Yesterday, still recovering from my strenuous weekend, lol, I watched TED talks for a few hours, all on Emotional Intelligence.
They were all profound, and nice, and useful... and yet.
Emotional intelligence, measurable in percentages, is the ability to be appropriate to life, to dance, to get stuff done, to rest when it is time to rest, and work when it is time to work, and to love, and appreciate, and say what you need to say, when it is appropriate.
To look at things from more than just one fixed point of view, to be able to empathize, have compassion, express instead of stuff it...
You see why emotionally intelligent people get ahead in life... they are easy to be around because they are OK with themselves.
What people, psychologists, writers, etc. teach is surface.
About 50% of humanity believes that positive thinking is what is going to bring home the bacon, suppressing negative thought, negative desires. I saw a video yesterday that even the Dalai Lama's talk is interpreted as positive thinking...
He says: a small positive thought in the morning can set your whole day on a positive spin.
What he doesn't say is that the kind of positive thoughts people have aren't the kind that create a positive spin... au contraire... Just the opposite: They turn your day into sh*t.
I once had a client who lived and still lives in the small upstate New York town where I live... Syracuse NY.
If you are in business... or even if you are only selling your time/work at a job or freelancing, pricing your merchandise, friendship, advice, companionship, your time, your service is going to be something worth looking at.
A few decades ago I published a magazine. The magazine was free, the income came from advertising.
A girl whom I knew from before, who worked at the same architect's office I worked, called me and asked if she could trade cleaning my office for advertising. Turns out she was turning tricks...
She came to the office, worked for an hour and expected it to cover the price of a quarter page ad, $200 at the time.
Emotional Intelligence is a buzz word, an expression, that no one explains, and yet, everyone pretends that they know what they are talking about.
No such THING as emotional intelligence... it is made up.
And yet: some people maneuver life better than others, have less upsets, upheavals, self-hate, than others.
They take obstacles differently than others. They are OK with themselves, and they don't worry about what other people think about them. They are not attention, approval, drama seekers. They just do what they do... and let others do what others do.
In my flagship course, 1 some people are in a hurry to get through...
How you do anything is how you do everything... they are in a hurry to get through life to get to the good stuff.
They are missing life, they are missing the partner call and benefits it can give them: getting present to the invisible.
What is invisible for you now becomes visible when you slow down.
Unfortunately to all of us, today's lifestyle with the movies that have quick cuts, with social media, with fast cars, slowing down feels counter intuitive, so we take pride in being fast... and faster.
As I was muscle testing the Bach Profiles for my students, I ran into a snag: the "no matter what I do" attitude/feeling doesn't have a matching Bach energy... yet.
Source "says", no such flower. So I'll break tradition, and I'll call it what it is, "no matter what I do"
Now, that statement is, of course, a lie.
Why would anyone lie about that? It is because they don't want to do what they claim they are doing... Do the work. In that regard it is similar to the "being imposed on" feeling, but it is really a strategy to avoid giving... giving anything. So what is underneath is stingy. And a big "f... you"