Here is one... what makes it stand out is the passion, and the using of sound effects... her own voice, really authentic... I really loved it.
But what makes it really my favorite, that my clients and students who have been in a quandary about who they are... are starting to see the importance of recognizing the pattern this TED talk introduces: how you make up a new identity that is wholly inauthentic to you.
I am on a roll... I will be watching, and posting if I find the TED talk useful.
Two things about this coming TED talk: the more views a talk has, the more the talker speaks the common man's language, beliefs, and stuff... words that are inaccurate.
Regardless, this is a good talk. Not excellent, but good, and worth your time.
I always check if my female students will relate to it... and if it is a yes, I'll post it.
Yesterday I found a quote that shook me to my core... So I want to start with that. You could say: that quote accurately expresses my attitude about life... and I am moved by that
It is 60% truth value, not because 40% of it is not true, but because it doesn't quite distinguish the path, doesn't look at the invisible dynamics of life it a way, that people can catch themselves as they make themselves miserable...
It is never circumstances, nor other people that make you miserable, it is your inability: lack of distinctions, to see exactly what creates your attitude and behavior.
You can't catch what you can't see! And lack of distinction is the cause of it.
Distinction is the ability to tell two things apart, even if and when they are very similar.
"The only thing worth writing about is the human heart in conflict with itself" said William Faulkner. I agree, even though the language, the vocabulary is imprecise.
The "heart" is one self, and the other self is the precious "I", the delusional "I", the lower self.
The conflict, the struggle to make those two selves align, as William Faulkner says, is worth writing about... because it is like a hero's journey.
I call it "soul correction" because I am firmly rooted in Kabbalah's view of life. But it is the same thing: bringing the two selves in harmony so they cause synergy that allows living a life worth writing about.
This morning, while I was measuring someone's starting point measurements, I wondered if there was another word for the desire measure. And it is... drumroll: entitlement. The person feels entitled to get from nature, from the universe, from the world those things that are desired without having to earn it, work for it, barter for it, compete for it... just because they are themselves. Knowledge, love, respect, compliments, stuff, money... It is almost always the same number as the lack of humility number, how much you think of yourself as the center of the universe, as it's about you, take things personally.
The higher those two numbers are the less satisfying life becomes, because you always feel cheated.
Every young child thinks that the world, other people, their emotional state and response is centered around them.
We are judged all the time. Justly, unjustly, the feeling of being judged is familiar to all of us... and some of us is bothered and paralyzed by it more than others.
What's painful in being judged is that the judgment contains a kernel of truth (or more) and the other part is the judging themselves: in judging they place themselves above us... simply unbearable to the sensitive Precious "I".
This story is about my very recent "bout" with being judged... and shows what is on the other side of judgment... how to free yourself from it so it doesn't sting quite that much... maybe not even at all.