There is a hidden monkey wrench in the title. Emotions are neither negative nor positive, but let's just forget that for a moment.
Depending on the answer to that question, you are either a happy, well-adjusted person, or a wretch.
Wow, Sophie, isn't that an exaggeration? The answer to just one question?
I understand your outrage, but yes. The answer to just one question will tell me what kind of person you are. As far as everything... by the way.
I used to be a person you didn't want around. I came from an abusive background, and spread it to others in spades. Misery loves company... lol not funny. 1
When suppressed, when denied, emotions go underground. What is unexpressed yearns to be expressed. It builds pressure and one way or another it will express itself. In self-abuse, in the abuse of others, or maybe even more violent ways. Continue reading "What about your negative emotions?"
Is negativity in the words, or somewhere where it is hidden from the speaker's point of view?
In Aldous Huxley's book, Brave New World, written 88 years ago, we see all the elements of humanity being a puppet, unable, unwilling, incapable to face reality today, in spite of the fact that natural birth is still the norm.
If you haven't read it, here are the salient points of the book: in the time the story plays out, natural birth was discouraged, although sex was rampant. Birth was in vitro... in tubes.
The embryos were brought up in five different conditions, creating castes, Alphas, Betas, Gammas, Deltas and Epsilons... if I remember correctly.
Alphas were individuals, Betas were clones, Gammas were hundreds from one egg, etc.
They were also fed differently: Alphas were fed nutrients, Betas: less nutrients, some poisons, and Gammas's mostly poisons that effected their brain only.
Here is one... what makes it stand out is the passion, and the using of sound effects... her own voice, really authentic... I really loved it.
But what makes it really my favorite, that my clients and students who have been in a quandary about who they are... are starting to see the importance of recognizing the pattern this TED talk introduces: how you make up a new identity that is wholly inauthentic to you.
I am on a roll... I will be watching, and posting if I find the TED talk useful.
Two things about this coming TED talk: the more views a talk has, the more the talker speaks the common man's language, beliefs, and stuff... words that are inaccurate.
Regardless, this is a good talk. Not excellent, but good, and worth your time.
I always check if my female students will relate to it... and if it is a yes, I'll post it.
Yesterday I found a quote that shook me to my core... So I want to start with that. You could say: that quote accurately expresses my attitude about life... and I am moved by that 1
It is 60% truth value, not because 40% of it is not true, but because it doesn't quite distinguish the path, doesn't look at the invisible dynamics of life it a way, that people can catch themselves as they make themselves miserable...
It is never circumstances, nor other people that make you miserable, it is your inability: lack of distinctions, to see exactly what creates your attitude and behavior.
You can't catch what you can't see! And lack of distinction is the cause of it.
Distinction is the ability to tell two things apart, even if and when they are very similar.
"The only thing worth writing about is the human heart in conflict with itself" said William Faulkner. I agree, even though the language, the vocabulary is imprecise.
The "heart" is one self, and the other self is the precious "I", the delusional "I", the lower self.
The conflict, the struggle to make those two selves align, as William Faulkner says, is worth writing about... because it is like a hero's journey.
I call it "soul correction" because I am firmly rooted in Kabbalah's view of life. But it is the same thing: bringing the two selves in harmony so they cause synergy that allows living a life worth writing about.
This morning, while I was measuring someone's starting point measurements, I wondered if there was another word for the desire measure. 1 And it is... drumroll: entitlement. The person feels entitled to get from nature, from the universe, from the world those things that are desired without having to earn it, work for it, barter for it, compete for it... just because they are themselves. Knowledge, love, respect, compliments, stuff, money... It is almost always the same number as the lack of humility number, how much you think of yourself as the center of the universe, as it's about you, take things personally.
The higher those two numbers are the less satisfying life becomes, because you always feel cheated.
Every young child thinks that the world, other people, their emotional state and response is centered around them.