling a lot more valuable than you actually are.
In my article "democratic" says more about this...
One of my students in the 67 steps coaching decided to start listening to me. That was a huge step for him... This happened after a whole year of pretending that he did in fact listen to me.
As a result he observed his environment and found that his boss is one of those 20 years ahead of him guys.
I have been "harping" on this with my students: hear the principle first, and then hear the rest...
If I asked you (Cinderella) to separate the wheat from the chaff... what would you do first? If you are like me, you first find out what is the difference... in looks, in weight, and then start separating them accordingly.
I even used to use this capacity (oh, forgot to say, it's a capacity!) to hire or not hire someone to work with me. I would ask someone to separate a pile of things by their category...
For you Everything is the same as everything else ... except not always