Category: Spiritual Practice

Top Five Regrets of the Dying and how to beat them

Originally posted 2011-02-21 16:36:47.

Top Five Regrets of the Dying and how to beat them
  • 1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
  • 2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.
  • 3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
  • 4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
  • 5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

These are the top five regrets of the dying, and here is how to beat having these regrets, or any other

I have read articles about dying and I have read poems written by old-old people expressing their regrets. They are in death’s anteroom, and the view of their life and themselves is special from there: they are to the side and slightly elevated position from where they can both feel and see. Continue reading “Top Five Regrets of the Dying and how to beat them”

Reprogramming Your Mind For Peace, Happiness, Achievement, and More

Originally posted 2011-02-19 07:49:26.

reprogramming your mindReprogramming Your Mind

Huh? Reprogramming? For what? Why? How?

The biggest issues I encounter in my practice is the monkey mind. The noise. The morass. The voices you heed.

What am I talking about? I am talking about a busy mind, stuck in constant chatter, and unable to concentrate at the task at hand. Even to hear! When you are in this state, if you are like me, you are dreaming of reprogramming your mind.

Unless the task is a repetitive task, requiring no input from you, this may work, but if your input is required, especially if the input needs to be creative and complex, you are screwed! royally. Continue reading “Reprogramming Your Mind For Peace, Happiness, Achievement, and More”

The Wall, The Ladder, and Your Life’s Purpose

Originally posted 2010-12-11 10:25:59.

How do you get Guidance from The Soul?

Many people walk around with an immense amount of knowledge.

Yet, in their professional life, they jump from one thing to the other. They’re directionless because they zigzag.

They go to this direction and then they go to that direction and they go in the third direction and then they return to the first one, and on and on it goes. Continue reading “The Wall, The Ladder, and Your Life’s Purpose”

Starting something new, especially if you need the results

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Starting something new, especially if you need the results is an arduous process. Whether what you start is in health, wealth, love or fulfillment… the process is the same. Difficult.

Because the process requires several spiritual capacities, and abilities that most people don’t have.

I am going to assume that you already have some capacities…

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If I see you as beautiful… will you too?

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happy-babyIf I see you as beautiful… will you see yourself as beautiful?
If I see you as magnificent, great, awesome… will you see yourself like I do?

Muscletest and my experience says: no.

The most beautiful women spend hours in front of the mirror staring at their imperfections… trying to hide them.

There are also beautiful women who can say: so what. They are in search of some other imperfection.

We know ourselves intimately, and rare is the person who can leave it alone… who can refrain bemoaning their faults, and stop trying to fix themselves while keeping up appearances.
Continue reading “If I see you as beautiful… will you too?”

What else? Where else? A spiritual practice

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where-elseOne of my ‘favorite’ practices is this:

I find out that I misunderstood something. It cost me to miss something. It cost me to misunderstand. And it always does.

So instead of getting upset. Or angry. Or beat myself up. I do something constructive.

I expand my cone of vision. Continue reading “What else? Where else? A spiritual practice”

Authenticity is a matter of integrity on the highest level

lying-is-comfortableTrying to act like a Buddha won’t make you a Buddha.

I just finished a webinar… Before the webinar one of my students wrote an email to me wondering why I don’t lie to them before and during a webinar. Why I don’t say that it is going to be easy. That it is going to be piece of cake.

But it had taken me quite a bit of time and effort to learn that trying to act like a Buddha won’t make me a Buddha.

The vulnerability that honesty requires isn’t something everybody can handle. So lying allows people to be comfortable. Continue reading “Authenticity is a matter of integrity on the highest level”

Beyond the horizontal, beyond ambition, beyond desire…

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climbing jacob's ladderI am re-reading Atlas Shrugged.

When the first two times I read it, I knew it was very important. but an essential aspect was missing for me. An aspect I just got a week or so ago.

This aspect, the difference between ambition and desire, that goes, hand in hand, with the word pairs, producer vs second hander, vertical plane vs horizontal plane. Continue reading “Beyond the horizontal, beyond ambition, beyond desire…”

If you don’t manage yourself, someone, something else will

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manage-yourself-for changeSo I guess it is that time again… when the broken faced child comes out of the woodwork…

I use this expression ‘broken face child’ as if I expected you to know what I am talking about… You probably don’t.

So let me explain: When you were little, things happened to you that were beyond your comprehension. You had to make up some story,some interpretation of what was happening. It is normal.

The ‘normal’ story everyone makes up  is this: ‘There is something wrong here. Either with me, or with them, or with the world, that’s why this is happening.’

Most of us made up: ‘There is something wrong with me.’ Continue reading “If you don’t manage yourself, someone, something else will”

The Seven Boulders that you need to concquer

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When you decide on a new direction for your life, you suddenly find yourself with obstacles blocking you, even your view of the horizon, let alone your path.

Your reaction to it will be one of two kinds… in my experience. Continue reading “The Seven Boulders that you need to concquer”